In this video you will learn the traits that men find most beautiful in woman.
Even better, I’m going to explain how you can cultivate these traits and become more
attractive as a result.
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Now before I get into the traits that men find most beautiful, I want to make one fact
very clear… when we meet someone new, our first impressions are about looks and physical
attractiveness.
It’s just a fact of life that across all cultures, men are FIRST attracted to universal
standards of female beauty because they are markers of health and fertility.
However… and this is the most important fact….
For both men and women… attraction towards another person grows quickly over time as
your get to know someone.
The more you see a person and interact with them, the more attractive they become to you.
It’s called the mere exposure phenomenon and I’m sure you’ve experienced this happening
to you..
let me give you an example.
I’m sure You Have had the experience of meeting someone and thinking wow.. that person
is so HOT right?
You are immediately attracted to them and wondering if they are single and if you could
date them.
But other times, you will meet someone and not particularly think anything of the sort..
you’re not particularly attracted to them.. you feel like they are not bad, but not immediately
HOT. but then, after spending some time with that person, or after seeing them a few times,
they become more and more attractive to you…
well, That’s the mere exposure phenomenon… and 90% of all relationships are started this
way.
90% of the time, two people aren’t immediately super attracted to one another.. instead,
they become more and more attracted as they interact and attraction towards the other
person grows quickly as they get to know each other over time.
In fact only 10% of couples say they were immediately attracted to one another from
the first minute they set their eyes on the other.
So if the only way that people met their partners was by getting picked up at the bar, then
physical attractiveness would be the most important factor.
But, historically, this is not how people meet their partners.. instead, people meet,
become acquainted with, and become attracted to the people they have reason and opportunity
to be around.
People meet in school, get introduced through friend groups, at functions, at work, set
up by family members and other ways.
And when you have reason to be around a person.. they become more attractive to you over time.
Wait, that is with one exception.. if your first impression of a person was negative,
the more exposure you have to that person will probably result in you liking them less
and less.
It’s very difficult to recover from a bad first impression, so first impressions are
still really important.
But if you are able to make a neutral or a positive first impression and then continue
to see that person and have reason to interact, they become more and more attractive over
time.
And this is especially true if you adopt and demonstrate the traits that im about to share.
these are the characteristic that research has shown is beautiful and attractive to men.
And When you’re able to demonstrate these traits you’re on your way to supercharging
your attractiveness in the eyes of the person you want.
So.. without further ado, here are the important traits that make you beautiful in his eyes.
1.
Flirting and Demonstrating your attraction towards him.
An important component of how attractive you are has to do with YOUR ability to demonstrate
attraction TOWARDS HIM.
What does that mean… well, We are highly attracted to people who are attracted to us..
In fact, Researchers at the University of Iowa have conducted the same study every decade
since 1939 and have determined that the number one characteristic that both men and women
want in a partner is mutual attraction and love.
Because to turn casual dating into an exclusive relationship, both partners must be interested
in each other and communicate that interest.
And For the relationship to be sustained over time, mutual attraction and love must exist.
A man wants to be deeply attracted to you both physically and mentally, and to know
that you are deeply attracted to him .
So, how can you act on this.. well, when you meet a potential partner, make sure that you
communicate your attraction to him.
That’s what flirting is all about, right?
It builds attraction..
so, Be intentional in your interactions and give him signs so he is not left wondering
how you feel.
Remember, it’s not the most physically appealing people who get approached, but the ones who
signal their availability and confidence through basic flirting techniques like eye contact
and smiles.
Just signaling your interest in someone gets you halfway there, whether you’re a man
or a woman.
So, Give him your full attention when you are together, flirt, and invest in getting
to know him.
Build on your foundation at an appropriate pace and let attraction grow naturally by
looking for ways to show him love and affection.
2.
Kindness . Science has shown that kindness and generosity are the two most essential
ingredients for long-term relationships.
And while it makes sense to think that kindness is appealing to men, A University of Rochester
study found that men are more sexually attracted to kind and attentive women.
And the more of these traits a woman can demonstrate, the more sexually attractive she will appear
to men.
Additionally, Extending kindness to yourself and others positively benefits your mental
health and relationships.
Practicing kindness has also been shown to ignite positive side effects in others too.
Not only does it deepen connections, but it is contagious and known to create a ripple
effect.
So, think of kindness as a muscle.
In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others,
but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise.
So, how can you act on this?
Well, of course you want a man to pursue you and ask you out, but he still expects you
to be grateful, kind, helpful, and willing to compromise.
He will value kind actions that surpass the basic etiquette of being polite and superficially
nice — he will look for kindness that is ingrained
in who you are and the partner you will But don’t try to fake kindness or generosity
because that will be obvious and have detrimental effects.
The more you can demonstrate genuine kindness and generosity, the more attracted your man
will be to you.
3.
Playfulness and Sense of Humor It’s should come as no surprise that A sense
of humor is high on the list of traits that everyone says they look for in potential partners.
Does that mean that men are attracted to funny women, well, not exactly.
Actually, Men aren’t more attracted to funny women, instead, they are more attracted to
women who appreciate their sense of humor.
In other words, men want women who are going to laugh at their jokes.
Shocking, I know.
And what about playfulness..
Simply put, you've got to be that person that he wants to be with the most.
you have to rock his world in a way that no one else can.. and leave him wanting more..
leave him craving more. and the only one who can satisfy that craving... that need, is
you... so you must create that dynamic... that feeling that he can't get anywhere else.
Every time he thinks of you, hes going to be thinking about the fun things.. he going
to associate you with everything fun.
And that’s super attractive.
And put limits on the length of time you spend with him in the beginning.
Pace yourself and always leave him wanting more time with you.
4.
Confidence Confidence in both men and women is very sexy.
If you walk into a room like a model walking down a runway.. head up, shoulders back, arms
swinging loosely and swiveling hips…, you’ll have every guy staring at you.
Why?
Well "That Walk" is just one of the ways human women have developed "to get and keep a man's
attention as we've evolved.
Oh and while your walking that walk.. wear the color red.
Men are more attracted to women who are wearing the color red.
Think about it… hearts are red, valentines are red.. red roses are romantic…
It’s possible that the color red may trigger a competitive edge in men, so maybe men are
more competitive about women in red and therefore desire them more.
5.
Independence – You have your own life.
one of the most important things that men find attractive in women is independence.
In other words, men are attracted to women who have a life.
Not to women who come off as needy and clingy.
Unless they are controlling and abusive.. then they might want a woman who is needy,
clingy and ready to be controlled.
So make sure you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him.
Make and keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy.
This goes a long way towards helping him to see you as a high value woman with an exciting
life….
And when you do that he is going to want to be a part of that….
And when he isn’t, he’s going to feel that too.
So yeah.. if you have your own life, men will find that independence sexy.
Now the last two are the two most important… so keep watching and I’ll tell you how you
can adopt them into your life.
6 Consistency and Loyalty
One of the most important aspects of a healthy and successful romantic relationship is having
a strong foundation of honesty and loyalty.
If a man is looking for a life long relationship, he will wants a woman who he can see himself
growing old with.
And that starts with consistency and loyalty.
Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with your partner — or
a time when you felt you could tell your partner your deepest secret and it would be accepted.
We all need that deep connection with someone, and that deep and wonderful feeling of intimacy
flourishes in an atmosphere of safety.
We open up when we feel safe.
We take risks when we feel safe.
So Create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive-- To be himself.
That means being a person who is very accepting, caring and compassionate.
When he’s connected with you on an emotionally intimate level, he will feel beyond attracted
to you.
Like next level attraction.
7.
happiness and life satisfaction.
there is nothing more attractive and sexy than a person who is happy and living in the
moment.
A happy person is a sexy person.
And there have been countless studies that confirmed the relationship between Happiness
and attraction.
Think about how you’ve felt when you were around a person who was genuinely happy.
They give off a certain energy — an energy that can’t be faked.
This energy is a result of real happiness and gives a person the look of being more
alive and more in the moment.
There’s nothing sexier than a person completely present in the moment.
And people want nothing more than to be happy.
So, When we see someone who we believe to have already found happiness, we are automatically
attracted to him or her.
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