Hey everybody this is me Meera and I welcome you
all to Skillopedia. Guys we all trainers have spoken so much about personal development,
personal growth and what we do on Skillopedia is tell you tricks and tips to enhance it.
Well learning skills for the real world and enhancing your personality is what we have
spoken about so much. So for today's topic, let's start by thinking how come some people
have just the right kind of people around them, I mean you might have heard of this
or said this before, “he knows a lot of people” or “she will get the job done,
she knows the right people for it” she got a job because she knew the right people. Well
you have thought how come, how come some people magically have the right people around them?
Now, why is having right people around us so important for personal development? Let's
talk about this, have your parents ever said to you as a child or as a teenager, “don't
spend much time with him or her, they are not the right company for you…” or “be
with the right company”. Well what they actually meant was, people who support you
and help you grow are the right people for you, not particularly as the bad person, more
of a wrong person. It applies and it still applies for a personal development guys. Are
you ready to attract the right people in your life for your development? Well let's see
what these life hacks are that will help you to attract these right people. Guys I think
it's high time for us to now just look inside of ourselves and see who we really are as
a person because clearly what the society has now made us into has landed us in the
wrong job or an unhappy line of studies and that's why the people around us are also not
the ones who are able to support us and help us develop. So now you need to know who you
are and take out a day for the same, take out a day for yourself is all enough. Okay
so ask yourself questions like, “what do I like?” Write everything down from food,
food that you like, movies that you appreciate, adventure, indoor sports or outdoor sports,
subjects… everything. “What makes me happy?” Now simply start by writing down the food
that you like, okay start small, what kind of clothes that you like to wear, watch your
favourite movie that day… slowly the list will start growing and specifically that's
when you will slow down and slowly stop and ask yourself what makes me happy. Now simply
start by ordering the food that you like, right? Start small, wear the clothes that
you like, watch your favourite movies that day, slowly the list will start getting specific
and that's when you know and you will get to know slowly stop doing things which you
do not like and don't blindly follow anything, this has to be the first step guys, otherwise
you just set yourself on the wrong path all over again. Guys, since we act really desperate
at times like, “yeah I want to meet few people”, “I want to hang out with happy
people and smiling people” and without knowing them you just start hanging around with them…
ah later again you realize… “Oops! wrong person.” Well like I said not a bad person,
but just the wrong person for yourself at that point. Well that is because you just
try to catch anyone and everyone. You must make smart choices you guys, yeah? You know
what you can do? Set yourself an ideal or set yourself ideal points like, if I want
to train and be fit and sign up with a personal trainer, I will have points listed down like
my trainer should have fitness plus nutrition background, my trainer should have at least
seven to eight years of experience in this field, he should be able to speak particularly
languages like the ones that I speak and that so that he can communicate with me better.
Now guys, since I have put down filters and I filtered my mind, it will generate, will
look out for the person which is closest to the list. Don't be stuck pleasing all with,
‘hi’, ‘hello’ and ‘how are you?’ You will start filtering people, do you know
that this way you start repelling people who do not fit your match. Yes and that's one
way to keep away from people who are not able to help you or help you move forward in your
lives. Guys, now I know when you start, when you start looking for the right people, it
might get a little tough, you know we think, “what will they think of me?” “What
will they say about me?” “How will they judge me?” Yes! I get it, I know it can
be really scary but guys, you can't expect to meet a person who thinks the way you think,
who likes things that you like without opening up to that person or without getting out there.
Share your stories, experiences… tell them how you feel or think about certain things
and when you do that this will make you proud, this will make you feel proud of who you are
and the way you think and be confident in the way you are as a person but the first
step, we already know, we must analyse ourselves for that. Yes you will agree with me when
I say, all of us like real people, with real emotions. We really don't relate to people
who have a fake smile or pretend to be someone else. Now you have to be that person, “be
vulnerable to be attracted” by the other people, be attracted by the people who are
like you, right? So you have to open up yourself and be genuine. So since we're talking about
finding and attracting the right people, let me tell you and let me ask you, will you be
able to attract them, forget attracting them for a second “will you even be able to find
them without putting yourself out there in the world?” No. You have to shine bright
enough so that people find you like, ‘oh, there she is…’ Don't be a dull dud and
sit at home and just cry saying, ‘why am I not able to find or attract the right people?’
So go out there be in places and situations where you can meet new people, introduce yourself,
talk to them network with them, connect with them, be real, be yourself and yes that also
goes with professional sites, so I'm talking about networking sites and professional sites
like, ‘LinkedIn’, which is also for students by the way and as well as for working people.
So once you have a profile, you can message people who fit your ideal match and try to
communicate with them on a “professional level” by doing this, you are giving the
right people a way to find you, so go on and be found by others. Well guys here is my last
step for you, “learn to be open to what comes your way” and I mean when I say that
don't go on people's basic profiles like what is their educational qualification, because
nowadays you know that people from different academic backgrounds, are into different roles
and different fields professionally and you never know who is the right person for you
and sometimes you might not think that they're right, but they might just be better than
what you want are expected so instead of being so serious about everything, just be open
to experiences and live in the moment. Learn to ask questions which will help you understand
them better and try to be open and real with your answers as well and guys remember that
people always find those people attractive who smile and have a good sense of humour.
Just try to be humorous, learn to laugh on yourself… even if you make a mistake and
that's completely fine. Lighten the mood around you and people will find comfort in you. Things
will fall in place once you start acting on the point and the tricks and the tips and
I'm sure of that. Well guys that's all for today, I'm sure you must have found meaning
in something and I know that these points will help you attract the right people for
your own self-development. Well guys keep smiling keep practicing go out there find
the right people for yourself, this is me Meera signing off for the day.