Nope, it's not because
you're not Chad or Tyrone
with a six-figure income
and six-pack abs
but if you think that's what you need
then you're definitely in the right place today.
Because one of these five
surprising reasons
is likely why
you are unsuccessful
in meeting women.
If you're frustrated
with your lack of love life
then it could be
that frustration
is one of the signs.
Welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
Okay, we're going to go from
most obvious to most surprising
and then I’m going to share with you
what you can do about it
and where to meet women.
Number five,
you're an introvert,
lone wolf, or a sigma
hmm, interesting.
So, you either don't go out
or when you do
you tend to avoid people
including women.
And no, you're not going to
magically transport her
into your living room.
Maybe if she's AI
but if you want a real,
real woman with flesh
and fleshy flesh
then you're going to need to go out of your house.
I get it I can relate
I am an introvert surprise, surprise.
But unless you want to just do
online dating yeah,
can't stay inside always.
Which if you can relate to that one
then you might be able to relate
to this next one.
Number four,
you don't have
enough extroverted friends.
What if you don't even have any friends?
That's a problem
talk about that in a minute.
But the reason why
extrovert friends are valuable
to an introvert is because
extroverts tend to like to congregate
with other people.
That way, you can meet people through
people who are introverts.
And if you meet
women through friends of friends
they are more likely to be
friendly and welcoming
because you've already shown
social proof
by being associated with this other person
that she knows and potentially trusts
at least, in a social situation.
And as much as we love our introvert friends
those aren't the ones who tend to be out in the world
socializing with new people.
So, as much as it may pain you to do it
you need to say yes,
to some of those extrovert friends
who are inviting you out.
You don't have to stay long
just make it a point
to get out of your comfort zone
even for a little while
by showing up.
And the bonus is
when you meet friends through friends
there's no pressure for romance
you're just getting to know someone new.
Now, if you don't have a social life,
you don't have extrovert friends
that is something you're going to need to work on.
If you want to use this particular tool
to meet women.
And just like anything
social skills
are a skill they require practice,
failure, learning, repetition,
more effort, more practice.
You've got to try
if you want to get good
or get better at something you're not already good at
more on developing
the confidence to do that in a minute.
Okay, but let's say you are an extrovert
or at least you're an introvert
getting out in the world and you're still not
successful in meeting women.
It could be because of number three,
you're not initiating interaction
even if you don't have any friends.
If you go out in the world by yourself
you can still meet women
if you learn how to initiate
communication and engagement.
And it doesn't mean that the first girl you meet
is going to be your forever love,
probably not.
If you keep that in mind
then you won't get so invested in the outcome
of the first time you talk to someone.
It'll be more like
hey, I’m just going to try this
and see how I do.
I'm going to get out of my comfort zone
until it's no longer uncomfortable
because I've practiced enough
to get better at it.
Because the more you practice
the more likely you will have success
with a high value...
Okay yeah, I know all of you don't like that one,
but let's see the kind of woman
that you want to be with.
So, someone who is a really great woman.
Because right now
you being a good guy
not approaching women
those girls or women
are only getting approached by
super confident
maybe overly confident
arrogant guys
and or pickup artists.
So, they don't have the best experience.
Now, they maybe
probably will be
a little bit reserved
or maybe even standoffish
because that's
who they've had their experiences with.
Guys who are overly confident
or who are pickup artists
are the ones that show up
to actually engage in conversation.
So, if you are that one good guy
who's not just into sex,
not just into pump and dump
then you are going to stand out
from all the other sleazy guys that talk to her.
Unless she's only into
the pump and dump too,
which might be the case.
In which case, that's her prerogative
and you have a choice to make.
So, don't make it about
finding love right away.
Make it about being curious about women,
about people in general
that'll help you a lot if you go into
all your conversations
your initiations your communications
with the attitude of curiosity not outcome.
Because if it is only
about finding love
or finding waah waah
then she's going to feel that
and it's going to be a turn off.
You're going to come across as needy.
No, woman likes needy unless she's
emotionally damaged
and you don't want that I'm pretty sure.
All right, now this leads us to
our next surprising
reason why you're unsuccessful at meeting women.
Number two, you have a negative
confirmation bias
about women
or about life in general.
This is understandable,
it's a self protection mechanism.
Iif you've been disappointed in the past
because you've been rejected,
or you've ended up with someone who's not great
then you have those past experiences
that your subconscious mind is like,
women are dangerous.
Or all women are
insert negative whatever
and then if you have that attitude
it's going to come across in all your interactions,
and you're going to miss opportunities
with women who are actually
good women.
In other words, you might have a bad attitude
toward meeting women
because it's safer
than hoping and then being disappointed.
And then the few times you do try
because you're expecting it not to go well,
you act anxious or awkward
and then of course, it doesn't go well,
and then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy,
which brings us to number one,
and then I’m going to share
how you can build confidence
to get past your comfort zone
and where to meet women.
Number one,
you have a paralyzing
fear of rejection.
You get anxious
and because you feel like
you're a shy guy
or maybe just not confident
in the area of meeting women,
you assume you're going to fail.
So, then you buy into the idea
that women only want
the rich successful Chads of the world.
If you look around
you may start to notice
if you look for it
there are a lot of couples
and there are very few Chads and Tyrones
in those couples.
The good news and the less good news is
it's all about you.
That's good because it means
that even if you're not very good at something right now
you can learn to get better at it.
That's you,
you have that responsibility
you have that opportunity.
The less good news is
you're going to have to get out of your comfort zone to do it.
Now, if you decide to do that
then hi 10 my friend,
because that requires
a *** ton of courage.
Courage is sexy
remember, it's going to require failing
failing before you can get better.
If you need
some help with confidence
even if it's just in this one little area with women
then I invite you to get my free
instant confidence cheat sheet
I will put a link below
or there or there, somewhere.
And if you're already brave
and you're just like where the heck
are the good ones?
Then you're going to want to watch my video
on 15, places
to meet good women
that are not
a bar or night club.
In fact,
one of these places
is where I met Nick,
an elderly gentleman
who propositioned me
yeah, for ***.
You're going to have to watch that video
to see what I said.
But let me tell you this,
if old Nick, thinks he can pick up chicks
you can too.
Thanks for being here, God bless.
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