By the end of this video.
You are going to have 10 ways to take
the ultimate revenge on the narcissist.
So make sure you stay tuned and watch till the end.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I am a narcissist negotiation expert
and an attorney
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Really how to shift the dynamic and take your power back against narcissist.
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All right. So narcissist constantly are going after you.
In fact, with narcissists.
It's always black and white with them.
It's either you're for them or against them.
It's never really in between because you exist
totally to give them narcissistic supply
and what that means is they really
just see you as an extension of whatever they need.
You exist to serve their needs.
They need you to feed their ego
and so everything exists to to feed their their need,
their endless need for narcissistic supply
and so if you aren't for them,
if you're not going to feed their need for narcissistic supply,
then you're just useless.
So you might as well just be against them
and so then you just become Public Enemy Number One.
Then they just need to take you down
because they don't want you to make them look bad.
They need to take you down before you can take them down.
So then they have to go after you
so you can take the ultimate revenge on them
and there are a number of different ways
that you can do that and it's a different way,
by the way, then they want to take revenge on you because for them
it's more about making you squirm
and getting supply.
Okay, because it's always about getting supply.
It's the only thing for them.
For normal people, for people who aren't narcissus.
We are motivated by lots of different things.
We can be motivated by love of our children
wanting to do thing for our children,
you know, wanting to do good for other people.
Maybe it's money. Maybe it's wanting to do good for mankind,
you know, there's lots of different things that motivate us.
For Narcissists,
It's really just to feed their egos.
So let's talk about how to take
the ultimate revenge on narcissists.
I just had a conversation with my husband this morning.
It’s very fresh in my mind because we have a family member
who is a narcissist who just constantly
trying to do things to trigger
and so it's a constant test,
you know, they are always testing.
They're always looking to try to trigger you
and if you can really learn how to not get triggered,
that is such a great way to take revenge
on them because that is what they want.
They want that supply.
They enjoy watching you get triggered.
They get supply from that.
They actually get a high from that.
I know it's sick.
I know it's twisted.
It's really disgusting.
It's kind of gross.
It is just what it is.
I mean, I remember somebody that we knew was a narcissist.
My husband and I and and this guy would go,
Oh, yeah, now we're having a conversation now.
It's now we're getting somewhere.
He actually would like enjoy when somebody would get upset
or somebody would like even start to get emotional.
He would actually enjoy that.
He would say he would think now we're getting somewhere,
but that's how it is with them.
So number one is don't get triggered.
Don't actually just like not only don't get
triggered but don't even go there,
don't get into that conversation.
Not only don't get triggered, but don't get into the mud.
Don't get down and dirty with them.
Because when you do that,
that's when you are potentially giving them fodder,
giving them evidence, giving them potential trial exhibits.
Doing all sorts of things that could potentially get you into
trouble that they can potentially use against you.
Because remember, when you are litigating with a narcissist,
it's almost like getting arrested.
Anything you do or say could potentially be used against you.
Remember that, remember anything you put your hand to,
it's a potential trial exhibit.
So that's number two.
So so important, you know,
they're really used to getting their way with you.
Sometimes years conditioning you.
You know, they knew how to condition you.
They check to see if you were going to be a good form of supply.
Early on, they worked on you for a long time.
They use the fact that you were a good person.
They use the fact that you were an empathic person.
You know, they did things where they check to see
if you were going to get you know say anything
or do something about it
and then now here you are
and you’re where you are this point.
By the way, don't beat yourself up over it.
Be you are where you are.
Wherever you are, is the jumping off point
and wherever you are,
you can turn it around. Now is where you turn it around.
Now, is where you shift the dynamics.
So, now is where you stand your ground.
So number three is stand your ground.
You made an offer in this negotiation,
you stand your ground.
This is one of the things they do often
is they move goal posts in the negotiations
and why do they do that?
They get supply from it.
and they enjoy the process of intimidating you.
People think narcissist just want to win.
That is such a huge myth.
They don't just want to win.
They also enjoy moving the goalposts.
They enjoy intimidating you.
They enjoy watching you squirm.
That's why these cases last so long.
That's why they cost so much money.
That's why it's really really important
for you to develop a strategy.
To develop leverage, to anticipate, to focus on you.
That that's my SLAY methodology.
You have to slay
and if you agree with me
put slay in the comments right now.
SLAY.
That is what you're going to do.
You are going to slay
and if you want to know more
about why narcissist move goal post,
check out my video called why narcisissists move goal posts.
So many times when all of this is going down,
all of a sudden they're going to be super nice.
Oh, wow, what's going on?
Their being so nice all of the sudden.
If they're hoovering,
they're just gonna try to see what's going on here.
Let me try to be super nice.
You start hoovering.
Hmm.
Maybe that's an opportunity that you can get them to sign something.
Grab that opportunity when you can,
that's number five.
part of my sleigh strategy.
So that's number six.
You have court orders.
They violate them, file that motion for contempt,
motion to compel, whatever it is.
You need to file it, right away,
Number seven. That's really, really important.
as soon as you get agreement,
Get it in writing or follow-up.
Confirmation, confirmation text, confirmation email,
whatever you need to do.
Make sure it gets memorialized
somehow because if you don't,
it never happened, it's not in writing.
It never happened, especially with narcissist.
You know, what I'm saying is correct.
Please, forgive yourself.
Whatever happened,
it happened in the past.
Narcissists really really good at what they do.
They are absolutely the masters at manipulation.
Super super good at what they do.
So charismatic. So eloquent.
So good at reading people
and understanding how to manipulate people.
So just forgive yourself.
Move on.
You now know you are woke so you
can only go from here forward, right?
Now you know you'll never ever be in this position ever again.
as I always say,
wipe them from the CPU of your life.
If you can do that, that is the ultimate revenge.
If you can disappear them from your life.
That is what they really really don't want
and that is definitely the ultimate revenge.
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