TERRI: You don't have to go another day like this. You can
make your dreams bigger than your memory. Starting now, and
I'm gonna show you how, like I heard someone say, letting go of
a little of your past. We'll give you a little piece,
but letting go of a lot will give you a lot of
peace. Well, I want to show you three ways to
erase your bad memories. Are you ready?
TERRI: Hey, I'm Terri Savelle Foy, your cheerleader of
dreams. Thanks for joining me. I want to ask you if you saw the
survey I posted recently on Instagram. I was just curious to
see if I was the only person who went through these things or if
others that felt the same way too. So here's some of the
questions I asked. If you didn't see it, I was asking, do you
wish that your bad memories would just go away? 86% said
yes. Then I asked, are you ready to finally get over your past
mistakes and start moving towards your dreams? 97% said
yes. I was shocked. Then I asked, are you frustrated with
how your life is going? Because you're stuck in the past. 67%
said yes. One last question. I said, are you tired of waking up
every morning wishing you could change something that's happened
to you? 80% said, yes. Now I'm sharing these results to let you
know that you are not the only one dealing with this. Do you
know for over a decade I was completely trapped in past
mistakes and it stunted my growth and it hindered me from
pursuing God's calling from my life. So if you answered yes to
any of these questions, you don't have to go another day
like this. You can make your dreams bigger than your memory
starting now, and I'm gonna show you how, but I heard someone
say, letting go of a little of your past will give you a little
piece. But letting go of all of the lot will give you a lot of
peace. Well, I want to show you three ways to erase your bad
memories. Are you ready? Okay. Number one is simply make the
decision to let it go. Here's the thing. It truly is a
decision and it's one that you get to make. See, the only way
you keep things alive is by feeding them. Whatever you feed
stays alive, whatever you starve eventually dies. And you know,
we see that with our pets. You're, I have some dog food.
Got It straight out of the pantry this morning. If I didn't
put this food out every morning from my little Pomeranian Pepe
Lexiou, he would starve. But I keep him alive by providing
food. Right? We'll see. It's the same of memories. If you want
the memories to go away, you have to stop feeding them. And
the way you feed them is by dwelling on them. You know, just
that word dwell. It means to live in or to live at a
specified place. Well, when you dwell on the past, you remain in
the past. You lived there. And that leaves no room for God to
do anything in your future. So you feed memories or dwell on
them. I talking about them rehearsing them. We living them.
Every time you're with your friends, that's what keeps them
alive. So you have to make a conscious choice, a decision to
stop dwelling in the past. Stop talking about the memories. Stop
bringing the past into the present and destroying your
future. Now I want to recommend having a defining moment.
Whatever today's date is, that's where you say as of today, and
you say, the date I am giving my past a burial, and the next time
someone brings it up, you say it's dead. I'm not who I used to
be. So you and only you have to make the commitment to let it
go. It's your choice today. So stop going over the same in your
mind. Stop remembering the details of the story in your
head. Start today. Number two, sincerely forgive. Now I'm
talking about forgiving them and for giving yourself so
unforgiveness. It's like a weight that will hold you back
with that. Just to illustrate this, I heard this story about
this little girl in school who said that her teacher had every
one of the students bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of
potatoes. And she said for every person that we would refuse to
forgive in our lives, we were told to choose a potato, write
their name on it and the date and put it in the plastic bag.
And she said some of the bags were getting so heavy because
they're filled with potatoes for all these hurts. She said, we
were then told to carry the bag around with us for one week.
Everywhere we went. When we went to bed at night, we had to have
the bag next to us in the car seat next to us beside it at our
desk, you know, at work or at school. She said in the locker
where we went to gym class everywhere the bag had to go
everywhere for one solid week. Well the hassle of lugging this
thing around everywhere they went, she said it made it clear
what a weight we are carrying around spiritually and having to
pay attention to it all the time. Never leaving it, not
forgetting it, leaving it in embarrassing places. Well, she
went on to explain how the condition of the potatoes
rotted. You know, cause they're being transported all over the
place. They turned to this nasty slime and deteriorated. Not to
mention, she said it stunk. Well, she said this was such a
great metaphor for the price we pay when we keep our pain and
our heaviness in our hearts. Too often we think forgiveness is a
gift to the other person. But clearly it's for you. So the
next time you decide you can't forgive someone, ask yourself,
isn't my bag heavy enough? Isn't it time to just drop it and let
it go? You know? In fact, I read where the definition of the word
forgive actually means drop it. So remember this forgiveness, it
doesn't make them right. It makes you free. So the only, I
think it was Robert Kriegel. Yeah, he said the only way to
move into the future is to let go of the past. So number three
is change your perspective about what happened. Now this is a
game changer. Your greatest life lessons don't come from the good
times, the successes, the ego in life. Do you know they always
come from the hell we've been through. That's where we grow.
We stretch, we hurt, we struggle. But that's what
prepares us for the victory. In fact, I heard an illustration
about eagles, which I just happened to have. How you know
when baby eagles are born, they're there in that little
shell, that egg, and they have this little tooth at the end of
their beak and they pack it. This shell over and over and
over. And it's a struggle and it's hard and it's painful. And
from what the researchers say, the Mama Eagle wants to help
them. They can just pop it open. But they said they can't help
them because the baby eagle has to struggle because the struggle
is what prepares them to live the eagle life. Isn't
that amazing. So what I'm saying is everything
you've been through has prepared you for
today. Now here's a phrase I want you to remember,
and it can drastically change your entire outlook and your
outcome in life. Are you ready? Things didn't happen to you.
They happened for you. Now, I don't want to offend you with
that statement. I want to help shift your entire outlook from
victim of your circumstances to victory over them. Now, this is
the mindset of the world's highest achievers. They realize
that what they've been through, it actually ends up benefiting
them rather than belittling them, but it depends on your
perspective. See what you've been through, abuse,
abandonment, adultery, betrayal, rejection, whatever it is, all
of those things. They weren't sent by God. Satan is the one we
know who comes to kill, steal and destroy our lives, but God
has a way of taking all those bad things and turning them
around for your good. In fact, Romans 8:28 says, God works
all things together for our good. Joyce Myer even said,
she used to say she wished she hadn't gone through all that
sexual abuse from our father. She wishes she'd had a normal
childhood, but she said, I've stopped saying that because I
know that what I went through as a child, it prepared me for who
I am today and who I'm reaching. So you can see change your
perspective by just saying, this didn't happen to me. It happened
for me. I'm going to use it and I'm going to give God the glory
and get glory out of it because other people are going to be set
free because of your experience. Remember this phrase, the broken
become masters at mending. So whatever the past means to you,
God wants to use it. He wants to use it to set others free. Use
it to help others break addictions. Get out of wrong
relationships. Say No to temptation when it comes.
Forgive those who've hurt you. So let me close out with
reminding you three ways to erase your bad memories. Number
one, make a decision to let it go. Stop talking about how bad
your past was. Each time you do, you're keeping it alive. Number
two, you sincerely forgive others and yourself. In other
words, drop it and let it go. And number three, change your
perspective from it happened to me. To it happen for me. Use
what you went through for your benefit. Are you wiser,
stronger, sharper? What good came out of what you went
through? Did you gain more compassion for others going
through the same thing? Did you become more self aware of your
own weaknesses, temptations, and pitfalls? Did you become more
conscious of people hurting and hiding their pain? And now you
know how to minister to them, then use it to your advantage.
So I believe the memories will go from bad memories to
beneficial memories. And I want to help you turn all your pain
into power and start going after your dreams. In fact, this week
I'm giving you a chapter from my book. Make your dreams bigger
than your memories absolutely free. Now, this chapter is all
based around when I let go of my past and realized my calling is
calling, that's what I want you to do. You're going to learn
how you can go from being an insecure, ashamed, stuck
in your past to living your dreams. So go to
terri.com/chapter thank you for watching me today. And
remember, I'm cheering you on to live your dreams.