either you're gonna get in line with her rhythm if you're not in her rhythm eff off. welcome back to Neemah Speaks
a place where I empower women throughout the diaspora remember, don't you know that a man
being rich is like a girl being pretty! you might not marry a girl just because she's pretty but
my goodness doesn't it help with your host nema speaks today we're going to be doing a review
on the book why men love [ __ ] now this is part two review for this book before we get started as
always i say this don't judge a book by its cover this book name triggers a lot of people in my last
video I had people who tell me I am not a [ __ ] if a man wants me to be a [ __ ] he can go to blah
blah blah now ladies don't take everything literally so we're gonna start by defining
who is a quote-unquote [ __ ] a [ __ ] is a woman who won't bang her head against the
wall obsessing over someone else's opinion. not a man or anyone else in her life a [ __ ] she
understands that if someone does not approve of her it's just one person's opinion therefore
it's not of no real importance a [ __ ] she does not try to live up to anyone else standard only
her own. because of this, she relates to a man very differently. so again, this is a definition of
what it means to be a [ __ ] now without further ado let's go ahead and learn the four lessons that
you can learn from this book why men love [ __ ] let's go. The first important lesson from the
book why men love [ __ ] is that when you act like you want to do everything you will get stuck doing everything!
now ladies I can hear it going through your mind now what Sherry was saying here is that:
the [ __ ] understand the importance of not trying to quote unquote prove herself and prove that she
can do it a lot of women fall into this trap where they try so hard to prove that they are women
enough they are human enough that they can do it all but as cheryl put it when you act like you
can do everything by yourself you will get stuck doing everything by yourself the reality is that
nobody want to help somebody who is annoying all if you know you can do everything by yourself
why should somebody else bother coming to your aid and i may be like nima explain it to me especially
when women are in a relationship for example you ask your significant other can you take out
the trash now they didn't take out the trash until three hours later three hours later they did their
thing and then they took out the trash but now you are upset because they did not take out the trash
right away hear me out i'm going somewhere with this i'm trying to prove this point so you got mad
and angry because they did not take out the trash when you told them to now what would most women do
they'll say oh my god i can take out the trash my dang old self i just wanted you to do it blah blah
blah you start nagging and you get angry and upset the next two weeks what do you do you ask them can
you take out the trash but at the end of the day you end up doing it yourself because you're uncle
trying to prove to him i don't need you anyway i can do it myself blah blah blah so you condition
this person yes even though i'm asking you to take out the trash i'm doing it myself so what is the
point of the other person trying to help you when you act like you can do everything by yourself
you get stuck doing everything yourself the [ __ ] understand that i don't gotta prove a dang
on thing a bias she doesn't try to go out of her way to prove herself she doesn't do that
but most women the kronko denies girl who end up being doormat they're always oh i'm gonna
prove myself i am a feminist oh i'm strong i'm independent i can do it i can push it and then
at the end of the day they start complaining and they start saying i always have to do everything
right everything falls under me i am tired i'm exhausted because i am now wearing the pants
in this relationship so the first important lesson you can learn from this book
is that when you act like you can do everything you get stuck doing everything now i can hear
your thought down comment you tell me nema i'm strong independent woman if a man does not
want to help me he can go out of my life i don't have to not show my strength blah blah blah blah
first of all first of all enough okay if you like the way your life is keep it going
if you would like to change hear me out when i say sometimes you gotta relinquish
the tendency to want to take charge and allow them allow them to help you out
a [ __ ] does not reward bad behaviors let me be like neymar girl
what do you mean i am rewarding bad behavior a lot of women are allowing men to get away with
disrespecting you if you are a doormat and a pushover you allow men to disrespect you
you allow men to push your boundaries to push you until you're at the brink of cracking up and just
losing your shaisa what does the [ __ ] do the [ __ ] she does not reward a man's bad behavior
why because the [ __ ] understand that a man won't respect a woman who goes into overdrive to please
him so maybe like mima okay so what do you mean i am rewarding his bad behavior let's use the first
example just use you told him to go take out the trash and he didn't do it right away he did it two
hours later but then the week following you took out the trash anyways right because you're strong
and you want to please him but what [ __ ] does is that she doesn't reward his bad behavior if i ask
you to do something and you just disregard me and you don't do it that means you're disrespecting me
with your action you're telling me you don't give a dang as what i'm trying to tell you so
what does the [ __ ] do a [ __ ] goes back and distance herself a [ __ ] she does not reward
bad behavior you do want to take out the trash fine we're gonna let the trash stay in the house
stinking up the house i am not gonna mention it ever again i told you once you didn't do it
fine but i am not gonna be sitting here trying to take out the trash myself and
when you back away just remove yourself from the situation a [ __ ] does not reward bad behavior
she removed herself from the situation she doesn't go into overdrive and start nagging and start
yelling and start screaming she just retreat because once you retreat back the man is
gonna notice right because most of the time they're used to women nagging at them screaming
at them four six times to tell them take out the trash take out the trash check out the trash
but when you do the opposite you ask him once he didn't do it and then you never bring it up
again and just let the trash sit there literally it's not petty it's just you're teaching him that
that was rude and disrespectful and you don't want to take the trash okay what's the consequences of
that our house is just gonna smell and that's how it is so a [ __ ] just retreat back and you can
use this in different scenarios in different example where you don't start to nag and
scream just retreat do you love books but you're too lazy to read well i have a solution for you go
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the perks the third lesson you can learn from the book why men love [ __ ] is that keep him guessing
now ladies when i heard this advice i was like you know what i'm gonna admit it i am a [ __ ] because
i do this perfectly i'm not here to tell you to play games and be obnoxious but when i say keep
him guessing what exactly does that mean alter your routine to keep him on his toes
now maybe like nima why should i change my routine why is that important because a lot of women
have allowed men to become complacent and there is no mystery about you a [ __ ] she is mysterious
a [ __ ] doesn't allow a man to know her routine from when she wake up by the time she hit the
pillow again if you're in that situation where a man can guess where you are what you're doing
what's happening in your life 24 7 then it's time for you to alter your routine it's time to you to
try to keep him guessing so what exactly does that mean when you hear him pulling up in the driveway
you usually rush to the door and you greet him at the door i saw this in my family because my mom
did this but what my mom would do is that she will be somewhere in the house doing something
and my dad literally would have to get off from the door and try to go find her she did not just
run to the door to come greet him as we the kid did so if you usually greet him by the door
do something different when he comes on the next time be in the bedroom or
i don't know be somewhere in the house where he has to come and find you because it's gonna give
him a moment to pause and realize hold on a second she's not here she's not greeting me at the door
where is she that's what i mean when i say alto your routine and keep him guessing the biage
understand the importance of element of surprise and the biage keeps her men on the toes without
being extremely childish without playing any games because mystery is fun we all love
a little bit of mystery in our life alter your routine don't become predictable because when
things are predictable we lose interest so easily if you know what's the outcome it's gonna be
you are not gonna be focused to that thing you're not gonna put effort because you're like i already
know what the end game is i already know at the end of the day this is what's gonna happen
so again keep him guessing the fourth lesson that you can learn from the book why men love
[ __ ] is that be an independent thinker now maybe like nema girl what the [ __ ] is an independent
thinker all the time the [ __ ] ignores anyone who attempts to define her in any limiting
way now this is one of the lesson that i was like oh my god yes yes yes
i am a [ __ ] okay when i heard this i was like boo i am a [ __ ] sign me up and this is extremely
important for you my ladies to understand this be an independent thinker stop allowing and
ignore all the people who try to put you in this little tiny box and keep you there what
exactly does that mean whether it's your taste in clothing your needs in a relationship or what you
do for a living a [ __ ] does not let anyone else be at the control and define who she is
the minute you become an independent thinker and you start thinking for yourself
a few things will happen first of all people who want to be in your life will come to you
because you are who you are you say what you mean and you mean what you say you don't accept bs
a beach insisted that you want a provider men and that's what she want she's not gonna be going
around trying to say oh there's an exception here no that's what she wants that's what she's gonna
get if people call her a gold digger she give them the middle finger and keep him moving okay of
course not the middle finger literally but in her head she's giving you the middle finger
saying so what your opinion is like the bottom and everybody have it right it stink like our armpit
everybody have it when you become an independent thinker you become a magnet because you're
living in your true self you're not trying to compromise the [ __ ] does not compromise
she said she won this that's what she want either you're gonna get in line with her rhythm if you're
not in her rhythm f off move on okay excuse my french the [ __ ] is going to be like f off
the next thing that will happen when you become an independent thinker a [ __ ] who doesn't give
a shiza what anybody think is that negative energy and negative people won't come near you
if you haven't seen my video on that you're a dusty magnet and how to get dusty to leave you
alone click the icon above and go watch that video but a [ __ ] is somebody who repel negativity
because if you say that you want somebody who is a provider and you're not begging or crying about it
and somebody come in your life and they cannot provide they're gonna literally cancel themselves
out because they already know what standard you have you got nothing from this book
this is the lesson right here once you become an independent thinker everything else you
want in life will come to you and those things that do not align with who you are as a person
will disappear without you having to put much effort if you enjoy those four tips on why
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