okay chuckle any advice you have to continue to work out at 4:30 a.m. but
with two newborn twins at home because the struggle to stay awake is real
awesome question and well I have four kids the first three of them were born
in pretty rapid succession not quite twins obviously but you know we had at
one point we had three kids under three so yeah we're getting after it and now
part of that I got a in full disclosure I you know I was deployed a fair amount
but when you got those young kids here's what you got to do you got to get it
done you got to get it done and this idea that you're gonna get it done on
some pattern or some structured time schedule it's gonna it's gonna fall
apart yeah and you got a both sleep and working out and every other thing that
you're trying to get done in your life you have to make it happen when you can
make it happen you know you have to make it happen when
you can make it happen there's gonna be no ideal time you might be working out
at 3 o'clock in the morning you might be working out at 7 o'clock at night you
might be working out at midnight you might be trying to sleep at noon you
don't know what's gonna happen mm-hmm I would definitely say when you
got the young kids get some kind of a home gym setup at least get a pull-up
bar at least get yourself a pull-up bar because if you have a pull-up bar you
can do everything you can do pull-ups then you can do push-ups you can do
squats you can do sprints you can you can make stuff work if you have leans to
have a pull-up bar and then you just gotta squeeze it in there you know it's
a half an hour there it's 20 minutes here it's 15 minutes there it's a power
nap in the afternoon it's some squats while you're sitting there holding a
baby trying to get the baby to fall asleep that's what it is
it's the stroller to the park with a chalk bag so when you get there you can
do some pull-ups on the swing set that's what it becomes
because life is gonna have a vote in these situations
and your kids and your family are more important than you are and that's
something that is a tough reality for the young dads to face all of a sudden
you are not the most important thing in the world at all they are more important
than you are that being said which I know I'm
supposed to pay some kind of a fine when I say that being said somebody on
Twitter hassled me about it that being said so your kids are more important
than you your family's more important you that being said guess what the
number one thing you need to do for them stay healthy you got to stay healthy you
can't get all out of shape and turn into a bum just because you've got kids
they're looking to you to be able to provide for them for a long time they're
also looking at you as an example you know that's a big one so you got to be
the right kind of example and physical fitness is part of that example so they
should see that from day one they should know Big Daddy's doing some squats while
he's holding me in it now I'm gonna double down that being said this is not
a time of your life when you have newborn twins that you're gonna be in
the optimal condition you're not gonna be at your peak performance that's okay
right that's okay hey man you got things going on you're a dad mm you know you're
no dad to a twin new dad would tell you're not gonna be setting any of your
PRS on your on your deadlift right it's not gonna happen so but that's not a
reason that you fall apart at all you got to hold the line as much as you can
you got to balance this situation out you gotta squeeze in dig in you got to
be creative with your workout with your rest with your sleep
when the opportunity presents itself whichever one of those is the priority
you gotta go and get it on and you know it'll happen it's not just when you have
newborn kids it'll happen with your job you'll get some pressure situation at
work and all of a sudden you're gonna you got to squeeze it in you know I had
I bought houses overtime and I would always buy these houses that were
unlivable right just unlivable just ransacked disasters because they were
cheaper and then I would go in and do these like speed remodels alone by
yourself by myself but you know for instance I did uh I got in a kitchen in
one of my houses go to the kitchen and redid the whole kitchen plumbing
electrical new counters the whole thing and I got it I didn't get the
countertops in because that was like you know especially guy was coming in and do
that but 72 hours 72 hours non-stop work what when I moved into another house I
had we pulled up the carpet I thought there was these nice hardwood floors
under the carpet pulled up water damage a third of the little bit more than a
third of the phone was half the floor was water damaged scientic yank those
boards out and then sand this whole thing and it was a nightmare but it took
me 72 hours of no sleep like I would sleep for 20 minutes waiting for the
next layer of varnish to dry sitting there in the fumes right but that's what
you got to do sometimes you got to be like I said the big project at work
something that's coming and you got to figure out how to what you can fit in
when you can fit it in and realize that there's benefit you know there's benefit
to that 20 minute little session you just did go do 100 burpees right go
swing a kettlebell just go swing I always talking about the other day we
got kettle bell I got I got the the zombie bells right I got the zombie
bells you know I have a garage gym the zombie bells are in my house because I'm
walking around and sometimes you need to snatch a kettlebell right sometimes you
got to snatch a kettlebell so so you have that and that builds up because now
you just boom you head out you know you're not even
breaking into a sweat just hitting seven seven each arm you know cannibal snatch
maybe just you're just doing that yeah and so that's the kind of thing maybe
you know where the newborn dad you gotta have that you have that zombie doll
sitting else ready just to hit some snatches ready just to do some some some
sumo deadlift high polls right what's it good for
make it happen we'll get the pull-up bar or or set of rings get the Rings yeah
you know something that you can rings are great because then you can do
pull-ups you can do dips they're very very versatile very versatile but you're
gonna the bottom line here is your life is going to change it has changed so it
doesn't mean and you're you know what your life has changed and it just got
better mm-hmm it just got better so what you
need to do is you need to adapt to the new situation and continue to drive the
excellence but the excellence isn't going to be served up all at once the
excellence is going to served up little chunks throughout the day yeah where you
can grab it yeah and that's that's the way it goes yeah
another tip in I am a twin I don't have twins yeah if you don't know echo
Charles is a twin and by the way we've got some requests for the echos story so
maybe next podcast we can we're hear echoes story yeah yeah sure nonetheless
I'll give you three minutes and 30 seconds for a coaster but no one when I
had my daughter and I'm I'm pretty into working out so you know to not work out
was kind of hard would not have the time but here's the thing I'm really into
like a luxurious situation resting for a long time and really mentally ready like
taking an hour and a half to get ready for I was used to that so that was a big
big change to not have that much rest and not have that much time so and now
you're doing Jocko podcast you get even less
yes so it's different but a thing that helps on top of everything you said
which is in my opinion absolutely correct 100% um
did to add to it is work with your you know wife or her husband if you're a
girl you know and you're and you guys have like kind of communicate with them
tell them that you know working out and staying in shape is is important mm-hmm
to me or whatever or and a good way to put it is getting unhealthy at this time
with our new kids is means a lot you know if I do that like it means a lot to
stay healthy yeah so you know if you communicate that'll help as well because
you can work with each other you know how like you know when you have a new
kids it's kind of like one guy can you know capitalize on a rest time you know
yeah and then you know the other guy will kind of stand watch with the kids
and the other problem the other person can get rest so if you communicate
that'll help your situation so much yeah so I am guilty here of unintentional
communications because if I you know what when I wouldn't when my wife and I
when our kids were young if I didn't work out and quite honestly if I didn't
train jiu-jitsu I'm not they I'm yeah I was I wouldn't
recognize it but it just would really like frustrate me right and so
eventually she said you don't want just get your stupid ass out of here and go
train because I'd rather just have you go yeah and that's when that's when I
you know we'd show up at the gym at eight o'clock at night like Dean would
be done teaching class and I'd come in there and we trained for 38 minutes you
know just go in there get it on and come home yeah so you know try not to do that
well you're a jerk right but there's something I mean I talk about this all
the time that there's there is a mind-body connection that is undeniable
yeah and if you don't find a place to get that aggression out and get that the
endorphins flowing and get the the the good feeling that you get from physical
activity then you're gonna turn gonna turn a
little bit nasty yes not good yeah and then of course that that I bet you a lot
of relationships really suffer from that and people don't recognize it I think so
too I think in my experience from talking to people okay so okay that so
that element that element of exercising and it being interrupted by new kids or
something like that that'll vary from person to person right so you being all
nuts because you can't train you know the next guy might not be that nutso it
might affect him maybe this much maybe this much you know it's different and a
that goes along with what I said like communicating mm-hmm
actively you know not you like you know yeah doing what you did but communicate
and at the same time if you're aware of it which it can be the hard part if
you're aware that you're just not as happy just just know that so really kind
of check yourself if you feel yourself losing your temper yeah I'm you know I'm
unhappy because I'm sacrifice a few training days you're right the red flag
of that's that's a great point the red flag of hey it sucks having kids yes the
red flag the reason you're feeling that is because it's this part of that reason
is because it's disrupting your physical activity right so recognize that and
then do something about it yeah communicate with your spouse you know
set up a plan get a pull-up bar get a kettlebell in the house you know do and
make it happen yeah and they I think that's a good plan
yet it's not gonna be as luxurious as you know as you know you're not gonna be
optimum it's not you know a lot of times that well with me that bothered me ya
know not it didn't I didn't really pay much of a price you know for as far as
it bothering me when someone posed to me I don't like lose my temper typically
but I did feel that be like oh my gosh I don't have that much time
or I don't have the energy because I didn't get enough sleep and it was kind
of annoying but at the same time I did adapt and I got real good at you know
like the exercise like gym gymnast can do it like on a Palmer system there I'd
go on the ground I'd sit with my legs and feet out and grunt and you can live
he'll sit yeah yeah yeah doing that but um nonetheless uh back to the
jujitsu thing two things yeah communicate understand when you're
starting to get a little irritated because you didn't didn't train
understand that and then handle it accordingly
that's a on the flip side if you have to recognize cuz okay this is a typical
situation where now you have kids yet you still want to go train jujitsu
mm-hmm but your wife is like how can you reconcile going to train with your
buddies you know cuz a lot of times the girlfriend of the way will think that
that's just some some fun and games don't know in their mind they think it's
another relationship we basically have going on yeah but they don't understand
the importance it's potentially yes and it's the spectrum so it's important to
like I said communicate and let them let them know that it's not that yeah you
know and they don't always get it I understand that but if you just can
communicate and effectively get the message that it is an important thing
yes like hey hey listen darlin what's important to you
what's it well you know cuz you know I know what it is whether it's like
running or whether it's their biking or whether it's their anything date night
with their girls or whatever the case may be that's what you've got this is
what I've got right I got these two things yeah I got to work out I got to
train some jiu-jitsu yeah you know that's what I got to do but be be fair
though like you went seven days a week before the kids and you still want to go
seven days with three hours a day understand that okay you got your brain
I'm gonna bring it down to like six I
was really bad yeah I can't see there but it's um in a way it's not fair you
know like to you not only to your wife but to the fact that you have kids now
you know there's only so much jockle can go around yeah I don't I'm questioning
whether I should tell this but I'm going to so there was times where I would come
home from work in the SEAL Teams work until seven o'clock at night I come home
from work walk the door dropped my work bag and pick up
my gym bag my wife's there were three young kids and she would be looking at
me with the expression of are you freaking serious because you know you're
I'm only home for let's call it four days then I'm going on to the trip that
I'm home for three days so those four days she's thinking cool he's home for
four days family time I'm thinking cool home for four days matter time and but
again what she realized was that if she was to stop me mmm she's got a jerk in
the house now not not even I mean just just it just is it's just the reality of
it you know I just would be really frustrated with the situation and all I
want to do is just go train because it's part of who I am and I want to get on
the mat and I want to get better and I want to it's very selfish right I mean
all the reasons are selfish but that be that that being said but the reality is
that's that's me that's me yeah that's me and I can't change yes you mean yeah
well of course of course it's to believe you but you know this is gonna sound
real obvious and cliche but the whole compromise thing you know what yeah when
you guys have a bunch of kids you gotta compromise that yeah and don't be like
hey everyone else in the whole group by the way the kids even though you know
your wife everyone in the whole group you guys compromise a factor of eight
out of ten me I'm just gonna compromise a factor of 0.5 because I'm still gonna
go to jujitsu every single day for as long as I've done it yeah do all the
things that you've done before you have kids you can't do that yeah I don't
think you can do that yeah no you shouldn't do that but I am saying yeah
and I did yeah and I a lot of you not aware a lot of times yeah you're not
saying you know what I know I'm being a dick right now and you know what I'm
okay with being a dick right now yeah you know it's not your fault for not
letting me cheering or whatever yeah I guess I might not have been the
best the best husband and it's it's I don't want to say it's good but when you
have new kids and especially twins yeah it it does allow you to kind of
reconcile what's important you know like let's see every Tuesday you went to Taco
Tuesday or something like that and drank every Tuesday right before kids now you
got twins like man really how you you get to honestly ask yourself is that
kind of stuff important now no Taco Tuesday is not
important compared to kids yeah no but you could say time with my friends is
important and all this other stuff but the drinking and just all little little
detailed things that you can easily go without and in a lot of cases do better
without but their vices or whatever when you can when you have twins or new kids
or just kids in general you do get that opportunity to reconcile what's more
important yeah you you get to prioritize next cute sure
tritter thank you all right we haven't congratulations twins it's a big deal
yeah no doubt I hope they hope their names are echoing genes