hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 mistakes nice guys always
make now let's begin number one nice is never enough this is a fundamental mistake that nice
guys make being nice doesn't mean you deserve a relationship many nice guys think respect and good
manners deserve to be rewarded but that rarely ever happens there's nothing wrong with being
a good person kindness is one of the best traits you can have but kindness doesn't create romance
by itself if you're just a nice guy being nice may be your worst enemy women like nice guys but they
don't date nice guys women may enjoy spending time with you they may consider you a good listener and
a good friend but that's about it being nice doesn't stir up any romantic feelings for them
it doesn't create the tension and chemistry that builds a romantic relationship so hey don't expect
romance whenever you're nice to someone not only is it unattractive it's actually manipulative
all right just think about it if you're only being nice to win someone over are you actually a good
person or are you just taking advantage of them nice guys find themselves disappointed and ignored
time after time they wait for their good manners to be rewarded but they never
are don't make this mistake any longer being nice is a start being nice can do you many favors but
good manners are not the way to a woman's heart especially if you expect something in return
number two muting your personality nice guys mute their personalities around women around
your friends you may be talkative and confident you may discuss your passions at length you make
jokes and enjoy being the center of attention but when you're around an attractive woman your
confidence plummets you transform into someone you're not instead of acting like yourself
you try really hard to act like a good guy you try to avoid all the mistakes other men make you don't
want to be a jerk you don't want to be selfish you don't want to be forceful now in theory this
should work right but nice guys never get the girl so why doesn't this strategy work because
you're not staying true to yourself you're copying a stereotype and you're pretending to be someone
you're not you're acting passive submissive and overly attentive most women will see right
through you the truth is women want someone with personality they don't want a cardboard cut out
of a person they don't want you to sit there and cater to them they're looking for someone with
interesting things to say a guy who has a sense of humor who isn't afraid to come out of his shell
so don't try to be something you're not be yourself if she doesn't like who you are well
it wasn't meant to be but you'll get a lot more attention when you stop muting your personality
number three waiting for a chance do you let her decide everything do you sit around
waiting for your crush to give you a shot this is a huge problem for nice guys they spend
enormous amounts of time laying the groundwork they pour hours into their potential partners
and then they wait for her to take the initiative but that's not what most women are looking for
if you want to be with someone it's your responsibility to take action
you have to show her that you're attracted to her by being confident and direct so stop putting
yourself in the backseat of your relationships you're not getting anywhere sitting on the
sidelines so take your shots if it all blows up in your face hey at least you know that you tried
number four falling too fast do you fall for every attractive girl you meet nice guys give away too
much too early they get swept up in the excitement of talking to an attractive woman so they over
commit without looking at the person inside because most women won't be a good fit for you
if you're looking for a partner 99 of the women in the world will clash with your personality
yet few men see beyond a woman's physical appearance especially in the beginning so
why do nice guys fall into this trap because desperation is blinding when you crave romance you
fall head over heels for anyone and everyone but women aren't interested in men who fall so easily
they encountered dozens if not hundreds of these guys on a regular basis so you're nothing special
that's why women are attracted to men who keep their distance men who aren't spellbound by
their good looks these men won't shower her with compliments or do her favors instead of rushing
to win her over these men make women chase them so stop yourself from falling too fast just because
someone's attractive that doesn't mean they're a good fit or even worth your time if you can
separate romantic interest and sexual attraction you stand a much better chance of developing real
chemistry number five mimicking her checklist have you ever asked the woman what she's looking for
she may say something like a guy who's sensitive or a good listener but is that really all women
want nice guys try to embody these traits they listen to what women want then they do their
best to copy exactly that they embody the kind sensitive listener that women say they're looking
for but women are only telling you half the story down the road they may want someone who's kind and
sensitive before any of that matters though women want someone who they're attracted to
women want someone who ignites romantic passion and makes them laugh someone who's
interesting intelligent and confident so don't try to embody a woman's checklist instead stir
up the romantic tension between you without romance your best qualities will go to waste
but once she's attracted to you she'll see your best qualities in a new light number six
flaunting your paycheck do you try to win women over with money you may be convinced that rich
men get more attention than poor men and sometimes that may be true but flaunting your wealth is not
going to make women like you all right let's take your fancy car for example 95 of women will not
care about what car you drive they care about the kind of person that steps out of that car
because a ferrari will never turn a nice guy into a confident partner confidence makes a bigger
impact than your paycheck ever will if you flaunt your money to win people over they'll know it
so put your brand names away and stop bragging about your wealth money will not do you any favors
number seven rejecting the game nice guys don't like to play games in fact many
nice guys actively reject the games people play in relationships but here's the truth if you
don't want to play games you're destined for failure people mislead and test each other all
the time men do it women do it it's because of these games that sexual chemistry exists at all
the beginning of any relationship whether it's casual or serious is a push and pull
both parties are trying to gauge the other's interest without giving too much away if you play
the game well you may have a romantic connection but if you avoid the game you don't stand a chance
it would be nice if relationships were straightforward if everyone was totally
honest right off the bat but it would also be boring and women don't like guys who are boring
number eight making excuses why don't women like you nice guys have a million answers to
this question women don't like me because i'm too short they don't like me because i'm too skinny
they don't like me because i'm not handsome enough but every single one of these answers
is wrong men of all shapes and sizes have success with women
you may blame your body but it's just an excuse you're passing the blame you're pretending
that you have no control over your success with women but your success is entirely in your hands
you can get women's attention just the way you are but first you have to come to terms with the
way you look the only thing standing in your way is your mindset not your height not your weight
it's your mental and physical confidence so stop making excuses and start changing your attitude
number nine too many favors do you do everything a girl asks of you are you always volunteering
your help nice guys make this mistake on a regular basis they're desperate for attention so they use
favors to prove how good of a guy they are but doing favors doesn't score you any points why
because confident self-respecting men don't beg for attention they don't use favors to
get on someone's good side they have personal boundaries and they're unwilling to cross them
now as strange as it sounds saying no is one of the most powerful things in a relationship
if you don't respect yourself and your time well she won't either
number 10 expecting recognition do you tell people that you're a nice person this is a
classic mistake that nice guys make they expect people to appreciate how nice they are they want
people to recognize how different they are from all the bad guys in the world but each
time you brag about being nice you're tanking your chances men who are genuinely nice don't
need to be identified as a nice guy they don't expect rewards or honors for being a decent person
so don't get upset when women don't recognize how nice you are if you want to be nice be
nice for the sake of being nice not because you're expecting a reward hey thank you for
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