So it's the age-old dating question. How long should you wait until you sleep with a guy?
Today, I'm going to answer that question for you clearly and succinctly so you never have
to worry about it going forward into the future. Hey girls, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours.
Stick around.
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So today's video we're addressing the age-old dating question. So how long should you wait
before you sleep with a guy? I'm going to give you the answer from a guy's perspective.
I'm seeing a lot of headlines lately, you see them all the time and kind of the media
makes great news. You know, women should wait until the third date or the fifth date to
sleep with a guy. I saw one recently, women give it up too easily. I saw one dating book
that I read actually that said a girl should wait at least a month before she sleeps with
the guy. So what's the right answer? Before I answer that I want to go into witness advice
or comes from why is it that women get told to wait to delay to kind of make the guy wait
for the best part. There's a couple of reasons. The first is the old kind of judgements, which
fortunately are dying out on women for their sexuality.
So as we move forward into the 21st century, thankfully, girls are being judged a lot less
for expressing themselves and enjoying their bodies when they want to. But there's a second
reason that the media and society in general promotes this advice, which is to kind of
wait and hold off. It's about challenge and it's about being a challenge to a guy. So
the logic is you wait and you challenge him before you kind of give up the best part and
think for a second about how screwed up that is. When you're saying you're going to leave
sex until the third date or the fifth date or the 10th date because you want to save
the best. What are you communicating? You're communicating that sex is the best part, that
sex is the best thing you have to offer, which isn't true for any of you out there.
We know that's not true. Guys have gone to war, guys have killed, started battles over
a woman's love. A girl has so much more to offer a guy than sex. She has emotional support.
She has her care and she has a nature. She has a personality and character, wit and most
of all her love. And to say that sex is the best thing, you have to offer a guy is such
a devaluation of everything else you girls have to offer and to bring into a guy's life.
So when a woman with high self esteem with really high self worth thinks about sex, she
doesn't think of being sexed as the same thing as being won over. She can have sex because
she loves sex, but it doesn't necessarily mean that the guys won her over yet whether
she has sex on the first date, the fifth date, on the 10th date, the guy still has that feeling
that he could lose her if he buggers up, if he disrespects her if he doesn't treat her
well and she has sex because she enjoys it.
But it's this that matters, it's the being won over. It's the challenge that you provide
to the guy that matters. So the answer to the original question, how long should you
wait to sleep with a guy is it doesn't matter. Because if you can challenge that guy, in
other ways, he's gonna want to stick around after sex, he's going to want to win you over.
He's going to want to become a part of your world and work to be involved with you. Always
remember what you have to offer a guy beyond sex, your life, your love, your personality,
everything you do that supports a man that, that keeps him going, that makes him feel
fulfilled. You have so, so much more to offer a guy than sex, so never devalue yourself
again by thinking that you should wait till the fifth date because you should save the
best part until the fifth date.
There is way, way more best parts of you to go way beyond the fifth date than having sex
with him. Girls, let me know what you think. Do you agree? Do you disagree? Add, add them
in the comments. Ask me any questions you want on love talking about these topics. I'd
love to hear from you on it. We can chat, we can add in more ideas, help with the other
girls who might be struggling with this question. Most of all, value yourselves. That's the
biggest thing that I want to get across to girls with this. There's way more to, there's
way more to do with sex. Give it a thumbs up if you agree, disagree that me know. Make
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