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How can we create this new person that we want to be? I'm going to share
a model that I think is going to be very helpful in looking at your own life and
saying, How can I use this model to create a great life for myself? It's also a model
you can use with people you coach, it's a model you can use with teams, or
even at the macro level, it's a model you can use in an organization. In our model,
we're going to look at two dimensions. One dimension is called Change versus Keep.
What do we want to get rid of in life and what do we want to keep?
The second part of our dimension is called Positive-Negative.
Positive--what's great in life that we want to reinforce? And Negative--what is
it we want to get rid of? If we look at our four quadrants, the first quadrant is
called Creating. Creating... Who is the new me that I want to create?
How is that person in the future going to be different than that person in the past?
What is this positive change that you want to create in yourself?
It could be new relationships. It could be new education. It could be learning.
Challenge yourself with this question... Who is the new me that I want to create?
And describe what that is to you. Our second dimensions is called Positive Keep.
This is called preserve. What is it about myself I want to preserve?
What is it about myself I want to... I want to keep, but I don't want to change,
I want to keep. I'm not creating something new,
I'm preserving, I'm maintaining, I'm protecting what I have.
And that could be something like positive relationships with people.
It could be something related to where you live. It could be your history,
your tradition... What is the life you want to keep? The third dimension is
called Accepting. Negative Keep--I'm not crazy about it,
I'm probably not going to change it. In my life, where am I spending my time
on things that, I don't necessarily like them, I'm not going to change them...
What is it in your life you need to just learn to accept? And then finally, that
would be change--Negative Eliminating. What is it in life you need to get rid of?
My book What Got You Here Won't Get You There was a popular book. One reason?
It talked about what to stop doing in life, what to eliminate...
Not just what to start doing or what to create... So, if you look at a simple
model as you wander through life, ask yourself four basic questions... Who is
the new me that I want to create? What is it about myself that I want to preserve?
What is that I need to learn to accept? Finally, what is it I need to eliminate?
When you coach others you can use this model.
I've done this in team building. Ask the team. Describe the perfect team for
the future. What are you going to need to create? What do you want to keep about
your team? What do you need to just accept about each other, and what do you need to
eliminate? Or even your organization... My friend Vijay Govindarajan deals with this
a lot. He challenges people in their organizations to look at what
is it you want to create... He also says what you need to get rid of,
what do you need to accept, and what is it you want to preserve or
maintain? I think you'll find this model to be a practical model in going through
life at the individual level, at the team level, and at the organizational level.
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