Hey everybody, Mat Boggs here and today I want to share with you a principle that can
help accelerate the speed at which you attract the relationship that you want.
And this has to do with hidden blocks.
See, hidden blocks come in many shapes, sizes, and forms so in this video I’ll share with
you one that a lot of people deal with, and it is what we call the burden of success.
In other words, if you attracted the relationship that you want right now, today – let’s
say you wake up in the morning and bam!
Your man is laying there in bed next to you.
What are the things that you would have to sacrifice?
Is there anything that you would lose that you currently enjoy in your life now that
you would have to give up in order to have that relationship?
You see, I’ll dive deep into this with the women in my coaching program and it’s amazing
what bubbles up.
Some women are like, “Well, you know, I have this amazing lifestyle and I love my
freedom – that I get to go where I want to go and do what I want to do and live the
life I want to live and I don’t have to really answer to anyone, and if I have my
man then that might compromise that kind of lifestyle.”
Or, another woman just recently was saying, “You know, I love the time I get to spend
with my single friends.
Like, I have a huge value on the time that we spend, the connection that we have, and
if I have my man, it might cost me time with them.”
Or another women was, “You know, my mom is single and if I get into a relationship,
she might feel bad because we spend less quality time together.”
What is the burden of success?
In other words, if you had success in this field, if you man came into your life right
now, is there anything that you would need to give up or sacrifice or endure in order
to have that relationship?
You know, it might be opening up your vulnerability.
Maybe you really trusted in the past and you were betrayed and you know in order to get
into this relationship, you’re going to have to go there.
You’re going to have to go to some intimate, deep places in yourself and you’re not sure
if you’re really ready to go there so you’re attracting average guys, mediocre men, but
you’re not attracting the one because you know in order to do that you’ve got to get
fully vulnerable and open.
I’ll share with you an open, vulnerable personal example of this of where my life
was stuck, where my life was kind of choked off and stagnant.
And a year ago, I was looking for a marketing director.
See, I ran all of the marketing for my own company and my mother’s company, and I wanted
to do more speaking, teaching, and coaching and really live into my dream of serving you
and helping you create the relationship that you want.
And so I started interviewing for marketing directors, and it’s a niche.
It’s a highly skilled – we needed someone who was badass.
We needed someone who was awesome to fill this position, someone who was better than
me.
That was my goal.
I wanted someone who was better than me to fill this position.
And so I started interviewing and interviewing and it took me a year.
I was interviewing people for a year and still hadn’t found the person.
And then I started to reflect and think, “Wow.”
It was actually my brother who came to me and said, “Hey, man, what kind of resistance
do you have for attracting the right marketing director to your company and mom’s company?”
And I said, “Oh mean, that’s a good question because it’s been a year and I still haven’t
found this person yet.”
And so I really began to reflect.
I got quiet, I sat down and I thought, “Is there anything I have to face?
Or what would it cost me to bring this person in and to really find them?”
And then it dawned on me that there was a part of my ego that has this looking good
complex.
See, I want to look good in the presence of others and if I found someone who was better
than I was and who exploded our company’s growth and who took it to whole new levels,
that somehow that was going to reflect bad on me – that my skill sets were going to
be seen as less value, that all of the work that I’d done previously was going to be
seen as less valuable – and there was a part of me that wanted to look good.
As I identified that, got clear on that and did a process around releasing that, it completely
opened up the flow.
It opened up the momentum.
The very next day, I’m on the phone with one of my colleagues and I ask him, I’m
like, “Hey, man, we’re looking for a marketing director.
Do you know of anybody?”
Someone who I had not talked to previously – this guy I knew, and I just never thought
– it never dawned on me – to ask this individual for access to a marketing director,
you know, a link, a connection.
And he goes, “You know, actually, there is someone that I can think of.”
He introduced us via email, we had the interview the following day.
So within 24 hours of getting clear on this resistance and releasing it, we found our
marketing director, who is better than I am, who is taking our businesses to a whole new
level, and it is awesome.
When you get your vision, when you get your energy in alignment and you clear up the resistance,
that accelerates the flow.
That creates momentum in your life and you’re able to attract what it is that you want.
So if you’d like to clear up any resistance, if you want to discover if you have any resistance
that’s keeping your man from your life, I’ve posted a resource in the description
that will help you identify that, and as you clear that up, everything begins to shift.
So I hope you enjoyed this video.
I hope it serves you.
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Again, thanks for watching.
I look forward to connecting.