Heya playa, do you want to learn how to flirt with your crush without it being awkward?
There are a few things I've learned over the years that I want to share with you.
These are things you can instantly start implementing so I'm gonna share them with you right after
this.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self and
when it comes to flirting, that whole awkwardness and the experience of it all can be completely
nerve-wracking.
Should you like, say things that are sexual and romantic or is that too creepy or should
you like put your arm around her and kiss her on the cheek or is that too forward?
It's hard to figure out what the boundaries are when it comes to flirting.
I think there are a few things that you can do that aren't crossing the line that will
help build a better response between you and them and you'll feel comfortable doing it.
The first thing I would recommend doing is playing the "you vs. me" card.
And this is simply pointing out things that you're better at than her.
For example, you might say something like, "Listen you're funny but I'm way funnier than
you" or "You're pretty clever, but not as clever as me".
By creating a standard that both of you guys are measured by, it allows you to kind of
display a level of cockiness that might be attractive to her without being an outright
jerk about it.
You're not telling them they suck at something, you're simply telling them that you're better
at them at that thing in a very playful way.
And I think when people see that other people are trying to be playful, it allows them to
loosen up and relax a little bit in conversation.
When you play the "you vs. me" card, you're not actually saying that you're better than
them, you're just simply trying to get them to step up their game to keep your attention
and impress you.
A big part of flirting is getting the other person to pay attention to you.
If you're the one that's always chasing, then they aren't going to feel like it's back and
forth.
They're going to feel kind of bored by it because it's you always clamoring for them.
And that kind of leads into the second tip which is to push and pull with her.
Now that's different from the "you vs me" card because when you're pushing and pulling,
what you're doing is giving attention and then pulling it away.
Giving that person too much attention is going to easily make that person bored of you.
They're gonna feel like there's no challenge in the mix, that they have you already and
they don't have to do anything to work to keep you.
But pulling away too much is going to make them feel like you're just completely not
interested.
Like you have better things to focus on and they are low priority on your scale.
So how do you successfully push and pull?
Well, I would say a good push to say in a conversation after they've maybe said something
you disagree with or you don't like is to tell them, "This is why you and me would never
work out, that's it we're broken up".
And a good pull response when they say something you do like is to tell them "We're like perfect
for each other.
Like we are seeing eye to eye, I don't know what that's about, this is like true love
I have to say".
Both of the examples I gave you for the push and pull are highly exaggerated and that's
kind of the point.
The whole purpose here is to get them to wonder, "do they like me or do they not like me?",
"are you being hot or are you being cold?", "do you want to get to know them better or
do you want to pull away?", that whole back and forth of trying to figure things out is
the flirting process.
And the third thing you should do if you want to flirt with them without it being awkward
is to kind of taboo text messages and to do taboo things when you're around other people.
There's nothing more exciting than having a private conversation when you're around
a group of people that don't know what's going on.
Meaning you and that person have a secret communication going on that only you guys
know about.
One way to do that is if you're in a group of people and your crush just happens to be
there, send them a text message or Snapchat or Facebook simply saying "You look super
cute right now but don't let anyone know I said that".
Because in that moment they're going to read that message, they're going to look at you
and they're going to know that no one else knows what you just said.
Now if they do look at you while you're standing around with everyone else, just look back
at them and go "shh" because what's that's going to do is communicate that this is a
private conversation and this is a private moment that no one else knows that we're sharing.
You're being directly flirty with them and nobody knows and that's what makes it so much
fun.
The simple fact that this is a hidden thing going on is what kind of amplifies the emotions
between you and them.
And I know sometimes you want to flirt but you might just feel awkward or nervous around
that person, I think doing these three things will help build that flirtiness and allow
you to kind of work towards something because now you'll have a structured way to go about
it and it'll make things a whole lot easier for you because you'll spend less time in
your head thinking "What can I do to be flirty?"
because you'll already have the answers in front of you.
And if your fear is that at any time your crush is going to call you out and say something
like "Are you flirting with me?"
your simple response should always be "Yep, I'm flirting with you.
I think you're pretty cute" because all that does is display a level of confidence that
they weren't prepared for and that helps prep them to think "hey, maybe this is a person
I want to pursue".
But I'm curious to know what you guys think, do you ever feel awkward around your crush
to the point where you find it impossible to flirt with them?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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As always, love and peace.