in this video you will learn five tips that make 99.9 percent of all men fall
in love 5 powerful tips based on solid psychological science that you can use
today to make your guy fall in love with you and these tips work because they are
focused on replicating the changes in brain chemistry that happen to all men
when they are in love so if you want to make a man fall in love with you then
this is the video for you don't go anywhere because we're starting right
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hi everyone I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello and I'm a psychologist and a relationship
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to our topic the five tips that make 99.9% of men fall in love usually
falling in love is something that happens to us not something that we make
happen by an act of will I mean sometimes we fall in love when we least
expected or wanted however there are things that you could be doing that
could kind of kickstart and facilitate the process of falling in love and those
things are all based on triggering the same physiological systems and the same
powerful neurotransmitters that are present during the attraction phase the
infatuation phase and the attachment phase of passionate love so without
further ado let's just jump right into them number one the attraction phase get
his dopamine flowing dopamine is a neurotransmitter released by the brain
that plays a number of roles in humans and other animals but the important
functions that we are concerned with here are dopamine's effects on
pleasurable rewards behavior and cognition attention and mood let me give
you some examples that explain dopamine's role in attraction when you
see a person that you're attracted to your dopamine levels instantly increase
because you've detected something desirable in your environment so you
become instantly focused and excited well guess what happens if you're able
to artificially provoke an increase in your level of dopamine in the presence
of another person yes you become more attractive and start to enjoy and desire
that person as a result so how do you provoke your brain to release dopamine
well as it turns out engaging in challenging and novel activities affects
the brain in much the same way that drugs do that is they trigger your brain
to release the neurotransmitter dopamine and when that happens you associate
those great feelings to the people that you are with here are some examples that
you might recognize people who are in challenging academic programs together
they are facing the same and challenging experiences and often
they grow very fond of one another quickly they feel like they have a super
special bond or they feel that they know each other much longer
now that's dopamine working its magic another example people taking dance
lessons together and ending up having an intense affair yes that's also dopamine
so finding ways of engaging your man in novel challenging and exciting
experiences will cause you both to have elevated dopamine levels and you'll feel
closer and more attracted as a result so try out a new hobby together
preferably it's something that is challenging or requires him to learn new
skills or to push himself for example perhaps you are into yoga or pilates but
the guy that you like has never tried it so invite him to come along or take
dance lessons together or invite him to experience different types of foods with
you or experiment with learning to cook new dishes together again we want to be
doing something challenging and novel together remember these three words
novel challenging and exciting activities all of these new adventures
will cause a surge in dopamine that will be associated with you and that's a
great thing now the second tip in the attraction phase is number two get his
adrenaline pumping you know that feeling you get when you're really attracted to
someone or when you really like someone some people call it the butterflies it's
that nervous excitement the jittery stomach a racing heart and an inability
to focus on anything but that person it's an amazing feeling but what's
happening on the inside of your body well when you're attracted to someone
your body is releasing a cascade of neurotransmitters particularly
norepinephrine also called adrenaline just as it does during the
fight-or-flight response chemically it's the same response if you
fear for your life your body prepares you to fight or to run away by releasing
adrenaline and adrenaline causes an increased heart rate focused attention
and sweaty palms it's that same wide-eyed electricity in
your veins feeling that you get when you have the butterflies so what do you
think happens if you're able to artificially trigger the fight-or-flight
response by engaging in some adrenaline producing activities with the person you
like well the arousal he feels can get transferred to you and the level of
attraction he feels towards you increases in other words when you
trigger your fight-or-flight response by engaging in thrilling activities
together your adrenaline increases his adrenaline increases your heart races
his heart races your palms get sweaty and all of those feelings cause what is
known as a misattribution of attraction the adrenaline hi you both experienced
it's associated with the other person and your feelings of attraction and
excitement about your partner increases as a result do a search and look it up
this is a phenomenon that has been widely studied just do a Google search
for arousal and attraction or misattribution of attraction and you
will find the many studies that support what I'm saying so how can you apply
this to be more attractive to your man well find opportunities to engage in
adrenaline provoking experiences with him go to an amusement park and ride a
roller coaster together go bungee jumping together or skydiving or wall
climbing you can even watch scary thrillers together all of these things
will provoke your body to release adrenaline and when that happens your
level of attraction for one another goes through the roof it's like fooling your
brain that the arousal produced by this activity is really due to your
attraction for the other person and this helps to perk up the passion try it I
promise you you'll be amazed at how effective this is number three the
infatuation phase and the look of love during the infatuation phase the
neurotransmitter phenylethylamine or peña increases peña is a natural and fat
Amin produced by the brain and high levels of this neurotransmitter help
promote feelings of attraction excitement giddiness and apprehension so
it makes sense that if you're able to raise a man's level of PA in your
presence he's more likely to become infatuated with you now as it turns out
PDA levels can be increased by certain psychoactive drugs and maybe by eating
large amounts of chocolate too the chocolate part is still up for debate
but you can always try it just make sure it's dark chocolate with the highest
percentage of cocoa that you can find and cocoa is also the name of my kids
dog
however there's another surefire way to stimulate PDA and that is by prolonged
eye contact that's because prolonged eye contact is
a powerful stimulator of affection and specifically PA I've talked about this
in other videos and you can look up studies about prolonged eye contact but
what you need to do is deliberately spend time gazing into his eyes this
isn't going to be difficult to do you can even make a game out of it just
remember deliberate close eye contact for five minutes
try this it's crazy how effective it is closed deliberate sustained eye contact
for five minutes it will kick-start his production of PA so far we've covered
the attraction and infatuation phases of passionate love keep watching because
now we're going to talk about the most important part the attachment phase and
oxytocin oxytocin is a very powerful neurotransmitter that is used to form
the attachment in both children and adults oxytocin is the hormone that
facilitates bonding between romantic partners and the most exciting part when
oxytocin is released the positive bonding and attachment effects are
profound high levels of oxytocin is associated with feelings of love sexual
desire and bonding among romantic couples and it's the hormone responsible
for the rose-colored glasses that make your partner seem so perfect when you're
falling in love and oxytocin prevents you from becoming close to other
potential mates and helping to maintain fidelity and the best news there are
things that you can do to trigger the release of oxytocin in your man and
facilitate and strengthen the attachment between the both of you fortunately most
of these tips are simple and even pleasurable so they are easily adapted
into your life so start with physical touch the best way to stimulate his
oxytocin production is through physical touch and specifically number four give
him a massage massage is one of the best ways to get oxytocin flowing into the
body in fact massage benefits both the person
giving the massage as well as a person receiving the massage both shall
increase levels of oxytocin and you don't need to be a professional at it
but simply spend fifteen to twenty minutes massaging your partner and you
will both experience an increase feeling of clothespin and attachment and
many studies have shown the effectiveness of massage and helping to
reduce everyday stress enhance the immune system and generally making
people feel more healthy and relaxed and many of these benefits are directly
related to the oxytocin release that is associated with massage and physical
touch so make it a point to give him a massage it really works
number-5 physical intimacy and waiting on sex it has been well established that
physical intimacy and sex causes both men and women to release oxytocin and as
such they are both more likely to develop a bond and become attached for
both men and women oxytocin is released due to the physical touch and closeness
involved in sex oxytocin is released when gazing into each other's eyes and
oxytocin is released when hugging and kissing however there are some very
important differences between how and web oxytocin is released in men and
women and here's where things get interesting women produce more of this
hormone and in particular a surge of oxytocin is released when a woman has an
orgasm now on the other hand when a man has an orgasm the main hormone released
is dopamine so instead of getting a surge of bonding and wanting to cuddle
more men receive a surge of simple pleasure so if you want to take
advantage of triggering oxytocin in your man try to hold off on the sex and focus
on the foreplay the more hugging and kissing and gazing into each other's
eyes the more oxytocin that is going to be released make a deliberate attempt to
hold off on the sex as long as you can and engage instead in other foreplay and
lengthen your lovemaking session to include as much physical contact hugging
kissing and gazing into each other's eyes as possible so I really want to
know how many of you have tried these tips please leave a comment and share
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