I’m about to let you in on a not so little secret. In fact,
it’s probably one of the biggest secrets about dating that nobody knows.
Your success with women is a direct result of how you ask her to hangout.
A lot of you have experienced it, but you just don’t know it.
You’re talking to a girl, things are going well but then you ask her to hangout and boom,
you got ghosted.
No response.
This is far too common.
But the reason for the ghosting is simple, the WAY you asked her out was WRONG.
If you asked her out correctly, you would’ve been
planning the details of your date and arranging for a time to pick her up.
I want all of your conversations to end this way, so today I’m gonna be showing
you how to ask girls to hangout so you can increase your chances of success drastically.
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#1 Seed the hangout early on. This is really a pre tip but you get the idea.
When you first meet the girl, whether it’s in person or on a dating app,
you should always seed the hangout before the end of the convo.
If you meet a girl at a party, and you guys end up talking about a dope restaurant in town,
you should say something like, “You have to try their shakes,
they’re amazing… if you think you’re strong enough to handle it maybe I’ll take you next time.”
If she responds positively, then you should go for the phone number or instagram right there,
otherwise, ask for her info at the end of the conversation.
Bonus tip: ask for her number midway through the conversation.
Why? Because once she gives you her number, the frame is set that
you guys will be meeting in the future and there’s at least some romantic attraction.
You can play and double down on this frame for the rest of the convo.
#2 Follow up with the girl over text and keep
the same energy and momentum you had in your first convo.
You can’t be a cool, laid back, and lowkey guy
in person then start dropping super witty, life of the party text game.
It’s gonna be weird and incongruent. Do more of what worked to get you her number.
Don’t confuse her or give her a reason to say no.
Because when faced with confusing behavior, it’ll just put the girl off. She has dozens of guys
in her phone, she doesn’t have time to figure out why you’re being a weirdo.
Keep the same frame and flow and then move on to the next step.
#3 Soft close (or hard close, depending on context) for the date.
So there’s a few ways to execute the date invitation - all of them depend on the context.
If you met her in person and got her number and already mentioned soft plans in person,
then you can just hit her up from the start by bringing up the idea
of those plans - in a fun way - then setting up the logistics.
If you’re converting from tinder and the reason you got her number was to setup date logistics,
then just set them up as soon as you text the girl.
Now if you just cold dm’d a girl on Instagram or a dating app and didn’t setup any future plans,
it’s time for you to do a soft close.
Just like I explained earlier,
it’s when you relate a topic you’re talking about to an activity you guys can do together.
If the convo is still fresh like in the dms or something, then go with a soft close.
​​I find in the beginning when you’re trying to get her on a date,
it’s better to either ask when she’s free or hit her with this message:
“Any big plans this weekend?”
If she mentions her plans and it doesn’t sound like she’s free,
you know not to ask and save yourself a rejection.
You don’t want to just drop a date invite on her when you don’t know if she’s free because
if she has plans, then she has to reject your invite and it sets a bad frame.
Typically though, the girl will mention if they’re
free. Once you get that info you drop the hard date/time.
You can say something like:
“Perfect. Saturday 2pm. I’m taking you out. Dress cute but casual.”
Or whatever makes sense in context to the conversation.
I don’t like just dropping a date and time on a girl unless we’ve already hangout in the past.
If you’ve already hangout before, then it’s perfectly ok to send something like this:
This brings me to the final point.
#4 Set logistics in a fun and non weird way.
You’ll notice in this screenshot that I first drop the day on her.
Once she agrees, I drop a vague time of day.
Then I give myself another reason to text her in the future by saying
“I’ll text you in the morning to set it up.”
This way we have set plans but I’m not being needy and locking in a day and time immediately.
The frame is “of course she’s gonna come out with me, so why rush the exact specifics?”
Once you have a day and time of day, you basically got it in the bag.
Just get the rest of the details naturally and as soon as it makes sense to ask.
If you’re going on a date 5 days from now, you don’t need to ask
for the girl’s address so you know where to pick her up. That’s needy and overbearing.
That’s something she’ll tell you the day of.
Is this starting to make sense?
Good because that’s the end of the video.
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