Me? You want me to give a full presentation? You know I'm shy, I can't do it. Now has that
ever happened to you? Are you one of those people who’s generally shy by nature? And
finds it difficult to communicate with people especially crowds? Well let me tell you that
you are not alone. Millions of people all over the world struggle with shyness and the
good news is that you can overcome shyness.
Well my name is Rima and today we are going to talk about ways and means in which you
can overcome shyness.
Now the first thing I want to tell you is, accept yourself. That’s right, it seems
difficult, and it seems like something very, very tough to do. But trust me accepting yourself
for who you are, is the first step to overcoming shyness and I'm going to explain to you why.
Now let's say you want to be a certain way because society or people expect you to be
a certain way. Remember that you are who you are and you are who you are for a reason.
The universe wanted you to be a certain way for a reason. Maybe you have a few lessons
to learn, so the first step is, accept, accept, accept yourself for whoever you are, however
you are. that is the first step to wanting to change yourself because if you were completely
accept your own personality then you can work upon your personality, it's as easy as that.
So like let me tell you, when I was in school, I was a very, shy timid girl. It took me many,
many years to actually become open and confident and overcome my shy nature. So we are all
work in progress, nobody's perfect. Accept yourself, be who you are, because that will
make you appear confident. Once you start appearing confident, you'll start feeling
confident and you will be able to overcome your shy nature. So remember no matter who
you are, you're amazing, just accept yourself.
So you're serious about overcoming your shyness? Well I’m going to tell you one thing, find
your front row. No who is your front row? Let me explain. Imagine that you are performing
on stage, you know may be you are acting or singing, who would you like as your front
row audience? naturally you are going to pick the people that you love the most, the people
who love you, cherish you and support you unconditionally, which means your loving family
and friends. So that's right, they are your front row in life. What you need to do is,
you need to start focusing on overcoming your shyness with them first. So try to talk to
them more, try to open with them more. So as you continue to do this in your safe zone
among people who understand you completely, you will slowly be able to strangers as well.
So start with your front row and push yourself out of your comfort zone and that's going
to take you very far in overcoming your shyness.
Another effective way of overcoming shyness, is to stop the comparison game. That’s right,
we all end up comparing ourselves to so many other people in the world. But you know what,
if you stop comparing yourself with people and are happy and content to be who you are,
you will find that people respect you more. That’s right and you will start respecting
yourself more that way. So learn that you are unique so is everyone else, you can't
compare one with the other. Be yourself and just to be comfortable with your own skin,
that's right. You know like they always say people who are confident dressers enjoy carrying
the clothes they wear. Similarly, if you are comfortable in the shell of your body and
your personality, you'll appear confident, you'll appear relaxed, you'll appear at ease
and then if at all you notice a single personality flaw in yourself, like for example you think,
you need to work upon your shy nature, you'll do it with a lot of self-love and with lot
of respect towards yourself. The key is don’t put yourself down, don't compare yourself
with anyone else, coz that is not going to help you overcome anything. Overcome your
shyness by respecting yourself, loving yourself and realizing that you really are unique.
So if you are serious about overcoming your shyness, let me tell you that you need to
break out of your shell. That’s right, now as a shy person it seems very safe and comfortable
to live in your shell. But you need to break out of it, if you really want to overcome
your shy nature. Like for example, as a shy person, you may not go to certain places where
there are a lot of people or not attend certain parties or public gatherings. Now slowly,
slowly you need to come out of your shell and start attending events that you otherwise
would not have attended. Let’s say there's a party coming up, you normally skip that
party every year. But this year, you make a determination that yes I'm going to overcome
my shy nature and actually end up attending the party. Now take baby steps at first, you
don't need to attend the party and stay there till dawn. You could attend the party for
2 hours, make an attempt to actually socialize and talk to people and come back. And when
you realize the experience is not so bad, that will encourage you to attend the next
public gathering which is full of strangers who normally make you very nervous and anxious.
And let me tell you one thing, for human beings, habits are very important. If you make a habit
of talking to strangers of socializing, slowly, slowly you will adapt to it, your nature will
adapt to it and before you know it, you will be out of your shell and you won’t be so
shy anymore. So like I'm saying, wanna overcome your shyness, break out of that shell.
So talking about overcoming your shyness right? Would you like to talk to a person who is
kind of standing like this? who is slouching, whose posture is all over the place or whose
posture shows you that he or she is nervous, restless, timid, worried. Just wants to go
into a corner and hide. Clearly not, which is why I’m saying perfect your posture.
That’s right, when you want to overcome your shyness, make sure that you are paying
attention to your posture. If your shoulders are slouching, if you are appearing timid,
naturally people will consider you to not be confident. People will think you are shy
and you don't like people and they are not going to approach you. I would say, however
nervous you are feeling, straighten your spine, pull back your shoulder, stand straight, and
appear confident. When you appear like that, people will take you seriously and you will
start feeling more confident than you are and over a period of time, you'll start enjoying
that feeling of confidence, you'll start enjoying, being taken seriously and you will step out
of your shyness.
So if you are trying to overcome your shyness, I want to tell you one thing and I wanna tell
you that one thing with caution. Do not give up. Now in the beginning all your efforts
are going to be awkward, they are going to be uncomfortable. They are going to be way
out of your comfort zone. But you know that's how it is with most things. When you were
a baby and you were trying to learn how to walk, i don't think you would have gotten
it right on the first attempt. With a lot of help from your family members and your
mother, you probably got it right after a while. It's the same thing with anything new
that you are trying to do. If you are trying to overcome your shyness, not everyone is
going to be supportive, not everyone is going to be open to talking to you. You are going
to face rejection. You are going to face certain awkwardness, a certain discomfort with certain
people. Now just because some people treat you badly, the whole world is not bad. Make
sure that you do not lose hope, make sure that you do not give up and you continue to
make your efforts to overcome your shyness. And I promise you, yes it's Rima's promise,
gradually, slowly and steadily, you are going to get there and you're going to be able to
put your shyness behind you.
So talking about overcoming shyness are we? Well then, make that list. Now what list am
I talking about? I’m telling you that you need to make a list of all the activities
and tasks that make you feel all awkward, uncomfortable, nervous, shy, scared, intimidated,
all of that. Make a list of such things, such tasks and then commit to that list. Yes, you
need to do every task on that list with due diligence and sincerity without cheating.
And yes you can start with a task that makes you the least nervous and then gradually you
move on to the task that makes you The most nervous in front of people. Slowly
and steadily, as you start practising the things from this list, you will see yourself
becoming more open, more confident and then one fine day, you will snap out of your shyness.so
make sure you make that list and et kicking, if you really want to overcome your shyness.
So I hope you got a lot of helpful pointers to overcome your shyness from this video and
I'm going to take your leave, I’m going to catch you with the next video. But before
I go, I wanna tell you one thing, slow and steady wins the race and remember you maybe
be a shy person and there's nothing wrong with that. But deep inside of you, is hidden
a wonderful human being with a great personality, just remove the wrapping paper of your shyness
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