the most important NLP model is probably the most overlooked
NLP model in this video I'm going to show you why the NLP meta model is so
important and how you can use it keep watching this is life mastery gym I'm
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the foundation of NLP and you will use NLP so much more effectively
I've studied the mental model for years and it finally clicked and when it did
it changed everything and that's what I'm going to share with you in this
video the metamodel put the l/r the linguistic in noir linguistic
programming it's would put the L in NLP now before we go deeper into this I'm
curious about you do you know or did you know that the metamodel was the first
NLP model let me know yes or no in the comments down below in this video I'm
not going to go into each language pattern of the metamodel at the end of
this video I will show you where you can get a free pdf on the several language
patterns in the metamodel but for this discussion I'm going to explain what
most people don't go into when they teach the metamodel and that's the three
concepts that the meta model is based on and that is deletion distortion and
generalization and it also happens to be that those three concepts deletion
distortion and general generalization are the foundations of all NLP for
something to be a NLP technique or an NLP process it means that it is based on
one or two or all three of those concepts of deletion distortion
generalization in general all NLP models will have all three of those so what's
important about these concepts and what do these concepts actually mean so a
deletion is when we think about all of the information that is coming at us
every single moment there is tons of information that we're taking in from
our five senses but notice that we're only aware of actually a very small part
and we can call this consciousness so consciously we have to delete a lot of
information so that we can focus on the information that we find that is
necessary the information that we feel has some bearing on our existence or
maybe the things that we want to do in the moment or whatever's important to us
everything else gets deleted no we're still absorbing this information and
that's why we have an unconscious this information still comes in and is
processed somehow but consciously we're deleting a lot of this information out
and this is absolutely necessary we have to do this to be able to make any sort
of decision because if we didn't we would be dealing with so much
information all the time it would be almost impossible to make a decision
about anything so we're able to delete information now well as I go through
these concepts what I want you to also remember too is that these are not bad
things they're not bad or good they're neutral a deletion is absolutely
necessary so I don't want you to be thinking about these concepts as
something you should or should not do where do we do them we're going to do
them anyway and it what's important is that yes they cause problems when we
delete the wrong information or they can solve problems whenever we bring
information that was deleted back into consciousness and you're gonna find this
through all three of the concepts of deletion distortion and generalization
that we do this no matter what so there's no point in resisting doing it
but it can solve problems and it can create problems so I'll get it I'll go
deeper into this as we go forward Distortion
when we think of a distortion this is when we're sort of making things up when
can imagine something that has not happened we can imagine the future even
though it has not happened and not only that we can imagine things that don't
even exist we can imagine things like unicorns and purple elephants and all
these fantastical things and this is where we get fiction from so we're not
bound by all logic and everything and by what everything is like absolutely real
and tangible we can imagine outside of that and this is what we would call a
distortion now a generalization is when we take old information and related to
new information so if I'm learning something that's new
I can relate it to something that I already know which makes it a lot easier
to understand so an analogy might be a way of describing a generalization and
another way of giving you an example of a generalization is when I'm a child and
I touch a hot stove when next time I see a stove I can generalize that
information over to the stove that's in my presence now even though it's not the
same one and say okay I've touched one of these before and it was hot so this
one might be hot as well so this is me generalizing that information over to a
new experience or to a new stove you can go much much deeper with this when you
start thinking about what is our reality you will not ever experience reality
directly because of these three concepts of deletion generalization and
Distortion so we have so much information that's
coming out at us at one time and we can call that objective reality but it's
also passing through our five senses it's also being interpreted it's being
deleted generalized and distorted okay these are very very necessary processes
like I said because we cannot absorb all of the information that's coming at us
at once and consciously use it and make decisions and do things that we have to
do what happens as a result of that is we operate from what we call a map of
reality we don't operate from reality itself we operate from our map of
reality and if you think about it like this - is when like when you're
navigating when you're finding a location you have not been to before
you're using a map or you're using a GPS when you're in it and you're like trying
to find it you don't have that bird's-eye view and that's why a map is
so helpful because it gives you that bird's-eye view and then you can sort of
help yourself navigate it and that's why we say an NLP that the map is not the
territory the territory is not a map so we create a map of reality it's a
pocket-size if you will shortened version that is easier to use
and it helps us navigate the world around us okay and that map is built on
the concepts of deleting generalizing and distorting if you think about an
actual map versus the territory well that map is going to have to has to
delete some information out you can't put everything in it if you did then it
would the map itself would become the territory and then with distortion well
a map isn't really real and they draw cartoon trees on it or cartoon roads on
or whatever it is that sort of shows you how the map relates to reality and then
generalization you're basically generalizing that information over to
the map so a map is a good analogy for what we use to navigate reality and how
that map is created how its transformed from reality reality to the map or those
three concepts of deletion generalization and distortion the meta
model is amazing because what the meta model is it's the language version of
that what the founders of NLP discovered was that you can notice either your own
limitations of your own map of reality through your language patterns or you
can notice it in other people if you're a coach or you're a therapist or even a
salesperson what the the metamodel did was it identified 14 patterns that let
you know when that person has bumped up against one of those limitations so for
example a modal operator is one of the language patterns in the metamodel it's
one of the most important ones because it clearly lets you know when you're
either bumping up against one of your limitations in your map or someone else
whenever you hear their language so they might say things like I have to I need
to I should all of these words need have to should these are all words that that
let you know that this is a moto operator and so what do you do with that
well so first of all you're with what that lets you know is that this is a
limitation it doesn't mean that reality is limited it means that your map is
limited so what you need to do is you need to see beyond the limitation you
need to access information beyond the limitation so you can counter that
language pattern if somebody says well I really need to go and do this you could
say well what would it be like if you didn't so it gets the person to consider
options and choices outside of that limitation which forces a person to go
in and find this information in order for that person to understand what it is
to understand the question and answer it they have to dive into this deeper
information that they had deleted out and they have to go in and get it
another language pattern is a universal quantifier and this you'll hear whenever
it's it's basically calling your attention to absolutes when either
you're thinking in absolutes or someone else is speaking in absolutes and they
say you know all men are this way or all women are that way or this always
happens to me well but of course that's not true it can never be true but if
you're caught in that limitation you're thinking that way then you would want to
counter it but by thinking to yourself or challenging it by saying is it always
is it absolutely always that way and then you start finding the counter
examples to it so again this enriches your map of your reality instead of
being stuck in limitation by noticing it showing up in your language you counter
it and then by countering it you enrich the map with more resources and more
choices so to summarize the metamodel is a set of language patterns that
expresses Distortion generalization and deletion especially when it limits you
so when you learn these patterns then you will learn to you'll learn whenever
you're stuck in limitation and how that's happening and language is the
code for how we think you know you could say things like well I do
said that I don't really mean it or I didn't I just said that I don't think it
you might want to back that up and take a look because your language is often
the signal is what is telling you how you're thinking about something or how
someone else is thinking about something so by learning these language patterns
you can expose these limitations and then find ways to challenge them in
order to enrich your map of reality and like I said deletion in general deletion
generalization and distortion is found in every true NLP model our true NLP
technique that is the foundation of NLP so when you really learn this model
which was the first model ever created it was created before NLP even had a
name when you really go deep with this model and learn how to use it
this will set you up to make anything you learn in NLP so much more effective
because you're learning these concepts of deletion generalization and
distortion when you really understand those concepts and you go really deep
with those then NLP becomes so much easier to understand and use effectively
so now you know the foundation of the meta model and not just the foundation
of the meta model but the foundation of NLP itself but what you don't know or
the metamodel language patterns which is why I've created a free pdf that you can
have it's you just go down to the link in the description below click on that
link or we're also put in the link and the comment append comment right there
just click on that link and you can get access to the free PDF of the language
patterns and you can start learning them right away immediately so what are you
gonna do now are you going to learn the metamodel like I said it's one of the
most overlooks models because it doesn't look sexy or fancy in the beginning is
just words and so some people most people most NLP students will completely
overlook it and jump to new to whatever other model looks exciting and that's
one of the biggest mistakes you can make in your
in training I suggest everybody learned the NLP metamodel first so what are you
going to do it let me know in the comments below by typing yes or no or
let me know what your your plan is for learning NLP and while you're down there
you may want to get a copy of that free pdf in fact I don't say you may you
absolutely should moto operator should get a copy of that
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