Ever wish you could read a guy’s mind? Well it turns out you can, just by reading his
texts. In this video, I’ll go over seven clues to look for in a man’s texts that
show that he likes you, and one that means he just wants to be friends.
Hi, I’m Amy North, the author of The Devotion System and Text Chemistry. If you need a hand
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So let’s talk about how men show their feelings through their text messages. First off, if
he’s texting you at all, this is a good sign. Men don’t often spend a ton of time
talking to women for no reason. So chances are he at very least likes you as a friend
because you bring joy to his life. But if you’re watching this video, I’m guessing
you’re looking for something more. Let’s get into it.
1. He keeps talking even after the conversation comes to a standstill
This is something that you can spot easily if you know what to look for. If the conversation
comes to a natural close, does he send a follow up question or comment to keep things going?
Is he always reaching out to you via text or does he wait for you to message first?
If he’s the one leading the conversation, it suggests that he’s interested in getting
to know you more, and this is a sure sign that he’s interested in you.
2. He uses emojis
A recent study found that men use only HALF as many emojis as women. So if a guy you’re
talking to uses a lot of emojis, chances are he’s flirting. Which emojis don’t REALLY
matter but obviously a winky face or a kiss is better than bombs and cucumbers.
3. He mirrors your speech patterns (punctuation, spelling etc)
Similar to number 2, if a guy mirrors your speech patterns, this is an indicator of attraction.
We subconsciously try to mirror people we’re attracted to. For example, if you use exclamation
marks instead of periods or send a few short texts instead of one long one, and he does
the same, this means that chances are he’s interested in more than just texting.
On the same note, if he replies back with one word and ends every text with a period,
then he’s really not sending you any signals.
4. He messages you back quickly (but not right away)
The longer a guy leaves you on read, the less likely it is that he’s interested in you.
Sure, there are certain times when he’s just genuinely busy, but odds are he’s going
to have some chance to reply to you within a reasonable time frame.
That said, many women think that if a guy replies to you INSTANTLY this is the best
case scenario and I think this isn’t quite right. You see, men and women both know that
the instant reply is an indicator of interest and, honestly, desperation. So he’s going
to avoid the instant reply if he’s actually interested, to avoid giving off desperate
vibes. So the instant reply suggests that he’s actually not all that interested in
you because he doesn’t care how it might be perceived.
So the real sweet spot is something like 10-15 minutes after you sent your text. If he waits
a little bit to message you back, then you KNOW he’s interested in getting to know
you more.
5. He opens up to you
If he’s able to talk about the big things happening in his life and confide in you about
his feelings, then chances are he likes you. Men don’t do this with every girl they talk
to.
This includes things like his hopes and dreams for the future, his secrets, and his deepest
insecurities. Just know that this often takes time so there’s no rushing into this, especially
if the two of you just met.
This also means asking the tough questions and talking with you in a way that’s thoughtful,
rather than just agreeing with everything you say.
Remember that communication is the basis of any great relationship so the ability to be
open with one another is huge.
6. He texts you even when he’s busy
If you know that he’s at work, at school, or in the middle of a crazy busy time in his
life and he still makes time to text you, that’s when you know it’s real. The truth
is that life really can be a slog sometimes and if you find yourself a man who is able
to keep up conversation with you even through the tough times, then you’ll know he’s
a keeper.
That said, if he does need to take some time away from the phone during a busy period,
that’s okay too. This is a sign of a man with healthy boundaries who may be more able
to maintain a relationship with you in the long term.
7. He doesn’t leave you on read
This is something of a reverse indicator. If he DOES leave you on read for multiple
days then I have to say that chances are he’s just not interested. Whether he does this
on purpose to send a message, or does it simply because he doesn’t think to reply, it’s
not a great sign that he’s interested in you.
In fact, you should know that none of these signs is a sure thing. At this stage, people
are still trying to decide whether or not they’re really interested in you by making
conversation. But this means that whether or not he likes you already, you have the
chance to change his feelings.
If you’re wondering how to do that, you need to check out my free video presentation
over at CoachNorth.com/Texting In that video I cover a simple method to keep a man’s
interest and get him to take you seriously as a romantic option, just by texting. Again
that’s over at CoachNorth.com/texting
Thanks for watching all the way to the end. If you want help me out, I’d love it if
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to read every one. I’ll see you next time!