oh boy alright so I just uploaded a different Elle Mills video and then some
stuff went down on Twitter involving I Naboo and Elle Mills and there's going
to be some topics that we need to discuss about bullying as well as
setting boundaries what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired so where
we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my
channel my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull
different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to
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tonight it will be uploaded on all podcast platforms tomorrow but it's with
my buddy Matt he actually is the one who did my last Elle Mills video that I
uploaded a little bit earlier so go subscribe to that we are doing the first
episode tonight and we're actually going to be diving more into the topic of Elle
Mills mental health youtuber burnout and yeah it's gonna get a little crazy
alright so make sure you subscribe so here's a little story about what
happened so when I uploaded the last video after I do that since the YouTube
notification system isn't always working for everybody I take advantage of social
media so I use Instagram Twitter on our discord and our Facebook groups I let
everybody know so by the way follow me on Instagram and Twitter if you're not
yet because that way you know when new videos go up and you get to talk with me
and all sorts of stuff well anyways I was going down there and I was like I'm
not following Elle Mills cuz I was gonna tag her in my
tweet about it and because Matt did a phenomenal job with that video like
please go check it out it'll be linked up in the info card so anyways I go to
Elle Mills Twitter and I see this and I'm like okay am I
like what's happening like why can't I load Elle Mills page so then I go up in
the search and I start typing in Elle Mills and you know how like Twitter will
just like start suggesting kind of like Google does and it said L Mills and then
the next suggestive one was Elle Mills hate I'm like what the heck is happening
right now so I'm so scrolling through trying to
figure out what's going on I started seeing a lot of people saying that L
Mills is being bullied it's people saying that you know she was bullied off
of Twitter and I'm like what's going on I see some mention of a tattoo and I
don't really know what's going on then I see I never said something about it so
I'm like okay and I keep going I keep going and then I see this tweet right
here from my neighbor and he basically said this about Elle Mills tattoo so
yeah Elle Mills got a tattoo in Comic Sans that says tattoo all right so I
never tweeted out making a joke but you know a bunch of people on the internet
went in on Elle mills which led to her deleting her Twitter and I'm gonna save
some of my comments and things like that for our podcast tonight but I do want to
talk about a few different subjects we're involving bullying and setting
boundaries and all that so L Mills as we all know she's been on this mental
health journey since last year and you know she's been doing like this kind of
world tour of talking about the importance of mental health and burnout
and all of this and I've made comments about this on Elle Mills as well as many
other creators where it's like get therapy so one of the things that is
fascinating to me is Elle Mills has made videos with Kati Morton and one of her
last videos with Kati Morton was about Elle Mills weight loss journey right
awesome weight loss is amazing I actually went to the gym this morning
get a couple miles on that treadmill you know what I'm saying listen to my audio
book so I get it physical health very important but what we're seeing and one
of the reasons I have this channel to get through to all of you physical
health is important yes but we need to focus on our mental health as well
because is what we're seeing with somebody like
Elle Mills is that it is very apparent that she is putting more time effort and
energy into her physical health rather than her mental health ok we need to
recognize this there there is a balance that comes along I get a lot of comments
and things like that saying like physical health physical health physical
health all these other things and it's like yes like working on your mental
health does not mean that you shouldn't work on your physical health ok
like we are we we have this weird kind of idea that doing this takes away from
that and it's not always the thing like when it comes to mental health as a
whole or life as a whole balance is the key word balancing everything how much
you're working how much you're putting into your mental health how much you
were putting into your physical health all these things are balance so now did
I never bully her I don't I don't think so like the thing is we need to
recognize that you know people people make jokes people make fun and stuff and
like some people can't handle it you know what I mean but if you're very
sensitive Twitter is not the place to be you know in fact being a youtuber is not
the place to be something that I'm learning as my channel begins to grow
like I'm gaining even more self-awareness some of you have seen the
collaborations I've been doing I'm trying to grow as a person as well
and something I was actually just talking to my beautiful girlfriend
Tristan about was like I put myself in this position okay and that's something
I've talked about over and over and over with other youtubers it's like we need
to take responsibility for the position that we put ourselves in now Elle Mills
is younger okay so but we all need to realize that like I told you one of the
quotes I remember from a recent book I read was increased levels means
increased Devils right so like the the more we move up the more stress we're
gonna get like a lot of people want the promotion they want to be the business
owner they wanna you know be their own boss and all that they think it's all
easy peasy but with all that comes new stresses
so I mentioned this the other day in a video when I was talking about Demi
Lovato and it's about expectations right like I'm reading a lot of the things on
Twitter like man Twitter is just like this crazy place like I just recently
got into Twitter and whoo-hoo-hoo it is crazy
anyways like we need to look at our expectations of what Twitter is like I
saw a lot of people saying like y'all need to quit bullying y'all need to quit
bullying right like do you really think that your tweet is gonna just change
somebody's whole perception you know what I mean I I kind of like look at it
like um like honking your horn at somebody right like there's some people
who are just honk happy but like we need to recognize like do I really need to
honk like was this like did my honk just completely change the way this person
drives forever or did I just exert some energy that I didn't need to while also
annoying all the other drivers around me right so how much is your tweet actually
doing doing this right but I always say I preach that it's a lot easier for us
to fix us than it is to fix the rest of the world right so we need to look at
our expectations like if you ever expect if you ever envision this beautiful day
in which nobody on Twitter is gonna say something terrible or be a dick you are
setting yourself up for failure for some people that is entirely what Twitter was
designed for for them just spout off they're rude or ignorant opinions that
is just what it is okay so lower your expectations of Twitter and social media
as a whole people have more anonymity they're more likely to say things that
they would never say to somebody's face this is what's going to happen alright
and again we're gonna dive more into the topic of Elle Mills and this tattoo but
briefly I'll touch on it just to give you a sneak peak like Elle Mills getting
that tattoo like I wonder what her thought process was or what she expected
again going back to expectations what did she expect when she posted that did
she think that nothing she wasn't gonna get anything but love and support for
that tattoo like she kind of did and my you know I'm guessing in a joking
way you know like I don't really know but the next thing the last thing we're
gonna talk about is boundaries for a long long long long long long long time
I've been a big believer in don't quit social media all right deal with it it
helps strength your resiliency and stuff like that but something I'm learning as
I begin to grow in the public eye is that we need to set up boundaries and
sometimes we need to do things to ourselves like just get off Twitter
because we don't trust ourselves right like Elle Mills or you even might not be
in a place where you can take the crappy people on Twitter so you just got to get
off of it right so Elle Mills might have made the right
decision by doing that you might make the right decision like a lot of people
I know who watch my videos you aren't on Twitter you want to an Instagram you
aren't on Facebook well but what we need to think about especially in the world
we live in today social media connects us with people
that we never would have been able to connect with before you know what I'm
saying like we're able to make new friends were able to have more support
like a lot of my DMS on Twitter or with my support group other Creators talking
with them about some of the struggles some of the headaches and stuff like
that that's where my support group is so Elle Mills is kind of like putting a
barrier between herself and the support group I'm sure she has a bunch of their
phone numbers but we need to we need to look at this so this is why we should
work towards a time where we can be resilient enough to be on these social
media platforms like a bums me out that some of you out there watching my videos
you are afraid to get on facebook or discord to join our mental health
support groups because of the negatives that can come with being on social media
and that's driving you away from something that can be really really
really really beneficial for for your mental health I hope that makes sense so
I hope that's something that you start working on okay best option is discord
because you can run it and remain anonymous you use like your own little
name and stuff like that so that's different than Facebook anyways that's
what I'm going to in this video again make sure you subscribe to our new
channel myself and Matt unsolicited advice play new paka
we're gonna be talking about YouTube we're gonna be talking about mental
health in YouTube as well as addiction we're gonna be branching out into news
and things like that it'll be a much more unfiltered version that's not gonna
be too crazy but it will be more unfiltered we're gonna get in some
topics that I have stay away from alright so there's gonna be a lot of
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