A POPULAR YOUTUBER BY THE NAME OF MATT SANTORO RECENTLY
RELEASED A VERY PUBLIC STATEMENT ON HIS BLOG CHANNEL TALKING
ABOUT AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP THAT HE ENDED BACK IN SEPTEMBER.
UNDERSTAND THAT HE DID NOT REVEAL THE NAME OF THIS
INDIVIDUAL, THERE IS A LOT OF SPECULATION AS TO WHO THE
INDIVIDUAL IS, BUT THE FOURTEEN MINUTE LONG VIDEO IS
SOMETHING THAT EVERYONE SHOULD WATCH IN ITS ENTIRETY.
I WILL GIVE YOU MORE DETAILS, BUT LET'S LOOK AT A CLIP OF WHAT
HE HAD TO SAY.
THIS INDIVIDUAL THAT I WAS WITH FORCED ME TO PUSH EVERYBODY
OUT OF MY LIFE.
I PUSHED MY FAMILY AWAY, I PUSHED MY CLOSEST FRIENDS
AWAY, AND IT WASN'T ALWAYS EXPLICIT.
IT WASN'T ALWAYS LIKE, PUSH THAT PERSON AWAY, PUSH THAT
PERSON AWAY, DELETE THEM OFF SOCIAL MEDIA; ALTHOUGH THAT
WAS THE CASE, MOSTLY WITH FEMALES STOP THIS
INDIVIDUAL THAT I WAS WITH WAS VICIOUSLY JEALOUS.
IF I HAD A FEMALE FRIEND, I MUST HAVE BEEN CHEATING ON HER
WITH THEM.
I HAD BEEN CHEATING ON THEM THE WHOLE TIME.
I HAD TO CUT EVERY FEMALE OUT OF MY LIFE, OUT OF SOCIAL MEDIA.
DELETE EVERY NUMBER OUT OF MY PHONE.
AND IT WAS BECAUSE EVERYTHING WAS MADE TO BE ABOUT HER.
I LOST MY FRIENDS, I LOST MY CLOSEST FRIENDS BECAUSE I
WAS MADE TO BELIEVE THAT EVERYBODY ELSE WAS A LOSER.
EVERYBODY ELSE IN MY LIFE THAT DID NOT AGREE WITH THIS
RELATIONSHIP?
THEY ARE LOSERS, THAT IS WHY THEY ARE SAYING THESE
THINGS AND YOU NEED TO CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
SO I DID.
EARLY IN THE RELATIONSHIP, WE HAD ñ I HAD A VERBAL ALTERCATION
WITH THIS INDIVIDUAL, WHERE
AFTER I HAD A PANIC ATTACK ONE NIGHT, BECAUSE I COULD NOT
HANDLE WALKING ON EGGSHELLS
AROUND THIS PERSON, SO I LEFT AN EVENT THAT I WAS AT AND I
BROKE IT OFF WITH THIS INDIVIDUAL.
THIS PERSON PREVENTED ME FROM LEAVING THEIR HOME, AND
THAT YOU AREN'T GOING ANYWHERE.
AT THIS POINT I WAS HIT IN THE FACE.
OKAY, SO, I HAVE SOME MIXED FEELINGS ABOUT THIS.
WE KNOW WHO IT IS, BUT LET ENDING GIVE YOU DETAILS
MORE AND THEN I WILL TELL YOU WHERE I COME OUT ON IT.
I WANT YOU GUYS TO WATCH THE FULL VIDEO, WHICH IS TOO
LONG AND WE CAN'T SHOW YOU IN THIS VIDEO, BUT IT STARTS
OUT WITH HIM CRYING.
ANYONE WHO WATCHES THAT, IT DOESN'T STRIKE YOU AS
INAUTHENTIC OR INSINCERE.
YOU CAN TELL HE IS HURTING, THAT HE HAS GONE THROUGH SOME STUFF.
ALSO, HE IS A MAN, AND IT IS REALLY DIFFICULT FOR MEN TO
COME FORWARD AND TALK ABOUT THEIR EXPERIENCE AS
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE VICTIMS.
USUALLY IT IS THOUGHT ABOUT AS A WOMEN'S ISSUE, AND IF YOU
ARE A MAN, DON'T TALK ABOUT IT BECAUSE THAT MAKE YOU WEAK.
I WANT PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND, THAT IS NOT WHAT MY MIXED
FEELINGS ARE ABOUT.
I BELIEVE HIM 100 PERCENT, AND HIS PARTNER IS A TOTAL DOUCHE
BAG.
THERE IS A LOT OF SPECULATION ABOUT WHO IT IS, AND UNDERSTAND
THAT THIS IS NOT SET IN STONE, BUT IT IS WELL DOCUMENTED THAT
HE WAS DATING THE ARBITER, THAT NOTORIOUS, TERRIBLE PERSON ON
YOUTUBE THAT MADE THAT 'DEAR FAT
PEOPLE VIDEO.'
SHE SAID, "HEARD THE LITTLE BITCH I DUMPED MONTHS
AGO IS STILL TRYING TO USE MEDIA
ATTENTION ON HIS VLOG CHANNEL.
EW."
HE HAS MORE THAN 700,000 ON
HIS VLOG CHANNEL, ON HIS OTHER GENERAL HE HAS 5,000,000.
SHE HAS 200,000.
PRETTY SURE HE'S NOT TRYING TO GET ATTENTION BY NAMING YOU.
ALSO, YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CAME FORWARD AND CALLED HIM A BITCH,
WHILE CLAIMING THAT YOU WEREN'T ABUSIVE.
YOU ARE NOBODY, YOU ARE DISCUSSING, AND YOU ARE
NOTORIOUS FOR BEING DISGUSTING.
FOR YOU TO COME AT HIM LIKE THIS MAKES ME DESPITE EVEN MORE.
NICOLE ARBOR CLAIMED AFTER SHE DID THOSE VIDEOS THAT
SHE WAS GETTING ALL THESE SPONSORS AND STUFF.
SO SHE ADMITS IT.
SHE IS ALMOST LIKE A DONALD TRUMP OF YOUTUBE.
SO WHEN THIS PERSON GIVES HEARTFELT PLEA, SHE CALLED HIM A
LITTLE BITCH.
SHE IS OBVIOUSLY THE ONE WHO WANTS ATTENTION.
WITH LESS SUBSCRIBERS, AND IT LETS VIEWERS, ATTACK
SOMEONE BIGGER THAN YOU AND JUST SAY THAT THEY ARE TRYING TO
GET ATTENTION.
I'M PRETTY SURE YOU ARE TRYING TO GET ATTENTION.
YOU ARE JUST HONESTLY A MORALLY BANKRUPT PERSON.
SHE ALSO BRAGS ABOUT THAT SHE DOES TERRIBLE THINGS FOR
PUBLICITY.
SHE BRAGS ABOUT THAT WHILE SHE DOES PRESS INTERVIEWS.
IN MY OPINION, SHE IS A SMALL PART OF THIS STORY.
THE BIG PART OF THE STORY IS, THERE'S A HUGE NUMBER OF
MEN WHO ARE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND RAPE, AND THEY
DON'T GET TAKEN SERIOUSLY.
THE STATISTICS ON THAT ARE QUESTIONABLE, BECAUSE A LOT OF
THEM ARE DETERRED OR RELUCTANT
TO REPORT IT.
WE NEED TO CHANGE THE CULTURE, BECAUSE THEY NEED TO REPORT IT.
IF ANYONE ABUSES ANYONE, THEY NEED TO BE DEALT WITH AND
PERSECUTED TO THE EXTENT OF THE LAW.
I WAS BLOWN AWAY WHEN I FOUND OUT THAT THEY WERE ACTUALLY MORE
MEN RAPED IN THIS COUNTRY THAN
WOMEN IF YOU TAKE INTO ACCOUNT PRISON.
IN THIS CASE IT HAPPENS TO BE PHYSICAL DOMESTIC ABUSE,
AND THEN PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE.
SHE HIT HIM, THAT'S ASSAULT.
THE WAY THIS CAME ABOUT, IT HAPPENED A LONG TIME AGO,
HE DID THIS VIDEO BACK IN SEPTEMBER 2015.
HE DID NOT MAKE IT PUBLIC, SO OBVIOUSLY HE HAD MIXED
FEELINGS ABOUT SHARING IT.
SOMEHOW HIS FANS STARTED TO FIND OUT, YOU HAVE DESPITE A
VIDEO ON THEIR WHAT IS IT ABOUT?
I CANNOT TELL IF IT WAS ACCIDENTALLY MADE PUBLIC, BUT
ONCE IT WAS MADE PUBLIC HE JUST DECIDED TO LEAVE IT OUT THERE.
HE DID NOT PRESS CHARGES OR GO IN THAT DIRECTION, SO THAT
IS PROBABLY DONE WITH.
ALTHOUGH HE COULD CHANGE HIS MIND.
ON THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE, IS NOT THAT I DON'T FEEL FOR HIM
ñ I DO, AND THAT HAPPENS A LOT.
THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE IN RELATIONSHIPS, MEN AND
WOMEN, WHO PUT A TON OF PRESSURE ON THE OTHER PERSON.
GET RID OF YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND, FAMILY MEMBERS, ETC.
IT IS AMAZING HOW OFTEN THAT HAPPENS.
THE REASON I HAVE MIXED FEELINGS IS, NUMBER ONE THAT IS NOT
A PROSECUTABLE OFFENSE.
YOU HAVE TO FIGURE THAT OUT ON YOUR OWN.
IT IS A PHENOMENON, IT IS NOT A PHENOMENON THAT YOU CAN
PRESS CHARGES ON.
IT IS JUST SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH.
SO I FEEL WEIRD, I DON'T AGREE THAT IT SHOULD BE PUT IN THE
ABUSE CATEGORY.
THAT IS A REAL ISSUE, IT IS A SIGNIFICANT ISSUE.
IT IS NOT EASY AND I AM NOT SAYING IT IS EASY, BUT WHAT I AM
ASKING MEN AND WOMEN TO DO, IF
YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT, YOU HAVE TO
UNDERSTAND THAT IT IS OKAY TO SAY NO.
NO I AM NOT GOING TO DO THAT, I AM NOT GOING TO CUT MY
FRIENDS OUT OF MY LIFE.
IF YOU DON'T LIKE THAT, THEN YOU DON'T LIKE ME AND WE HAVE
TO PART WAYS.
I HEAR WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, AND IN HIS CASE I THINK THAT IT
IS A LITTLE EASIER TO WALK AWAY FROM THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE OR
SAY NO, HOWEVER THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE IN RELATIONSHIPS WHERE
THEY ARE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT.
DAY WILL BE PSYCHOLOGICALLY ABUSE, AND I WILL SEE IT
FIRSTHAND, THEY HAVE NO CHOICE.
IT IS A DIFFICULT SITUATION.
ONCE YOU GET MARRIED, IT GETS MUCH HARDER.
AND IT IS NOT JUST WOMEN OR MEN WHO ARE FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT,
ONCE YOU HAVE KIDS WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE THE KIDS.
THE LEVERAGE CHANGES, IT IS MUCH HARDER TO GET OUT OF IT.
SO BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MARRY, AND WHILE YOU ARE DATING, IF
YOU SEE THE WARNING SIGNS, DON'T BE AFRAID TO COME FORWARD.
BECAUSE THEN MEN ARE PUT IN AN UNWINNABLE SITUATION.
IF SOMEBODY HITS YOU, YOU WANT TO HIT BACK, YOU ARE SCREWED.
IF YOU DON'T HIT BACK, ARE YOU JUST GOING TO TAKE IT?
YOU HAVE TO DRAW THE LINE.
1 WAYS TO LEGALLY DRAW THE LINE.
THIS IS HIS OWN STRUGGLE, AND WHENEVER WE COVER THE STORIES I
FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE PRESSURING SOMEONE TO DO ONE THING OR
ANOTHER BUT I DO WISH THAT HE REPORTED IT RIGHT AWAY, AND
THAT AUTHORITIES GOT INVOLVED.
BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW SO FAR, AND WHO KNOWS, OTHER FACTS TO
COME OUT IN THE FUTURE, BUT BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW SO FAR HE
DID NOT HIT HER BACK.
I GAVE HIM SO MUCH CREDIT FOR THAT, FOR COMING OUT AND
TALKING ABOUT HIS EXPERIENCES, BECAUSE WE DO LIVE IN A
MEDIEVAL SOCIETY THAT TENDS TO LOOK DOWN ON GUYS TO COME
OUT AND SAY THEY ARE VICTIMS.
IF SOMEONE IS PRESSURING YOU TO DO THINGS YOU DON'T WANT
TO DO, IT IS NOT GOING TO WORK OUT IN THE LONG RUN.
EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO PRESS CHARGES, ONE CLEAR
WAY TO DRAW THE LINE IS THAT IT IS DONE.
SHE HITS YOU, WE ARE NOT HAVING A FURTHER CONVERSATION.
THIS RELATIONSHIP IS OVER, PACK YOUR BAGS
AND GO HOME.
BY THE WAY, THIS IS A TOTAL SIDE NOTE, YOU ARE HOT DUDE.
HE IS A GOOD-LOOKING, SUCCESSFUL GUY.
I'M SURE THERE ARE PLENTY OF WOMEN WHO WILL TREAT YOU
WELL AND BE GOOD TO YOU.
NICOLE ARBOR IS GARBAGE.