>>> GOOD MORNING, WELCOME TO THE SHOW.
SHOW. WE BEGIN WITH A DEBATE THAT
ROCKED A FLORIDA NEIGHBORHOOD.
TAKE A LOOK AT THIS HOUSE IN
MOUNT DORA, FLORIDA.
THAT IS DEPICTION OF van GOGH
"STARE NIGHT" ON THE FENCE IN
FRONT OF IT.
HERE IS THE QUESTION IT RAISES.
CAN HOME OWNERS DECORATE THEIR
PROPERTY HOWEVER THEY WANT, OR
DOES THE MAYOR OF THEIR TOWN
HAVE THE RIGHT TO TELL THEM NO.
JOINING ME NOW TO DISCUSS THAT
AND MAKING THE ROUNDS FROM NBC
FAMILY JENNA BUSH HAGER, GADI
SCHWARTZ AND SAVANNAH SELLERS.
GREAT TO HAVE YOU ALL.
I LOVE THIS STORY.
I LOVE THIS STORY, BECAUSE THIS
COUPLE THAT LIVES THERE DECIDED
TO PAINT JUST THE FENCE FIRST
WITH THE STARRY NIGHTS PAINTING.
THEY HAD A VERY GOOD REASON FOR
DOING THAT.
DOING THAT. THEN THE TOWN CRACKED DOWN ON
THEM AND SAID, NO, YOU’RE NOT
ALLOWED TO DO THAT BECAUSE OUR
REGULATIONS SAY THE FENCE HAS TO
MATCH THE HOUSE.
SO THAT’S HOW THE HOUSE WOUND UP
LOOKING LIKE THAT.
THE TOWN CONTINUED TO COME AFTER
THEM AND COME AFTER THEM AND
COME AFTER THEM AND SLAP FINDS
ON THEM OF $10,000 TOTAL AND
THEY FOUGHT IT IN COURT AND
ULTIMATELY WON.
ULTIMATELY WON. THE MAYOR HAS JUST HAD TO
APOLOGIZE FOR DOING THIS TO
THEM.
THEM. IS THAT THE RIGHT DECISION?
>> THEY PAINTED IT FOR THEIR SON
WHO HAD HAS HARD TIME FINDING
HIS WAY HOME.
HE’S AUTISTIC.
HE’S AUTISTIC. THEY PAINTED IT FOR HIM.
THEY HAD A REASON.
OBVIOUSLY THEY ARE van GOGH
FANS.
FANS. >> TO SAY TAKE ME TO THE van
GOGH HOUSE SO HE COULD GET HOME.
>> IT’S BEAUTIFUL.
HERE IS THE OTHER THING.
AT WHAT POINT DOES THE MAYOR
HEAR THE STORY AND HEAR THE SON
IS AUTISTIC AND THIS PIECE OF
ART AND SAY, NO, WE’RE GOING TO
DOUBLE DOWN.
DOUBLE DOWN. >> HE’S GOING TO STAY LOST.
>> OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
>> AREN’T THERE BIGGER PROBLEMS?
>> WAIT.
>> WAIT. I’LL PLAY DEVIL’S ADVOCATE FOR
THE MAYOR.
THE MAYOR. WHAT IF YOU HAVE SOMEBODY WHO IS
A BIG FAN OF THE NUDES AND WANTS
TO PAINT THAT ON THE OUTSIDE OF
THEIR HOUSE.
THEIR HOUSE. YOU HAVE NAKED LADY PARTS ON
YOUR HOUSE AS YOU WALK YOUR
4-YEAR-OLD DOWN THE STREET.
>> IT COMES DOWN TO COMMON
SENSE.
SENSE. YOU HEAR THESE EXTREMES AND
THOSE EXTREMES POP UP IN
CONVERSATIONS WHERE IT’S REALLY
JUST ABOUT A KID TRYING TO FIND
HIS WAY HOME AND HIS PARENTS
TRYING TO DO SOMETHING SPECIAL
FOR HIM.
FOR HIM. IF THOSE NUDES POP UP, YEAH, I
THINK THE MAYOR WOULD HAVE FULL
SUPPORT OF THE COMMUNITY SAYING,
NO, THAT’S --
>> I THINK THE KID WOULD
DEFINITELY NOT FORGET.
>> TAKE ME TO THE NUDE HOUSE.
>> THE LADIES.
>> I FEEL LIKE IF YOU MOVE INTO
A NEIGHBORHOOD AND THEY DISCLOSE
UP FRONT, THESE ARE THE
REGULATIONS -- A LOT OF
NEIGHBORHOODS HAVE THAT.
SOME SAY YOU CAN’T PUT FOR SALE
SIGNS ON YOUR LAWN, CERTAIN
PAINT IS REGULATED.
GO TO NANTUCKET, GRAY AND WHITE,
GRAY AND WHITE, GRAY AND WHITE.
THAT’S ALL YOU’RE ALLOWED TO DO.
YOU GO INTO THE COMMUNITY THAT’S
ONE THING.
ONE THING. BUT THIS WAS NOT PROHIBITED AND
THE MAYOR TRIED TO PINCH HIM.
>> WHO DOESN’T LIKE van GOGH.
>> IF HE JUST LET THEM PAINT THE
FENCE, THE WHOLE HOUSE WOULD BE
DIFFERENT.
DIFFERENT. >> RULES.
>> RULES. >> THE PARENTING TRICK, YOU
NEVER PUSH BACK SO MUCH WHERE
THEY ARE GOING TO BE LIKE, I’M
GOING TO DO BOTH.
>> I DON’T LIKE WHEN BIG
GOVERNMENT STARTS SQUEEZING
INDIVIDUALS ON WHAT THEY ARE
DOING IN THEIR OWN PRIVATE
PROPERTY.
PROPERTY. HERE IS ANOTHER ITEM IN THE NEWS
TODAY.
TODAY. DO YOU REMEMBER YOUR FIRST
CHILDHOOD MEMORY?
CHILDHOOD MEMORY? DO YOU HAVE THANE YOUR HEAD?
>> REAL MEMORY OR PICTURES.
>> REAL MEMORY, STORIES.
>> ACTUAL.
>> ACTUAL. LIKE WHAT’S YOUR FIRST MEMORY.
>> I REMEMBER A FEELING.
I REMEMBER A DREAM.
MY LITTLE BROTHER, THIS IS VERY
ODD.
ODD. WE WERE IN A BACKYARD.
HE HAD LEGS, OBVIOUSLY, AND HIS
LEGS POPPED LIKE BALLOONS IN
THIS DREAM.
THIS DREAM. I WAS SO TRAUMATIZED.
I REMEMBER WAKING UP AND RUNNING
TO HIS CRIBS TO SEE IF HIS LEGS
WERE STILL THERE.
IT STILL KIND OF GIVES ME
GOOSEBUMPS.
GOOSEBUMPS. >> IT’S VERY SWEET BUT
COMPLETELY MADE UP.
THE LATEST STUDY SHOWS 40% OF
PEOPLES FIRST MEMORIES ARE
ENTIRELY MADE UP.
MEMORIES, ACCORDING TO CURRENT
RECRNKIC -- RESEARCH, CAN’T BE
FORMED BEFORE 3 1/2.
>> I WAS TALKING ABOUT THIS ON
RESIDENT MOM OF THREE.
I WAS SAYING WHEN WE FIRST
BROUGHT OUR BABIES HOME FROM THE
HOSPITAL AND YOU’RE EXHAUSTED
AND YOU’RE UP ALL NIGHT, HENRY
AND I ONCE GOT IN A FIGHT AND I
WOKE UP THE NEXT MORNING, FIGHT,
HOW COULD WE DO THIS TO OUR
CHILDREN.
CHILDREN. HE WAS LIKE, DON’T WORRY, THEIR
MEMORIES AREN’T FORMED UNTIL
FOUR OR FIVE.
BUT MY DAUGHTER IS FIVE.
SO I WAS LIKE, WE’VE GOT TO GO
TO THERAPY.
TO THERAPY. >> STEP IT UP.
>> NO MORE FIGHTING.
>> UP UNTIL FIVE?
>> THEY DO REPEAT.
>> THERE IS THAT.
>> I HAVE A GREAT STORY ABOUT
THAT.
THAT. MY HUSBAND DOUG AND MY SON YATES
AND I WERE PLAYING DOMINOES WITH
MY NANA.
MY NANA. YATES IS EIGHT, BUT THIS IS WHEN
HE WAS LIKE TWO.
DOUG KEPT WINNING.
NANA LIKED TO GIVE ANYBODY JAZZ
WHO WAS BEATING HER.
I JOINED IN.
DOUG WAS WINNING.
I SAID, OH, GOSH.
YATES SAID WHAT?
I SAID DADDY IS CHEATING AGAIN.
HE REPEATED TO EVERYONE IN THE
NEIGHBORHOOD.
NEIGHBORHOOD. ANYBODY I SAW, HE WAS LIKE,
DADDY IS CHEATING AGAIN.
DADDY IS CHEATING AGAIN.
THANKFULLY YATES HAS NO
RECOLLECTION OF THAT.
>> I CAN’T BELIEVE PEOPLE THINK
THEY CAN REMEMBER BACK LIKE
THAT.
THAT. I’M DARK UNTIL FIVE OR SIX.
>> YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENS, THE
FAMILY TELLS YOU THE STORY AND
YOU THINK YOU REMEMBER IT.
>> BUT AS A BABY, LIKE IN THE
FIRST 12 MONTHS.
REALLY?
REALLY? YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
>> WE SEE THIS IN COURT.
EYEWITNESS IDENTIFICATION,
EYEWITNESS IDENTIFICATION, EYEWITNESS TESTIMONY IS
NOTORIOUSLY FALSE AND UNRELIABLE
BECAUSE WE THINK WE SAW WHAT WE
DIDN’T SEE.
DIDN’T SEE. REMEMBER THE TAPE, THIS IS
HAPPENING, THE GUY IN THE GREEN
SHIRT, AND THE ROLL THE TAPE AND
IT’S A WOMAN IN A RED SHIRT.
>> I HAVE TROUBLE REMEMBERING
YESTERDAY.
YESTERDAY. >> OKAY.
>> OKAY. SO HERE IS ANOTHER ONE FOR YOU.
THE POWER OF POSITIVE PEOPLE IN
YOUR LIFE.
YOUR LIFE. THERE’S A NEW STUDY OUT ON THAT
NOW TALKING ABOUT NEGATIVE
FRIENDS ARE CONTAGIOUS.
THEIR NEGATIVITY IS CONTAGIOUS.
SOMETHING YOU PROBABLY KNOW
INSTINCTIVELY.
INSTINCTIVELY. MOM ALWAYS SAID LIFE IS TOO
SHORT TO SURROUND YOUR SELF WITH
NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
NEGATIVE PEOPLE. NOW THEY ARE CITING THIS
JAPANESE CONCEPT WHERE LIFE
EXPECTANCY OF WOMEN IS OVER 90.
THEY HAVE GROUPS OF FIVE WHO
OFFER SOCIAL, LOGISTICAL,
EMOTIONAL AND FINANCIAL SUPPORT
OVER THE LIFETIME SAYING
POSITIVE SUPPORT AROUND YOU CAN
EXTEND YOUR LIFE AND NEGATIVE
INFLUENCES AROUND YOU CAN
SHORTEN IT.
SHORTEN IT. >> IT’S SO TRUE.
>> HAVE YOU EVER CUT SOMEBODY
OUT FOR BEING TOO EMOTIONALLY
UNHEALTHY?
UNHEALTHY? >> I HAVEN’T, BUT I HAVE SPOKEN
TO PEOPLE AND SAID, LET’S TRY
TO -- ESPECIALLY THE WAY YOU
START THE DAY.
IF YOU START THE DAY BY WRITING
DOWN FIVE THINGS YOU’RE GRATEFUL
FOR YOU’RE NOT GOING TO THINK I
HAVE TO WAKE UP EARLY, GO TO
THIS JOB.
THIS JOB. >> DON’T GO ON TWITTER FIRST
THING.
THING. >> THAT’S THE PROBLEM WITH
SOCIAL MEDIA.
SOCIAL MEDIA. YOU’RE SURROUNDED BY FAKE
POSITIVITY OR POSITIVITY ONLY
PUT OUT THERE WITH NOTHING ELSE
EXPOSED, SO EVERYBODY IS
CONSTANTLY COMPARING THEMSELVES
TO OTHER PEOPLE.
>> WHICH THEN MAKES YOU FEEL
BAD.
BAD. >> POSITIVITY IS A REAL THING,
YOU’RE RIGHT.
YOU’RE RIGHT. THE FAKE PERFECT LIFE WHICH BUMS
EVERYBODY OUT.
EVERYBODY OUT. >> PEOPLE PRETENDING THEY ARE ON
VACATION ALL SUMMER LONG.
>> OR THEY DON’T HAVE THAT EXTRA
15 POUNDS.
15 POUNDS. YOU SEE THEM IN REAL LIFE AND
YOU’RE LIKE I KNOW YOU DO.
BY THE WAY, WHAT’S THAT APP?
>> NO ONE IS POSTING WHAT THEY
DON’T WANT YOU TO SEE, WHAT’S
NEGATIVE, IN YOUR HOME, WITHOUT
MAKEUP ON.
MAKEUP ON. >> THEY DON’T SEE THE ARGUMENTS
OR BILLS.
OR BILLS. >> IT CAN BE CATHARTIC TO HAVE
THAT LUNCH WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND,
THIS -- NINE TIMES OUT OF TEN
YOU WALK AWAY FEELING OH, NDM-1
OF YAY.
OF YAY. >> OR YOU DO IT WITH COLLEAGUES
AT WORK, YOU START FEELING LIKE
EVERYTHING IS WRONG.
>> YOU HAVE THE REACTION WHEN
THEY WALK INTO THE ROOM, HERE
COMES NEGATIVITY.
COMES NEGATIVITY. >> GO DOWN THAT PATH.
>> YOU DON’T WANT TO BE THAT
PERSON.
PERSON. QUICK LAST ONE.
"WASHINGTON POST" ASKING WHETHER
SUMMER FEELS SHORTER.
APPARENTLY MORE AND MORE ADULTS
ARE SAYING SUMMER FEELS SHORTER
THAN IT’S EVER BEEN.
CAN YOU RELATE TO THAT?
>> YES.
>> YES. >> ME, TOO.
>> GUESS WHAT, IT’S NOT.
>> ALL OF A SUDDEN THE END OF
JULY.
JULY. HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?
>> DON’T YOU FEEL LIKE WHEN WE
GET TO AUGUST SUMMER IS DONE.
>> MEMORIAL STARTS IT, JULY 4th
IS MIDDLE.
IS MIDDLE. >> WE HAVE TIME.
>> BUT ALL THE FALL CLOTHES ARE
BACK IN THE STORE AS OF AUGUST.
SCHOOLS ARE STARTING.
SOME START LIKE THE FIRST WEEK
OF AUGUST.
OF AUGUST. ONE OF MY AUDIENCE MEMBERS
SAYING THE OTHER DAY.
I FEEL LIKE IT’S ALL BEEN
CONDENSED.
CONDENSED. >> ALSO WHEN YOU’RE A MOM YOU
START GETTING E-MAILS.
I GOT AN E-MAIL ABOUT FALL
SOCCER.
SOCCER. I DON’T THINK TO THINK ABOUT
FALL SOCCER.
FALL SOCCER. LET’S LIVE IN THE SUMMER.
>> I’M STILL WORKING ON MY
NONTAN.
NONTAN. >> I’M STILL WORKING ON MY
NONBIKINI BOD.
NONBIKINI BOD. >> HERE IS SIX WEEKS LEFT OF
SUMMER TECHNICALLY ON THE
CALENDAR.
CALENDAR. SIX WEEKS.
SIX WEEKS. GREAT TO SEE YOU GUYS.
>> THANK YOU.
>> DON’T FORGET CONGRATULATIONS
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