so that you can recognize them and stay the heck
away from these people.
I'm gonna give you five traits of extremely toxic people in this video,
so stay tuned.
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So five traits of extremely toxic people.
I've seen them myself. I've seen them punch walls.
I've seen them do all kinds of crazy things
and I can spot them a mile away
and I want you to be able to spot them a mile away.
So make sure you watch all the way
till the end because I'm gonna be giving you each one of
them and I'm gonna s ave the best one till the end.
Alright.
Project and Deflect.
It's always someone else’s fault.
It's always someone else.
It's never their fault
And boy, have I seen this.
You know, they're so good at making it someone else's fault.
Making sure that someone else gets to take the blame and,
you know, this is something you definitely see a lot with narcissist
especially when they get caught in lies
and I definitely have video on that.
What happens when you catch a narcissist in a lie?
They project and deflect.
It’s someone else's fault,
and they never take responsibility for their actions
and part of the reason why you see narcissists
never take responsibility
for their actions is because they have that fragile inner sense of self,
that fragile sense of inner child,
inner self, which is like if they take
responsibility somehow for themselves,
then it takes away from who they are,
then it takes away from, you know,
somehow they fall apart, somehow they don't survive.
Somehow there's like that hollow inner self
and they literally become unglued.
They literally become triggered.
That inner sense of self is so fragile
that they have to push it off on other people.
They don't feel whole. They don't feel complete
and so that's why they never take responsibility for their actions.
That's the first trait of extremely toxic people.
So if you have one of those people around
you that just never takes responsibility,
then run for the hills.
Always making you feel like you're small.
Always making you feel like
you are to blame for their problems.
It's always you.
You are the problem.
You're the one.
You know, it's never their fault.
It's never them.
They don't have to ever take
responsibility for anything that they do.
and you're the one that triggers them.
You're the one who has the problem.
They're very critical, extremely judgmental,
of everything around them.
They don't like anyone.
If that's how they are, there's something very wrong.
But they're always making you feel small, you feel bad
and if you're around them and you are
constantly feeling small and bad,
then you know that they're probably extremely toxic.
You wanna be around people that
when you walk away from them,
you feel lighter, you feel better.
They're fanning your flames.
You feel like I just wanna be around that person more
because they make me feel really great
every time I'm around them.
So that's number four.
Have you ever been around this type of a person?
They're just constantly a victim.
They're constantly everything is woe with me.
Everything is bad.
No matter how much it seems like their life is great.
They're just always a victim.
Covert narcissists are really really great at that.
If you wanna know more about covert narcissist,
I definitely have a video about covert narcissism,
especially covert narcissism in relationships
and you should definitely check that out.
So that's number three
and and if you guys have seen this so far,
give me a totally in the comments.
So that's number three.
You know, this is that one
who's just like constantly talking
bad about other people behind their backs
and you just know they're definitely talking bad about you too.
I mean, if if they're talking thing bad about other people to you.
You know they're talking bad about you
when they're with other people too.
I mean, that's just how people are
and so that's just a trait of an extremely toxic person.
People who feel good about people don't do that
and I go back to the four agreements,
which is never to take anything personally.
This is a a book which I highly recommend.
It's one of my top reads and it's
four agreements that you make with yourself.
One of the agreements is to never take anything personally
because people treat other people the way
they feel about themselves good or bad.
So if somebody treats other people badly,
It's because they feel bad about themselves.
Hurt people hurt people.
So if somebody feels good about themselves,
then they treat other people well.
If somebody feels like crap about themselves
and they treat other people poorly
and so people who talk badly about other people,
it's somebody who just feels toxic inside.
So they're just are toxic person in general
and that's not the type of person that
you really wanna spend your time with.
There's an old saying that says,
if you really wanna know where you are in life,
take a look around and see
who the top five people are in your life
and that'll tell you where you are in life and,
you know, what kinds of a quality of where you are in life.
So you wanna make sure that the top people
in your life are super quality people.
You know, I always say defend your light with your life
and make sure that the people who are closest to you are people
who you really wanna defend your spirit
and defend your life.
Liars, liars,
liars, liars, pants on fire.
People who don't have integrity.
You know, without integrity, nothing works.
People who lie
and you know those narcissist says,
they are pathological liars.
They lie about everything.
They lie about things they don't even need to lie about,
which is the crazy thing to me
and that's where you end up getting your leverage by the way.
That's where you end up being able to create your patterns,
create your strategy,
all that good stuff for your cases,
for your negotiations.
That's where, you know, my whole SLAY methodology comes in,
Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, focus on You.
That's how you win.
That's how you win your negotiations,
that's how you win your cases.
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