Have you ever dealt with this, where you meet a great guy, he's got all the qualities that
you want when you're with him, you feel chemistry, you feel this great connection and you're
chatting and then all of a sudden he goes dark and stops responding and you don't know
why?
Well, in this video I'm going to share with you three things that you can do when the
guy you like goes radio silent.
Now, there are few things more slowly torturous then to want to be hearing from a great person
that you met, to be checking your phone, to be checking your messages, only to be left
with the cold void of no response.
It's like each time you go to check that message and there's nothing there, it's like a knife
getting pushed into you, isn't it?
It's like you wake up in the morning, you think maybe they texted you, you check your
text, nothing.
You're cooking.
You get a text message.
You think it might be him.
It's not.
It's your friend.
You're at work and you know you shouldn't be stalking him.
You decide to check social media anyway and you see he's just posted.
You know he's around, you know he's on social media, but he hasn't sent you any messages.
You're driving home, you get a call, you think it might be him.
Hello?
Hey Matt, it's your mom.
Oh, hey Mom.
And so what happens?
All of this checking with no response back from him leaves you feeling like, doesn't
it?
I know.
I've been there.
I've been in this exact scenario and it is torturous.
Well, here's the principle.
Energy flows where our attention goes and the challenge in this scenario is that our
attention is constantly going to lack.
We're constantly checking on what's not there, and because we're in an experience of lack,
that's why we feel in such pain.
That's why it feels so hard.
I'm going to give you three things that you can focus on right now to create a more positive
experience, whether he's messaging you or not.
Here's step number one, and I'm going to preface this by saying you probably won't like this
step, but if you do this, it's going to help leave you more empowered and in a much better
position.
And step number one is to accept what is, and here's what I mean by that.
Here's what is.
You've got a great guy who's got a lot of great qualities, but he's not investing in
you.
He's not prioritizing the connection.
He's not reaching out to you.
And so our thought process usually in that situation is, "Gosh, he's so amazing.
If only he would invest more.
If only he would actually reach out."
You'll think to yourself, what can you do differently to get him to reach out?
So in other words, how could you change to then ignite his attraction for you or, or
shift his qualities?
That's flawed thinking.
Ultimately we're saying, "He's great if he would just be different," so the truth is
he's not that great right now because he's not investing in you.
Here's what I want you to do.
All the great qualities that you see in him, make sure that at the top of that list is
that he's prioritizing you, that he's investing in you.
And if he's not doing that, then he doesn't have all the great qualities that one part
of your mind wants to say, "Oh my gosh, this guy is perfect in all these areas."
Well, no, because he's actually not investing in you.
He's not contributing and he's way underserving the interaction that both you want and you
deserve.
What you can do is when you accept what is, "Wow, okay, what if this is all this guy had
to give?"
Because a part of your mind will say, "Well, if you could be different, he could step up."
Resist that temptation.
Instead, accept what is thinking.
"What if this was all he could give?
Would I really invest in this guy?"
Chances are you wouldn't.
You would pull back the investment, you would pull back your interest and you would take
him off the pedestal that he's on right now, okay?
So accept what is, bring him down to the level of investment that he truly deserves with
his behavior and then move on to step number two.
Step number two is to interrupt the pattern, because remember, what's causing this negative
experience in us, this torturous experience is constantly checking on something that's
not there.
When you notice yourself go to the phone to want to look up whether or not he texted you
or you want to read that old conversation that you had with him or you want to go to
social media and start looking at what he's doing, interrupt that pattern and pause yourself
and choose something different, which is step three, we'll get to in just a second, but
interrupting that pattern, if you could just reduce the number of times you check to half,
you're going to have half the level of negative experiences that day when you haven't heard
from him.
If you could reduce the amount of focus and mental real estate that he takes up in your
mind, in your heart and your energy, then you're creating way more room for something
positive to fill that space.
And this brings us to step number three.
Step number three is to refocus on your future.
Refocus on your future.
What is that?
Refocus on the vision that you have for your life.
What are you creating?
Because you know darn well it's coming.
As you have that image in your mind, and as you align with that vibration in your heart
and your spirit, you know it's coming.
You know there's something magnificent on its way into your life.
There's an amazing relationship in store for you.
That's your destiny.
As you focus on that, you can know that, "Well, if this guy ends up stepping up, then great,
but if he doesn't, there's something amazing coming into my life now."
As you focus on that, you start having conversations with other guys.
You become more present to the amazing life you're living right now.
You fill up that space that was being occupied by him now with positive activities, positive
thoughts in your own life, and you feel a whole lot more positive.
Now, if there's a part of you that doubts when you try to think there's something amazing
in store for you, because maybe it's been a long time since you've been in a great relationship,
or a part of you that gets discouraged or really doesn't believe that, I've got a great
resource that can help turn up your believing power in that.
It's an affirmation ebook.
You and I can literally reprogram our minds to create new beliefs that empower you towards
creating a life that you love.
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This is a gift from me to you to help empower that believing muscle in you because that
is fuel for you creating an amazing relationship in your life and really maintaining your confidence
and groundedness along the way.
Like I said, these three steps aren't necessarily sexy and they're not necessarily easy, but
when you implement these in your life, you're going to be way more grounded, you're going
to be way more centered, so that when that guy actually does reach back out to you, and
it's been a couple of weeks, you can respond from a woman of choice, you can respond from
being a woman of power, and that is the highest, most attractive state of being you can be
in.
I have a question for you.
When a guy doesn't respond to you, what do you do that leaves you feeling empowered?
Let me know in the comments below.
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Thanks so much for watching.
I'll see you soon.