- Now, there are three traits in a woman
that make a man pursue you,
and I would say that these are so counterintuitive
to what all of you sexy, single ladies
are probably doing out there that I would actually
go so far to say that these are (bleep) weird.
And if right now you're struggling
to get the right man to pursue you,
chances are you are doing the opposite of these things,
hate to say it.
And what's worse is that because they are counterintuitive,
you're going home every single night wondering
what am I doing wrong,
and you're starting to think that it has something
to do with who you are as a person.
It's almost like the equivalent of like
before you go out at night,
you're putting on what you think is great perfume,
you're smelling good, but really you're just spraying
all over you like raw sewage that it's just repelling men.
And what's best is once you actually understand these traits
you can implement this stuff instantly, keep watching.
Hey there, you sexy, single ladies,
Adam LoDolce from sexyconfidence.com
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So let's jump right into these three weird traits
that will make a man pursue you.
The first trait that'll make a man pursue you
is being the type of woman who is just happy
and content being single.
Now, this is weird and kind of counterintuitive
because if you're going on a date,
shouldn't you be talking about how you want a relationship,
and potentially marriage?
Maybe not with that guy but marriage in the future
and that white picket fence stuff.
Yeah, sure you can talk about that as you progress along.
I'd say that's date three to five stuff,
or certainly beyond if you're talking about marriage.
That's more like once you're in a committed relationship.
You keep that type of conversation to that point in time.
But when you're first starting to meet people,
really people are looking for a feeling,
a vibe that they get from you,
and if that's vibe that they are putting out there
is that I'm not happy with my current situation,
and I need you to be in my life in order to feel happy,
then they are going to instantly be repelled
because they are going to think
that you are a little bit desperate.
And what's really funny, and I've noticed this
over the past, I don't know, nine years
of being a dating coach for both men and women, by the way,
is that the moment you actually become legitimately,
and I'm talking about like legitimately,
on a deep internal level,
legitimately happy and content being single
is the very moment you meet someone who makes you un-single.
And, look, the reality is you don't need a relationship
in order to be happy, and in fact,
I don't want you to find a relationship
until you are content with yourself and your own life
because what's gonna happen is
if you don't have your (bleep) together,
you're just going to drag all of that (bleep) baggage
to a relationship and then things are going to explode,
and you're gonna wonder why don't things work out for me?
The sexiest thing in a woman is a woman
who is absolutely excited about her own life.
The second weird trait that will make a man pursue you,
and this one is very counterintuitive as well,
which is calling a guy out on his bull (bleep).
Now, you'd think that the classic Southern belle charmer
and polite woman who says yes to every single thing
that a guy ever asks for,
you'd think that that would be the woman
who gets pursued by all the men,
but it is not necessarily the case.
In fact, the type of woman that men are generally drawn to
are the challenge and the type of woman who will challenge
them on not only an emotional level,
but also on a spiritual level, right.
The type of woman where if I'm being a (bleep) head,
or if I'm, like for Jessica, for example,
sometimes I will make absurd statements
just to make the statement,
or I'll exaggerate in a conversation
just to be able to prove my point,
and she'll be the very first person to call me out
on my bull (bleep).
And, to me, that was very novel and it was very new
and it was actually very exciting,
and this is a trait that I've noticed across many
of the women who find themselves in great relationships,
and find themselves having lots of options of men,
are the type of women who aren't scared to call out guys
when they're just being ridiculous.
This, I feel like, is the essence of sexy confidence.
That is what it means to be sexy confident,
is that you know that you have so much to bring to the world
that you're willing to be authentic and real with people,
even if it means calling out a guy
when he's being a (bleep).
And, finally, the third weird trait that will make men
pursue you is just being a little bit mysterious.
You would think that if you're going out
and meeting someone for the first time,
that it would make most sense to really tell them
everything about your life so that they understand
who you are, your background,
what it is that you're interested in,
what it is you're not interested in.
All of the best stories of all of the best things
that have ever happened in your life, where you've traveled.
And, yeah, that is all well and good,
but what that doesn't do is leave any type
of mystery in the relationship.
The way to keep getting someone coming back,
and by the way, this works on you women as well,
when us guys are being a little bit mysterious,
is to leave a little bit of a question in the person's head,
be like who is this person?
She said that she's an attorney,
but she also likes to go to crazy, rock,
dive bars on the weekends.
Especially when it doesn't match up
and you can't quite categorize that person,
suddenly, now, people are going to want
to pursue you even further.
As opposed to going out with a person,
and I've been out with many women who have done this,
where they just feel the need to share
their entire life story so that you understand
every single facet of who they are
before you even invite them on a second date.
So I ask you, which one of these three traits
do you wanna work on the most?
Leave a comment right there below,
and if you have any questions you want me
to answer in any future videos,
also feel free to leave that question right there below.
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men are going to naturally want to pursue you.
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Thank you so much for watching and I'll speak to you,
you sexy, single lady, next week, bye-bye.