Let me ask you this, do you think The Rock, Dwayne Johnson is charismatic?
It's getting to the point now that people are talking about him to the level beyond
what Bill Clinton was in his prime.
My buddy Tripp asked me to put this video together breaking down three things that he
does really well to always maintain that charismatic aura.
As we know, charisma is something that you can copy.
It's not like you're born with it or you're not.
By the way, I have a channel called the Charisma Matrix, you subscribe to that and join the
party, you can click the link in the description below.
In this first scene, what I want you to notice is his buddy and his business partner is getting
cold feet about the direction that they're taking the business.
They're going to make a big move, and there's a lot of risk involved.
Let's watch how it goes.
Let's watch how The Rock convinces him that it is in his best interest and a good move
to continue with that.
Should we be doing? Doing what? This, any of this? Poking the bear.
Look at all the stress it's causing both of us.
What would most people do in this instance? Their
buddy's getting cold feet, they're going to pepper them with logical reasons and explanations
to try to convince them it's the right thing to do.
They're gonna come up, oh no, we got the financing in place, there's a good chance this is going
to happen.
That works sometimes, but it's not effective as his first strategy that you're going to
see him employ.
Let's watch and see what he does right now.
Look at all the stress it's causing both of us.
Did I ever tell you the story about my Dad?
My Dad realized in that moment, he could've been that guy behind that desk.
So when you ask me why I want to do this, my answer is because I know what guy I want to be.
What about you? I wanna be the guy!
The f***ing guy? Yeah! Yeah! The f***ing guy!
Then let's get the f*** outta here.
What did he do?
He told a story that convinced his buddy and his colleague.
Why is that more powerful than logic?
It is because you're addressing someone who is emotional on an emotional level.
When you're worked up emotionally, it doesn't matter how much logic you're hitting someone
with.
They can't access that part of their brain when the emotion is running hot because the
emotion is on top of the logical brain.
The way to be effective and to get through to people who are emotional, which is very
important to be able to do because charismatic people need to be able to be convincing and
have authority, strong presence and persuasion in these very challenging environments as
when someone is really worked up or they're distraught or anxious.
He hits him at the level that he's at with a story that brings emotion.
He puts himself in the story, and he relays exactly what he's trying to do and convinces
him to do so.
To wrap up, step number one, if you can ever tell, convince or make your point by telling
a story rather than facts, always do so.
I love the second one because so few people understand this when you react unemotionally
or you control the emotions that you give out, you look like you are in control of everything,
the environment and of yourself.
It communicates an ultra high status because unfortunately, people who have lower status
are naturally going to be more whipsawed emotionally when things happen that they can't control.
What happens typically when people feel like they're out of control, and they're emotionally
engaged, their tonality gets supplicated.
They start sounding weaker.
People hear that and then they treat them like that.
It's a self fulfilling loop.
In this scene, The Rock gets exposed for trying having done something behind one of his investors
back.
When the investor confronts him and says, I know what you're doing, notice what The
Rock does when he's exposed and noticed that most people would take on a really supplicate
of tone like, oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
I didn't know if I would have known, I would have done this.
What that does is, it gives more fuel and this is all on a subconscious level.
It gives more fuel to the person you're talking to, to come down and scorn you and hang on
that you're right, you shouldn't have done that, that was wrong.
Watch what he does and watch the reaction it evokes from the guy who could have continued
coming down on him.
Watch what he does instead.
I can relate to that one.
Some would say you have it coming. You been sniffing in the tall weeds with a short snout.
I'm not sure what that means. I never heard that one.
Spencer if you don't want to admit what you're doing, maybe you shouldn't be doing it.
I'm not afraid to talk about anything. I just thought that kind of transparency
between you and I would put you in an awkward position with the league.
Let me worry about what position I'm in.
Fine. It's true. I'm guilty of sniffing in the tall weeds.
With a short snout.
I want to bring the team to Vegas.
Where'd you put the brass ring?
Ok. So what did you see? No change in tone, no change in voice.
You're right. I was talking to another group. I was thinking this and this.
If you were not listening to the words, you would have no idea that he was exposed for
doing something that he shouldn't have done.
That would likely anger the guy he's talking to.
He acknowledged it and says, yes, I was doing that.
I should have let you know.
His tone is staying consistent.
How does the other guy react?
He doesn't get mad, he doesn't make a big deal out of it.
They keep talking man to man.
What you need to realize in this one is when you have control over your emotions, and you
don't get emotionally reactive even when times are stressful, maybe you're exposed for doing
something you shouldn't have, maybe someone says something you don't have a great answer
for, any time that you're thrown on tilt, when you're able to maintain that keel emotional
level, that's going to communicate to everyone else that it's not a big deal as opposed to
what most people do, start rationalizing in a supplicate tone, in the little boy tone,
like I'm sorry, I shouldn't know this question.
Let me get right back to you about that, as opposed to, I don't have the answer to that
question just yet.
I'd be happy to get back to you with it.
It's going to keep people in the mentality about the social interaction equilibrium,
where you want the person you're talking to never to feel like they're higher than you
on a social value level.
They’re just going to start treating you disrespectfully.
They're not going to value your opinions, you got no persuasion with them.
When you're able to keep a nice keel tone, you're going to keep that interaction equilibrium
in your favor when things aren't going your way.
It's going to keep things nice and even, and things don't completely start falling apart
for you.
The Rock also has charm with women.
One of the things that men do, that is attractive to women that most men feel like wouldn't
be and they're scared to do is have boundaries.
That's not just a man to woman relationship.
That's for everyone.
When people know you have certain boundaries, that you won't cross, they're not going to
continually test you and push you.
In this scene, his girlfriend is starting to take over the bathroom with her makeup
and other things.
I want you to notice he draws the line and he says that that's not okay.
How does he do it and what does he communicate?
Let's watch a scene and we'll talk about it right after.
Morning sailor. Good morning honey.
In less than a week you've completely rearranged my kitchen.
You try putting cereal in that cupboard.
Look at my bathroom counter. It looks like the make up counter at Sephora after a massive earthquake.
How does he do it?
He's laughing, he’s jovial but he's serious at the same time.
He's drawing a line, like a lot of guys would think, I don't want to be mad.
I don't want to look like a jerk.
No, he's sharing his bathroom.
It sounds like he wants half of that sink himself without her stuff over there.
He says to her in a jovial, good natured way.
This is the boundary, we can't cross this.
That's something that women and other people respect when you do because you show you have
your own limits.
You show that you're living by your own limits, your own rules and the boundaries you've established.
Just because someone else comes into your life, you're not all of a sudden going to
be changing.
What does that communicate to the other person or her for instance like, that's okay.
I told you, I want my half of the sink, but you can take it all.
That's not what she wants, but that's what a lot of guys think that she wants, that's
the wet rag.
That's the guy that will do anything.
That's when the relationship starts to till and the woman loses respect for the guy because
he doesn't have his own boundaries.
It's very sad to see guys who think they're doing the right thing.
They think she'll be happier.
She'll like me more if I let her have the whole sink because that's what she wants.
No, women want a guy who has a backbone, who will stand up when they're doing things that
they know is not what he wants.
That reaffirms your manliness and your strength.
Now that you've seen this video, I'd suggest you click here to watch the other video from
Tripp.
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Once again, my name is Baron Cruz and I'll talk to you soon.