An elegant lady maintains her mystique,
her discretions and her allure by never sharing these seven things.
And ladies, I hope you're not sharing them too,
because then you would be shooting yourself in the foot.
I'm now going to present exactly what they are
so that you don't do those mistakes.
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But now, let's start with point number one.
Elegant ladies never share their plans. Ladies,
always move in silence.
Never share what you're working towards or what you're planning on doing,
or what you're up to, unless it has already manifested in your life.
And I know that sometimes,
it can be tempting to talk about your next move because you get that little
dopamine release every time you share your plans and dream
with another person.
But I want you to really hold back from doing this
because there is a reason for this.
You're going to have a higher chance of manifesting your goals if you actually
keep it to yourself. So spare yourself from any evil lies,
toxic energy, and just generally speaking,
toxic people by not sharing to them what you're up to.
So instead of spending your time talking about what you're going to be doing,
start doing what you should be doing and like this,
you're moving in silence and just showcasing what it has manifested.
Do you prefer, by the way, when I put my ponytail in front or behind?
Leave me a comment, please. Point number two,
elegant ladies never share their finances. Now we all know,
do not share your income.
Don't share your bank balance and don't share how much savings you have in the
account. And the reason for that is, well, many reasons, actually.
You don't want to let anyone know of your or your family's or your partner's
financial situation,
because discretion is a key part of being elegant.
So talking about all of these numbers and figures is just tacky and
inappropriate. And the reason for that is because number one,
it may sound like you're bragging, number two,
it might look like you're trying to be superior to others.
Plus you also don't want to become a target for people who might want to just
take advantage of your financial situation in a malicious way.
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Point number three, elegant ladies never share their love life.
And this one is quite individual. I don't think there is a right and wrong.
This is all up to each individual. But in my opinion,
I don't think it's wise to give a lot of information about your love life.
And there are several reasons for that because first of all,
the typical female activity among girlfriends is to
usually gossip about their men,
maybe even about their sex lives. And generally speaking,
discuss their relationship problems and I have done this a lot myself in the past.
But I actually stopped when I realized that this is private information that
I think should be kept between the partner and yourself.
Plus, it's also a matter of respect to the relationship
and to the other individual. Plus, let's be honest,
can you really trust everyone with your secrets?
And then imagine sharing those secrets that actually involves another person
who is also the person that is closest to you in your life.
Now doesn't that feel just wrong and disrespectful?
Plus I also don't think it's of anyone's business what the couple do in private
or what problems they have.
Now, I don't mind sharing some general things,
let's say about my relationship that shows that no relationship is perfect
because it's okay to be vulnerable.
And it's okay to open up to the world and to your close people.
But I think when it comes to the point of airing,
really intimate information is where I personally draw the line.
And I wouldn't do that unless there was this really necessary reason
for me to get a second opinion on something when usually, let's say,
I would ask my therapist that rather than a girlfriend. But of course,
if we don't have a therapist in our life, then sometimes,
you have to just trust at least this one girlfriend in your life that has
good experience where you know that she's going to give you some
really good guidance.
So then, I guess occasionally that's fine. But again,
this is just how I personally think.
Number four,
elegant ladies never share someone else's confidential information.
Now, we all know that elegant ladies never gossip.
And that's a rule I hope all of you ladies live by.
But there are two types of gossip. There is idle gossip that everyone does,
which is pretty harmless because that means,
you are speaking of another person in general,
in the neutral or in a positive way. Example is let's say,
someone is asking how's Jane doing. And you say that, oh, Jane is blah, blah,
blah and she's up to blah, blah, blah.
But then there is the malicious gossip when you share someone's confidential
information, or let's say, intimate details that someone has shared with you,
and you're now passing it on as a form of entertainment to your friends.
Or even the worst ladies,
when you hear some nasty rumors about someone,
and even though you never saw any
evidence presented together with this rumor,
you just assume that, well, if it's gossip and it must be true, right?
And then you keep passing this rumor to other people and you present it as
facts. Now, you see where I'm going, ladies.
Malicious gossip, in general, is incredibly toxic and especially for your own
karma. Because what you send out to the universe is what will come back to you.
So you need to make sure that you're conscience is clean,
but you also need to think about what message are you sending to other people
about your behavior.
Because if that's how you talk about other people behind their backs,
then imagine how you're going to be talking about these people.
Number five, elegant ladies,
they don't share their drama and you know, drama, drama, drama.
Elegant ladies are not drama queens. Don't we all know that?
But I also think that we might know at least one person who always brings
drama to the table into her life and loves to make a social
gathering all about this person's drama.
Not a very refined activity because think about it this way.
Some people might feed on other people's dramas and just want to bring out the
popcorn and start digging in because at least,
they shift the focus from their own misery in life to someone else's misery.
And it makes them feel temporarily good.
But most people who are somehow stable in their life is draining for them.
And it's also quite a negative experience.
I do know that life is not drama free. So of course,
things are going to happen that will involve other people. And sometimes,
a social gathering can end up being about drama.
But when someone is having these regular episodes of dramas, of crying,
of negativity,
I'm not sure you want to be that person because nobody's going to take you
seriously. If you have drama, that's fine,
but pick your battles and make sure it's a rule for you that at social events
and gathering, you're not bringing in your drama to the table.
Handle things in private, the best you can.
And if you really have to bring some drama,
then make sure that it's just an occasional occurrence and not
a repeated cycle that you're in.
Number six,
elegant ladies never share their controversial views.
Now, one mistake that I keep seeing ladies make over and over again is when they're
sharing the controversial opinions.
And I'm talking about things such as religious, political,
or socially taboo topics specifically.
Because elegant ladies do not even approach
these sensitive topics because they
might offend the people around them and create a lot of friction.
And the key of elegance is to really be mindful of other people.
So you need to understand that it's okay to share your opinions.
That is not the issue,
but you have to again think about picking your battles and if the tone is
right. Don't voice your opinion just like that.
Think through things before you speak,
or at least, read the room or read the surroundings to get a little feel.
Would it be fine for me to say this in this surrounding right now?
Number seven, elegant ladies never share their good deeds.
I've spoken about how important it is to give back to your society,
to the community, to the world somehow by serving the community,
by helping others, or let's say, by donating money. However,
we don't do this because we're then going to brag about it afterward.
We're doing this in private.
We're doing it because it makes us feel good.
It makes us feel that we're contributing to society,
especially when we are privileged ourselves. But unfortunately,
some people start boasting about it, which is not something I wish you,
my dear elegant ladies to do. So if you are giving to charity,
then do so in private.
Now there are more things I want you to avoid say in my next video called,
10 Things Elegant Ladies Never Say.
Go to that video because I will see you there.