okay so the rest of these questions are
like more personal so the first one is
how did you and Zack meet so Zack and I
had just so much in common I was
actually telling my grandma like there's
this guy and I just have so much in
common with him we're like equals or the
same we're just exactly like looking in
a mirror and seeing each other and she's
like I don't know I've heard opposites
attract and I was like grandma
I've had enough opposite in my life so
when Zack came along it was just a
breath of fresh air but that has nothing
to do with how we met we basically just
had so much in common like we even had
the same major so there was I mean we
were just inseparable in college so we
ended up just getting married in college
and so that's what we did and we didn't
have any money I remember one time I
just like jumped up and hugged him
because like we were married and what we
were having for dinner was another night
of spaghetti with no meat and we were
just like so happy so that's how we met
and the rest is history what did you
study in college and what is your day
job okay so I studied graphic design in
college with a minor in advertising I
really loved all of the principles that
I got from that a lot of the other stuff
has just changed with time so but the
principles are what I'm really happy
that I learned especially about like
advertising so that was really cool
while I was in college I also this was
the most important part I think is that
I I was basically an apprenticeship
level where I was able to like study and
start my career at the same time so I've
been in the industry for several more
years than someone who just came out of
college and started their career so that
was really important and I would tell
anyone else to do that but now I'm
working from home in like a corporate
setting still where I'm a web designer
and also I work on apps so I design apps
and I've had a lot of crazy
opportunities Zacks in the same field so
we both have had really cool places that
we could have worked for like I almost
worked for a place in Silicon Valley
last year so that was
something I really had to consider and
search my heart for but I ended up
thinking that this was better to kind of
lay low and have more like work-life
balance that I really need at this
moment in my life that's where I am
right now and I guess we'll see where I
go next
are you really five wine-like seriously
okay no I am 5-1 and a half I'm sorry do
you hate your height sometimes how to
start loving that I'm short still
struggling so I think that height is
most obnoxious during different things
in life like trying to see over the
steering wheel or cleaning because then
when I get up high like on a ladder I'm
like oh my gosh I've only been cleaning
like half my house like those are little
things I think overall I've chosen to
embrace it because I'm not going to
change it there's nothing I can do at
this point is your hair colored or have
you ever thought about going shorter all
right so I don't color my hair this is
really just how it is naturally it's
like a chestnut brown and there's things
I really like about it I didn't always
love it like when I was growing up I'm
really thankful for my hair color so I
just kind of let it shine I like that
when I'm in the sunlight it looks a
little bit red like it just does its own
thing I have embraced it I don't know
what I'll do when I turn gray and I did
cut it in 2013 I went with like a bob so
I mean it was short and I had cut off
all of this I mean my hair was longer
than ever was at that point and that was
fun I regretted trying to grow it back
out again because I took forever and I
still haven't grown it all the way back
out yet but yeah I've cut it and it was
different but I like it longer how do
you maintain your clear skin okay this
is another video I feel like I could do
a whole rant about or not rant but like
just my journey of like trying to have
clear skin and I still don't fully like
I think right now like I've had a little
bit more sugar I've been not exactly
watching why I eat and that shows up on
my skin I think that I had real
struggles with my hormones causing acne
and like I got even more frustrated
because the doctors that I consulted to
about it we're like this is your life
now I'm sorry
and you can take pills if you
but I just I'm a little bit more of a
nerd about this type of stuff like I
wanted to figure out why and like what
my body was trying to tell me and stuff
it turns out I have symptoms of Pecos
and I just managed that or try to
regulate it through what I eat I mean I
knowed it out about this like I took my
temperature every morning to figure out
what in my life was starting to affect
my hormones and I figured out that I am
like allergic to chicken more or less so
whenever I eat chicken my temperatures
just go up and down and I can't control
them like my cycles were just completely
screwed up whenever I didn't eat chicken
or meat aside from like fish or eggs
like I can still have those fish and
eggs types of things but that was a
trigger for me so how I maintain my skin
is really through nutrition and
assessing like what my own body can
handle and what it needs and stuff
there's also a book and I'm not crazy
about the title or anything but it's
called the woman code it just kind of
looks kind of cheesy or weird or
something but it helps you eat for like
every week as a woman like to figure out
what your body needs nutritionally and
to eat kind of according to that and the
times that I've really focused in and
done that I've felt absolutely amazing
so I'll leave that link down in the
description to where you guys can find
that advice for a 20 year old I think
that I would have told my 20 year old
self that everything's gonna work out
and to not worry there's so much though
that I wish I would have done a little
bit better and one thing that has really
helped me a lot is learning about
finances Dave Ramsey his whole program
has really transformed my financial life
my husband's ours together we've learned
so much and I think that especially this
might not be advice for a 20 year old
but if you happen to be married that
it's really important to be on the same
page about finances even before you're
married like it's super important and
and that's actually the number one cause
of divorce is like financial money
fights and stuff like that but also I
think why I'm talking about this for
advice for a 20 year old is because when
you're 20 your life like your finances
have so much more compound interest and
can be every little decision you make
today whether it's whether you're gonna
go buy a coffee could really change your
whole future by what the time your ad
and so just to use like wisdom with that
and seek counsel afore that Dave
Ramsey's program is just absolutely
incredible like life transforming and
then gave me a ton of hope at that age
where I was like oh my gosh I can see
things better now I took his stuff when
I was in college my senior year when I
was like 21 22 and that was like I was
so thankful to learn that stuff at that
age I also think while you're in your
20s most people that's really when you
don't have a lot of other things going
on like you're not married a lot of
times a lot of people don't have kids at
that age so it really chase your dreams
especially if you don't have any debt
you have so much flexibility and freedom
like this is a time in life where you
can really just chase anything you
really want to try or do it doesn't have
to be a permanent thing that you're
gonna do for life but just to like try
and flirt with different things in your
life that you might want to pursue one
day so I would just not wait around and
just go ahead and try those things how
do you stay fit okay this is a question
that I just absolutely love to answer
because when I talk about like my
hobbies and stuff I can't do that
without talking about like trail running
there is nothing more fun to me than
like going really fast through a trail
in the woods like it's so much fun and
your feet get better at it I still have
a scar on my knee where I totally biffed
it but overall like I've gotten better
at it I'm so much I have so much more
agility now and it's so peaceful out
there so I go trail running a few times
a week I try to go as often as I can and
then also I love to use the sweat app if
I just am inside or the weather is not
great that allows me to build a little
bit more muscle have more high intensity
type of training it just allows me to
always be able to have the opportunity
to work out at home so the sweat app is
awesome favorite hobby okay so I love to
do oil painting
I've loved art since I was
little like it's just something I've
always done and has been such a part of
me and who I see myself as though art is
huge for me and then I don't I really
don't know what I'd do without it like
it's that big but then also I've really
loved to read because I've never been
that great at reading and it's something
that I now do just as a hobby to kind of
challenge myself
and to have new life experiences just
through books artists you look up to
dead or alive and why okay so I have a
painting that someone made for me his
name was Rafael and I think he was based
out of Fort Lauderdale at the time but
this was years ago like when I was
little he was an established artist and
he gave me this painting and wrote on
the back of it to draw every day I
really don't know anything else about
him I only met him once
and he gave me some brushes too and he
was just such an inspiration he actually
created beautiful oil paintings of like
the streets in Paris when they were
rainy Rafael wherever you are I don't
even know if you're alive still I mean
it was probably a 10 15 20 years I don't
know it was a very long time ago but he
was just absolutely incredible and
inspirational to me what's the last
movie you saw in theatres so Zack and I
just yesterday went to go see won't you
be my neighbor about Mister Rogers I
watch Mister Rogers all the time growing
up and so it's just so interesting to be
able to see like why he made these
videos or why he made these TV shows and
why he actually fought for them to stay
around in front of Congress so that was
really cool and he also said some things
that really inspired me one being when
he talks to the camera he talks to one
person and that's really what I do to
hear like when I sit down with you it's
really just me and you like I don't see
more than one maybe two people in the
room that just makes me be able to share
more I think or have more personal
conversations and that's what Mister
Rogers did too
I would definitely say to watch that it
was an amazing film what inspires you to
make art why I make art is because I
feel like I it's a way of feeling and
and I feel on a deeper level then I'm
able to spend more time in more patience
on a piece of a painting that was
another thing that the Mister Rogers
show actually said is when he plays
piano it's like he enters into this
country and it's a safe place for him to
express himself if he's angry he can
play angrily or if he's happy or feels
like crying like he's able to express
that and so that's really why I loved to
paint or draw like I've always kind of
expressed myself emotionally through
that and it's a great way like it's a
great release and it's also a way where
maybe someone else hasn't felt that way
but when they see the painting or any
piece of art then they feel something
that they didn't understand a different
piece of life or a way of feeling it
just evokes feeling in someone else so
would you like to live outside the US I
think that if I was going to I would
probably choose the UK just because it
seems like something similar or more
familiar to me to the US I've only
traveled a little bit outside the u.s.
like I went to Costa Rica and I've been
to parts of Canada but like I haven't
done more traveling outside the US than
that the u.s. is so big like you could
live in a different part of the US and
feel like you're in a different country
but after like following some people
from the UK who have like beautiful old
historic country homes I definitely
could see myself in that type of
situation plus I've just read so much
about Scotland and all that that I could
see myself easily living there but
moving to a different country let alone
like a different state of the US would
be so I see that is so brave so we'll
see I honestly am open to anything
though I've always told Zach like I'm
willing to move anywhere like I'm okay
with any type of like future I'm okay
with that do you like to travel and if
so what country would you like to visit
next I would love to go on like a
multi-country trip to Europe one day
that would be so much fun I would
definitely love to see France
but I think that if I die and I haven't
seen any of Europe I would be like
really sad about that what genre would
you choose to star in medieval fantasy
or period dramas 100% period dramas do
you ever wake up in the morning and some
days not feeling positive at all you
know I think that when I feel that way
it usually is because my routine is just
really screwed up and I'm really working
on my morning routine right now and I've
already seen more benefits of just like
trying to go to bed earlier and waking
up earlier getting ahead on my day makes
me feel more positive when I you just
can't get out of bed I realize it's
because I'm spreading myself so thin and
there's no bed time in sight so I feel
like my mattress is the only relaxation
I get so I've been trying to like change
that and listen to my heart about that
stuff what do you do when you feel sad
or unmotivated this goes back to
painting that's really where I express
it as a type for on the Enneagram
sadness is something that I don't like
shy away from like I just kind of
listened to it and respect it do you
follow a specific faith yeah I am a
Christian and I mentioned this in my
last Q&A but I think it's really good
one place that I love to listen to is my
friends Church out in Nashville is
called the access church and he has a
podcast it's just absolutely incredible
and inspiring so I'll link you guys down
to his podcast so you guys can hear all
of that but really there's no short
answer on like how I feel and the things
I believe and just listening to his
podcast I think is a pretty good
representation of my own thoughts what's
your motto when the going gets tough I
think that one thing that Zach and I
started doing in the last year is just
to say we win like whatever it is any
tiny little thing we're just gonna try
to speak that like winning mindset into
our lives and I started doing it to my
parents to like anytime that they've had
some sort of like struggle with just
life then I'm like you it we win and so
that's what I've been saying a lot when
the going gets tough
it's just we win so I would definitely
try that it is really fun morning
routine okay so I'm actually going to do
a video on this soon because it is
something I'm really actively trying to
make better so definitely watch out for
that but I'm working on waking up at
5:30 now so wish me luck favorite thing
about living in Virginia so the
countryside of Virginia is something
just so incredibly beautiful it's a lot
more mountainous than where I originally
grew up from in North Carolina in the
part of North Carolina that I lived in
so I love to like go on the mountains
and everything but also Virginia's
history is so old especially in the
landscape of the US and history has its
good and bad parts but I love to be able
to study that and knowing that like I'm
walking on the same brick road that XYZ
walked on is just so cool and fun to
read about like I read George
Washington's biography which was the
longest book I'd ever read at the time
it was so cool because I was on my patio
and I was looking out at mountains of
Virginia at the same time knowing that
he looked out on the same mountains and
that's been just so much fun like
interesting to me to learn about and
appreciate we've taken trips to like
Monticello and it's just really
interesting to be able to see that side
of history
obviously there's dark parts about
Virginia history too so that's something
to like look at modern history modern
times and like assess things that we
could change and how people view our
society 100 years from now so it's
interesting to me are there any goals
you want to complete this year yet oh my
gosh you guys I could do a whole video
just about goals because I really
believe that I've lived this so I know
it's true if you write down a goal even
if you don't plan to see that goal for
years if you're just like in 2018 I want
to accomplish this even if it's
completely outside of your control if
you just like write that down you'll
look back and see I completed that early
like that happened way earlier than I
thought
and so that's what I do I kind of keep
this like legacy journal of my goals and
the things I've completed already so at
the end of the year I write down
everything that we completed and then I
make goals for the next year and with
goals it's super important to not just
say I want to drink more water like say
I want to drink 60 ounces a day or say
something kind of lower so you're able
to achieve it every day I think once you
learn how to win that winning becomes
achievable and you can set your sight on
even bigger goals okay last question is
a biggie when are you the happiest
there's different things I could think
of as like when I'm excited or when
something really awesome happens but
when I'm the happiest is when I feel the
most content and that's really when
things start to happen the exciting
things start to happen it's before that
like right before that any time I've
been like super content about where I am
that's one thing is I've kind of broken
through so I would say that I'm the
happiest when I choose to be content in
my life because it is a choice I could
choose to like think about all the ways
that I wish that my life was or
decisions I should have made but if I'm
just content with who I am oh my gosh
self-acceptance has been such a learning
experience and just contentment in my
own life where I'm at with the fact that
I have a cat and an awesome husband and
a tiny quiet apartment with little birds
outside like I'm content right now and
there's places that I like to move to
one day there's there's a nice car a
nicer car would be awesome but I'm so
content with the fact that we have a
paid off car and just like basic you
know I'm so happy when I choose to be
content and that's pretty much it and I
hope you guys liked this very long Q&A
that I will have probably split into two
parts by now
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