This is super important especially if you are negotiating with a narcissist.
So by the end of this video, you're going to have seven signs
that you are arguing with a narcissist.
So make sure that you watch all the way till the end.
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Okay, so seven signs that you are in fact arguing
with a narcissist.
So the minute that you start telling them what they're doing.
Well then that becomes what you are doing
and especially by the way, if you start calling them
a narcissist, you definitely never ever ever want to call them and narcissist
because the minute you do that,
that's what you become.
You never even want to put that word into their head
because they will definitely not only start calling you a narcissist.
They're going to start telling everyone
in your world that is what you are.
So definitely don't say that or anything related to that.
They're an alcoholic or anything like that
because then whatever they're doing,
that's where they're going to project onto you.
Lying, irresponsible.
They will definitely start saying that
those are the things that you in fact are.
So that's number one.
They're going to start lying about it.
They're going to just lie about whatever it is that they're doing.
They're certainly not going to to take ownership.
They're definitely going to just lie
about whatever it is that they're doing.
They're never going to be truthful
and they lie about everything.
Anyway, they're really just not capable of telling the truth
and a narcissist lie about things that they don't even need to lie about,
which is always very curious to
me and even things that are readily verifiable
which is also very curious to me,
but that is what happens with them.
It actually creating very good leverage, by the way.
When it comes to negotiating with them
and I have a whole course on how to create really great leverage
and how to use that as part of your overall strategy
and that's part of my whole slay methodology
Strategy, leverage, anticipating what they're going to do
and being two steps ahead of them and focusing on you and your position
and being on the offensive and that is
the whole principle behind slaying in your negotiation.
So that is what you need to do
and when you do that, that's how you shift the dynamics.
So you don't even have to worry about it.
But if you want to know what happens when you catch a narcissist in a lie,
you should definitely check out my video on that topic.
Oh my gosh.
I mean I had a paralegal one time who like she just
literally could never take responsibility.
She would just never get her work done on time.
You know, she would work for a bunch of us in the firm.
Many of us there were several attorneys in the
firm and we used to like marvel at how many
funerals has she had in her family.
Like she would always say that she had funerals to go to.
I mean, not to like be flippant or anything,
but we would be like is there anybody alive left and her family?
Because like every other week, they would be another funeral
because she would just never have her work done on time
and she would never take responsibility for the fact
that her work was it was never done on time.
So they've never take responsibility.
They never say.
Oh my goodness.
You're right.
It w asn't done on time or you know,
just anything like that.
So that's number three.
You know.
Oh, poor me.
I can never catch a break.
Why are you attacking me?
Oh, it's not fair.
Life slways happens to me this way.
Why are you always on me?
This happened to me or that happened to me
and then it always becomes about
them and you're supposed to be made to feel guilty
because you were attacking them or something happen
with them and it just becomes about them
and then they don't end up having to take responsibility
for anything that they did because it's just always about them.
So, that's number four and you know,
poor baby, right?
So if you want to put poor baby in the comments,
you can put poor baby in the comments
right now and if this is sounding familiar so far,
you know, that that's true.
I would love to know what your thoughts are in the comments.
So go ahead and put something in the comments as well.
Which is just,
you know, trying to make you think that you're crazy.
So that didn't happen.
No, just didn't happen that way.
Even if it's like flat-out,
you have proof,
you have evidence, you see text message,
you're showing it to them or you have an email
or something you're showing it to them.
This is like proof that it happened this way.
Now I see what you're saying.
Yeah, I see what it says in black and white but no didn't happen that way
or you have proof that it was said
that like that or that they actually did say that.
But they'll just flat out deny it and
then you start questioning your own reality.
You literally start to think that you're crazy
because it happened so often that they just completely deny reality
and that's what gaslighting is.
and many times their aggression
or their anger or the way that they're responding doesn't even fit.
Whatever it is that you are asking them about
or questioning them about,
they just become so aggressive.
They have this narcissistic injury.
Once it gets inflicted,
it unleashes that narcissistic rage and you know,
it can be pretty scary sometimes.
So be very careful if you guys are in any sort of danger situation,
of course.
So that's number 6.
You're bringing things
up and they just want to like brush it aside
and just pretend like it didn't happen
and well, let's just forget about it.
Let's just move on in the future.
Everything is going to be so much better.
You'll see life is going to be great.
It's gonna be roses and rainbows and
unicorns and it's all going to be great
and, you know, you believe it and for a while
and then of course it all goes back to the way.
It once was And, you know, they just want you to forget about whatever
and, you know, look over here and look over there and let's just like,
not even look at whatever it was that you're supposed to be looking at.
So those are the seven signs that you are arguing with a narcissist
and let me know in the comments if these look familiar to you.
I would love to know and especially if you're negotiating
with a narcissist and if you are,
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