Hey there, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, yes, the place to be to
create a business and a life that you love.
And this is Q&A Tuesday.
That means we get Q’s and we have A’s.
And today’s question comes from Miss Lori and she writes:
“Marie, you’re awesome and I love your work,” thank you so much.
“I’m clear on my goals and take daily action towards my dreams, so motivation and
productivity are not an issue.
However, and this is a big however, I’m bothered by this constant, uncomfortable feeling
gnawing at me reminding me that right now I’m not where I want to be.
I know it’s important to stay in the present and there’s probably no ‘there’ so to
speak, but I have a hard time not being annoyed and dissatisfied with the present when it
does not match my overall vision for my life.
Thanks.
Lori.”
Lori, fantastic question.
I really love your nod to the fact that there’s no “there” so to speak.
Very wise and very true.
I also really relate to your struggle because when I was first starting my business I spent
years bartending and waiting tables and doing personal assistant work and finding myself
totally frustrated that I wasn’t where I wanted to be yet.
So I remember back in those days just feeling completely deflated and, you know what?
That repetitive thought pattern was actually what was holding me back.
I didn't realize it, but I was training myself to be both miserable and mediocre.
But then everything changed once I realized what a huge mistake I was making with that
ants in my pants attitude.
Here’s why.
It’s because of this tweetable.
“Showing up fully, exactly where you are, is the fastest way to get where you want to
go.”
Here’s the reality check that high me like a ton of bricks.
All of the joy and excitement and fun that we want in life never comes from external
circumstances.
It always comes from the energy and the attention and the consciousness that we bring into each
and every moment.
So Lori, I talked about this a lot and if you really want to solve this problem I need
you to go read page 10 in my book, Make Every Man Want You.
It’s all about making is-ness your business.
So what does that mean?
Making is-ness your business means that you show up in each moment and you do this moment
like you friggin’ mean it.
That means you bring your A game.
That means you brings your full enthusiasm, your attention, your love to whatever you’re
doing, wherever you are, and whoever you’re with.
Why?
Because all pain and frustration and annoyance in our life comes from resisting the moment,
it comes from saying, “This moment isn’t how it should be.”
But guess what?
The moment already is.
So you only have two choices in life: you can either resist it and be friggin’ miserable
or you can engage with the moment and have a damn good time.
In fact, make it an engagement party.
Because the truth is, you can feel fully alive in any situation or you can feel like total
crap in any situation.
It’s not the circumstances, it’s actually what you bring to them.
Once I really got this I was so much happier.
I was performing in my jobs better and ironically everything that I wanted to create in my future
started happening a lot faster.
So that was my A to your Q, Lori.
I really hope it helps.
So now I’d love to hear from you, a little two parter for us today.
So where in your life can making is-ness your business really support you?
And number two, got any great stories to share about where you’ve really honored where
you are and where you want to be?
As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com, so why
don't you come on over and leave a comment now.
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