Hey guys,
have you ever been courting a girl
or even dating a girl
or even had dated a girl
and now she's maybe your ex
and you weren't sure if she was
stringing you along.
If she was even interested
So, one of the things
to look for
is if she
is being vague about her life
and her whereabouts
and her day-to-day activities
or if she's being open and descriptive
about what she's doing.
So, sometimes a woman
can be
somewhat private,
but if she's never revealing anything
about what her life looks like
then she might just be
stringing you along
or playing you.
So, if she is interested in you
she'll want to share
details about her life
because she'll want to know
if your life and her life
are somewhat compatible
and where you have
commonalities.
Another thing to watch for
is whether or not
she asks about you
and remembers
the little things about you.
So, if she's only ever talking about herself
and she never asks anything
about what's happening in your life
or anything about your history, your past,
or your likes or desires.
And she's only ever talking about herself
then she just may want
someone who will give her attention.
If she however,
asks about your life
and even more importantly
remembers things
that you've said in the past
or texted or whatever
then that could be a sign
that she is interested in you.
Another thing to watch for
is how she feels about labels.
Now, of course you never want to
get to labeling a relationship too early
because that will come across as needy.
But if you've been
hanging out together for any length of time.
You've been getting together in person
and things have been going well.
If she's avoiding
talking about labeling the relationship
and it seems like it might be a good time
to start doing that
then she might be just stringing you along
and she might be actually even seeing other guys.
On the other hand,
if she does want to
talk about relationship
or she hints around about it
or even asks your opinion about labels.
Then she might be
more interested in seeing you
because a woman who is not interested in labels
will definitely not bring up the topic.
Number four,
she takes a long time
to reply to your messages
or she
often won't even reply your messages
unless you've messaged again.
So, if she's done that
then she's probably doesn't have
a high level of interest in you.
Whereas, if she's
for example interested,
but maybe just busy
she will reply back saying
look I'm just really busy right now
can we chat tonight
or I'm super busy this week.
Giving you an explanation of why
so that you'll understand why she's
been busier or less available,
but trying to connect with you
or create a time to connect with you in the future
so that you know
that she is
still actually interested in you.
Number five,
another red flag to watch for
is if she's only showing up
when she's feeling desperate
or needy or in trouble.
So, she gets to come to you
to be her hero or her sounding board
or her
emotional tampon
when she
feels needy
and needs someone to lean on,
but she doesn't show up any other time
or when she does show up
she doesn't actually bring
her wins with her at all.
So, even if this is just a sign of someone
who never has any wins in her own life.
That's a red flag in and of itself
as a subtotal side note,
but if
she does show up
when she's winning in life.
Or when she does show up
to ask for your advice
she thanks you for it and she actually takes action
to do something to improve the situation
and then thanks you for it afterwards
and tells you
how it turned out
then that's a sign that she might be
interested in you.
So, that's another thing to watch for.
She's only showing up
when she needs
someone to lean on
then that's not a good sign
and you want to avoid that.
Number six,
she uses you for your body.
I know it's a terrible thing isn't it
to have a woman use you for your body?
But actually if you're actually interested in a relationship
then this is a red flag.
So, the difference between
if she's stringing you along or playing you
or if she's interested in a relationship
is does she spend any time
with you outside of sex?
If she just wants to
get down and dirty
and then you to get the heck out,
then that's a sign
that she's just playing with you
she's just using you for sex
and she probably has other guys
she's doing that with too.
But if she's genuinely interested in you
she'll want you to hang out.
She'll want to cuddle maybe afterwards
and have you know
some conversations
and spend time with you.
Intimate time with you
not just for sex.
So, number seven
is a little bit of a tricky one
because it depends a little bit
on how
emotionally mature
and secure
the girl is or the woman.
So, number seven is
if she's playing you
or stringing you along
she'll show up more often
if she knows that there's competition
because she just wants to win.
So, that's when she's going to show up
and start flirting with you
or maybe start asking you to hang out
because she knows you're seeing other girls
or you told her you're going on other dates.
Whereas if she's genuinely interested in you
and she's emotionally mature,
she will want you
to actually see other girls,
but she will also let you know
that she'd like to be the one chosen.
That she actually likes you
and she hopes that
she can have a relationship with you
or have something more permanent
or long-term
or at least test those
waters before deciding.
So, she will
definitely be mature about it
and let you know
that she would prefer to be
the one that you see exclusively.
If you got to that stage
in the relationship.
But if you're seeing other girls
and that's the only time that she shows up
then she might be just
trying to get back with you
to validate her ego
and get your attention
from the other girls.
Again that's a big red flag
because that just shows
a huge sign of insecurity
so be careful with that one.
Number eight,
your friends keep telling you
that she's playing you.
So, if your friends are constantly telling you
given the details that you've shared with them
that she is playing you
or she's stringing you along
then they're probably right.
However, if your friends are kind of on her side
and are basically telling you that
you're the one that's kind of acting a bit needy,
which you might be
and that they agree with her actions
then it might be
something that you need to kind of look at
in yourself.
Are you acting too needy?
That's a major turn off to women
so you definitely don't want to be
acting too needy.
And well, actually you don't want to act needy at all.
So, if your friends are supportive of you
then they might be right
and if your friends are actually supportive of her
then they might be right.
So, watch for that one as well.
Number nine,
if she's hot and cold.
So, she's there with like huge intensity
for a while
and then she just
totally disappears off the grid
and doesn't answer you for days
or sometimes even weeks
that's a sign that she's either playing you
or not interested in you.
But if she
shows up consistently
either in communication
and preferably in person
then that's a good sign
that she is interested.
I'm going to get into
what to look for if she's just busy
so I'll share that at the end.
So, stay tuned for that.
Number ten,
now this one's a major.
So,
does she hide you
from her life?
And what I mean by that is,
is she
never going out in public with you
or going out to places
where no one's that she knows
is going to see her?
Is she trying to
keep you in the shadows
so that other people in her life
don't know that you exist?
That could be a sign
that she's either playing you
or not really that interested.
Versus of course,
if she tries to include you in her life
Whether by coming up with her friends
or meeting her friends
or meeting her family
or doing things where
she definitely knows that
she might run into people that she knows.
That's definitely a good sign
that she is
proud to be with you
and might see
a future with you
even if it's not a long term.
We can't determine this at this point in time,
but she sees you
down the road with her.
Number 11,
so if she
talks about her future
and she always refers to
only herself in it.
Like I'm planning on
doing this thing next summer
or I'm doing this at Christmas
or it's only ever about
what she's doing
and you're never included in those plans,
then she could be stringing you along
or she could be playing you
or it just not that interested.
However, if subtly
she mentions things down the road
where it could be a we.
Hey, you know we should do this road trip
or hey, would you like to go to this concert
or there's a concert coming up
in a couple months.
Is that a band that you like?
It's things like that so when she's actually
thinking of you and visualizing you
doing things with her in the future
then of course, that's a good sign
that she is interested in having you in her future.
She will
communicate this with you
in the way she talks about things
in her future.
So, watch for that.
And number 12,
and probably the most important one
is does she
avoid making plans with you
or does she cancel plans with you
without rescheduling and actually showing up.
So, if she doesn't
actually make the time
to see you in person
then she
is not that
interested in you
because whenever we're really interested in someone
then we will actually make time for them
and that's of course the sign to look for.
If she's making time
to be with you
or rescheduling other people to be with you.
That's a very good sign that she is actually interested in you.
If she's rescheduling time with you
to be with other people
then she's not
that interested in you.
So, that is
the most important thing
to look for.
Now, I did mention
that there are two things.
I mentioned that
we're going to talk about
what happens if she's busy.
The main thing
when a woman is actually
legitimately busy in her life,
which can happen if she's
working and going to school.
Where she's older if she's got
a job and kids
and who knows what.
Then she will still
make an effort
to reschedule
somewhere in her life to see you.
She will make it... She will inconvenience herself
to make sure that she can spend time with you
in person
particularly
or at the very least
by Face time or
in some kind of phone conversation
with a future intention
of getting together in person.
So, she will be very, very clear
and upfront with you
about the details of her schedule
to try and figure out
when she can fit it in
to fit it in.
I can't get through one whole video
without making an innuendo,
I'm sorry.
Anyways, so she will try to fit you in
somewhere in her world
and she will make plans with you
to try and make that happen.
At the very least, she'll want to
talk with you or face time with you
and you will have no doubt
that she's at least trying
to make it into your world
or get you into her world.
And even if...
There's another thing too, red flag.
Is if she is really
legitimately too busy
for you
that means she's too busy
to have a relationship.
And you need to be
asking yourself
if you
want to have a relationship
with a person who is too busy for you.
What does her schedule look like
as far as the next six months goes,
three years goes?
Is this what your relationship with her
is going to be like if you're actually together?
So, that's something to really pay attention to
because if she's legitimately interested in you,
but too busy
for a healthy relationship
and can't spend time with you.
Is that really going to be okay for you?
Don't go for potential.
You can't go for...
Somewhere down the road
this may change.
All you can look at
is what the evidence shows
on her plate and her...
On her calendar right now.
So, if she never going to have the time for you
even though she might be interested,
you need to be out there looking for someone else
who can actually spend
as much time with you as you would like
to spend with them.
And then the other thing that
I promised
was about how to handle this.
So, no matter what.
If she's playing you
or if she's just not interested.
You're going to handle it the same way
as you would handle
basically how to get your ex back.
And I'll put that video
at the end of this one
and you should really watch it too.
Is basically
a lot of the same principles
and you're going to wait for her to come to you.
You need to encourage her
every time she actually
comes to you with a message or let's get together
then you make plans
and you don't extend conversation
until you've seen each other in person.
So, you really want to keep
text messages
and face times.
You don't want to make long conversation
you want to make plans to get together
as soon as you can
and then really leave it at that.
Texting is for information
and making plans
not for conversation.
Information not conversation.
Get together in person
more so than
communicating via
text message or IM or things like that
at least in the beginning.
So, basically always leave her wanting more
Have her come to you,
but always be welcoming,
teasing, flirty,
and get her to get together.
Like, try to make plans.
Nail down the plans to get together
that's essentially what you're going to do.
And if she doesn't
don't chase her, let her always come to you.
And if she does come to you
then you have a quick conversation
and then try to nail down the plans.
And then stop communicating
because you have to leave them wanting more.
If you over communicate
by text
things get stale very quickly
even if
there's actually potential for something more.
Some of these
you only need the one sign
to know that she's not interested for sure.
Some of these, maybe you need
three of the signs,
but definitely
any more than three of these signs
if they're active in your life with her right now
she's not interested and you need to bail dude.
Okay, like, share, subscribe,
and
watch this next video
on the seven principles
to getting your ex back.
Okay, thanks.
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