Renee: For those of you that don't know, Tinder is the fastest-growing dating app in the
world. With over 50 million users and 12 million matches daily, it's pretty safe
to say, you're going to meet someone. But with that many users on there, how do you
stand out from all the competition? And how do you make sure that you don't get
lost in the crowd? And you're not having every single woman swipe left on you? I'm
Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man team and in this video, I'm going to help
you get your Tinder profile to stand out from all the other guys and get those
women swiping right.
I'm a professional dating and relationship coach and it's
my mission to help men like you become the most desirable, dateable and
confident men you can possibly be. So make sure you subscribe to our channel
and give us a big thumbs up. Let's talk about dating online. Now, we are in a time
and an age in history where we have more single people than ever before. So if you
feel like there's not many fish swimming in your pond, that's because the pond is
overcrowded with all the other men trying to compete for the same women. So
the competition is high and you can't just rely on a casual photo anymore.
Literally, she is going to make a split decision in one-tenth of a second to
either decide to swipe left or swipe right. So here are my tips to make sure
that you leave the right impression so that she chooses you. Let's talk about
photos. Okay, that's pretty much four to five different photos that you are
allowed to put up on your tinder profile and here are the rules with photos. Photo
no.1 is your profile photo. Now, this should be a photo that really
showcases you as someone warm and inviting but also catches her attention.
Make sure that photo is actually of you right now, not of you ten years ago or
when you were ten kilos hotter. It's important to stay or think because when
you meet her in real life, you want to know that you haven't been lying about
the way that you actually look. Make sure the photo is not too far away or too
close. And make sure she is able to see your eye so remove the hat and
sunglasses because eye contact actually helps her believe that you're not going
to be hiding something. And, don't forget to smile. Statistics actually show that
photos that have a smiling picture get more engagement than others that don't.
No.2 Group photos. A group photo is a great way to show that you are
someone who is fun to be around and that you also have a social life and it also
means that not every single photo on your bio is just you you you. Because
then, she might start to think that you're only into yourself or that you
have no friends. Now, just make sure that your group photo isn't your primary
photo because if you make that your primary photo, then she's going to be
left guessing which one you actually are. The third photo should be a photo of you
looking a little bit classy and dressed up because women love that crap. Okay now,
this doesn't have to be about you dressing up in a suit or a tux just a
simple white collared shirt or a white button-up shirt will work miracles for
us. And lastly, choose one to two photos of showing you in action, showing
something that you actually like doing whether it is hobby, whether it is a
sport, whether it's rock climbing, whatever it is. What this does is, it
actually shows a little bit more about what you're interested, which can
actually help align you with someone who might be also interested in the same
sort of things and it gives the women an idea. Plus, it shows that you're active
and also fun to be around. Now, let's talk by apart from having all those photos I
just mentioned, we want to make sure that your bio is actually able to capture her
attention as well. Because after she sees your face, the first thing that she's
going to do is actually want to get to know more about you with what you have
written. The verse rule is don't lie about your age and don't open up with a
cheesy one-liner. Make sure you keep it short and don't be afraid to use some
humor. Anything that actually makes her laugh and is original is actually going
to get her more interested in the rest of you that you can showcase. Your bio
should be a brief idea of who you are, what it is that you like. It doesn't need
to be your full blown history or start lecturing women. Play it cool, don't put
too much information in but make sure you have just enough to pique her
interest. Now, there's a little bit of a special I'm going to give you some
examples of guys that I think work really well and actually get
statistically a lot of interaction from women on tinder. "Malcom, 32, looking at my
phone searching for a reason to stop, looking at my phone." "Brian, 28, I'm
concerned what Tinder will do to my self-esteem. I like to laugh, travel and I
do not partake in karaoke half as much as I want to." "Joseph, 34, my perfect day
I pick you up in my Kia Sorento, you get in, there's candles in the car, you go. Is
that dangerous? And I go, 'yes' but I like danger. After, we come outside and you see
my car's on fire, you go 'your car's on fire, aren't you upset?' I pull out a bag of
marshmallows and I go 'no.' I knew this was going to happen and then I kiss you in
front of my burning car." Guys, these are perfect example of things that are
completely original and full of humor and are actually going to get a girl
stopped in her tracks and go "this guy is different from the rest." Don't be afraid
to be creative and like I said, use your humor. The next thing you need to do is
initiate. One of the really frustrating things is that, we are building
relationships through screens and we're taking weeks to be able to even start
going on a date. If a girl has swiped right on you, you want to make sure that
as soon as you've got a spare moment, you are actually going to initiate a
conversation with her. Chances are she's already had about five or ten guys
actually match and talk to her that day. So, if you want to make sure that you're
ahead of the others, then it's about how you start the conversation with her.
Please, please, please don't start a conversation with "Hey, how are you doing?"
or just a one-word "Hey." No guys, we are not 12 anymore. This is about being a man
and showing her that you are a man. A man enough to be able to actually ask
her about her day, ask her about herself and ask a question so that she's
constantly forced to actually answer back to you. Now, if you're someone who
actually gets stuck with talking to women on text messages and through
phones and things like that, then I want you to follow these steps right now.
No.1 Introduce with Confidence. "Hey, what's up?" as opposed to "Hi, my name is
Rob. It's great to meet you, how's your day going?" is going to get two different
responses on who you are and don't be afraid to step into that.
No.2 Compliment. Telling her she is hot or has a nice
booty as opposed to actually saying "Hey great smile" or "You have really pretty
eyes" or "I really love that dress that you're wearing in that photo with your
girlfriends. Looks like you had a great night out" Again, it's going to send two
different types of signals to her. If you're going to compliment a woman,
make sure you steer clear of anything that might be sexualized, which is
usually here and your bum or even the lips. Stick to the smile, not the lips or
such. The trick is, you want to make her feel beautiful, not hot.
No.3 Ask Questions. You want to get the conversation flowing
straight away, so that she can see that you're actually interested in her, so
that you can get to know who she is and also, so that you can creep her
attention away from any other men. Now, if you're struggling with having a
conversation with a girl, then I recommend that you download our free
Conversation Cheat Sheet. But in general, the things that you asked her about her
friends, the weather, the work, family, interests, pretend that she is just
somebody that you work with and you're basically just wanting to get to know
more about them. No.4 Keep it casual and light.
If you go to hardcore or too deep too soon, it's going to come across really kind of
intense and creepy. Saying things like "I feel that we just have a connection, I
can see into your soul, I think it's fantastic, we need to connect more and
that is chemistry" as opposed to "Hey, I've had a really great time talking
to you, you've actually made my day." Again, you're going to send two different types
of signals to her and trust me, you want to make sure that you are
giving her a little bit of room for her to have some mystery about who it is
that you are, that's what's going to draw her to you. The goal with any woman and a
first encounter or a first conversation is to make her feel safe and make her
laugh. And lastly, ask her out. If you want to get ahead of the crowd and every
other guy that she's probably texting and talking to at the same time, then be
the first one to actually initiate a date but don't you say "hey, we should get
drinks on Friday night." Actually go "are you free on Friday night, how about seven
o'clock? Where are you based? Would you like me to pick you up or do you want to
meet there? I thought of this great bar." Have a plan in your head before you
actually start to ask this girl out. It's going to show that you're a man who isn't
afraid to take control, that you're able to lead that you're able to be on Tinder
for the right reasons and you have intentions behind actually having a
conversation with her. And you know what, it means that you're going to snap her
up before any other guy out there as well. Other men don't have to be your
competition. If you know how to set yourself apart right from the get-go,
and these are all really an achievable ways to do it, I promise you, put these
into action and you are going to see a massive difference in the amount of
women who are actually attracted to you and wanting to get to know you and go on
a date with you. But once again, if you are struggling with being able to have a
conversation in a flowing and normal sort of way and confident way with a
woman, then be sure to download our free Conversation Cheat Sheet. It is packed
full with strategies on how to actually start a conversation with a woman, then
escalate it into something more and lead it so it actually is going in the
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