How do you know if he is the one? Does God really have that one special person in the whole world
for you to be with? This is a must video for those of you who are single and you're interested in
the topic of relationships and what God thinks about it? Before we go into this I would like
to encourage you to go ahead and click like to this video, subscribe if you have not and click
on the notification bell so you can be reminded each time we go live. Now in 1 Corinthians 7:39
it says," A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives. But if her husband dies,
she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." That's new testament,
that's Apostle Paul. I want you to notice these words. "She is at liberty." Come on somebody drop
that in the chat. At liberty, to marry whom she wishes. It doesn't say, whom the Lord chooses for
her. Whom she wishes. Only one requirement; in the Lord. So I don't believe God plays
lottery with romance. I don't believe God plays lottery with relationships, with having this
one person in the world for you and then if you miss this one person, if you marry somebody else
whom you like who is Christian but they're not the one, your whole life is gonna be messed up and
you're gonna mess the whole cycle for everybody else. I don't believe in that because Paul is
very clear. He says," She is at liberty." Meaning she's free to marry whom she likes
as long as it's in the Lord. Now when God started the relationships in the beginning
in Genesis. In fact why am I referring to Genesis is because Jesus, when addressing
the issue of divorce and they brought to Him the law of Moses, the religious leaders. He said,
in the beginning it was not so. So Jesus went back to the beginning and in Genesis we see in Genesis
2:18 and 20 it says, And the Lord God said," It is not good that men should be alone; I will
make him a helper compatible to him" So Adam gave names to all the cattle, to the birds of the air,
into every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper compatible to him. I want
you to notice this word compatible. Comparability. Being similar is what God was looking for Adam.
Adam was looking for someone. God was having this person for Adam and this one requirement,
one characteristic is that it had to be, this person had to be compatible to Adam. Meaning
that she had to match him as a human being. She had to be suited to his needs and fit him for his
assignment. Like a key that goes perfectly into a lock and clicks it open. God intended romantic
relationships to fit perfectly and click, because there's there's some keys that can
fit perfectly ,they just don't click. They don't turn. Meaning there are Christians that honestly
fit you perfectly. They fit your assignment. They're the opposite sex. They seem to be in
the Lord but you just, it just doesn't click. That's why Paul tells to the widows. He says,
marry whom you wish. Meaning there has to be that click. There has to be that thing that you know,
that you know, hey I want to be with this person for the rest of my life. And same it thing talks
about in 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers." And then
Paul is using the reference of fellowship with righteousness with lawlessness and communion of
light with darkness. He's saying, that these guys don't have a fellowship. It doesn't say that they
cannot coexist. He just says they don't have a fellowship. And righteousness and lawlessness,
they don't have, you know, anything in common, even though they still can coexist. And so Paul
is saying that unbelievers and believers, you know, we coexist, we love people but when it
comes to getting into a yoked relationship, that we have to be equally yoked meaning there has to
be comparability. We have to be in the Lord and so I just want to touch on five things to look for
if you want to know if he is the one or if she is the one. And all of these five things will
really be summarized in one word - comparability. You have to be compatible. That's really what the
first requirement was for Adam and that's really the requirement that Jesus gives to us through the
writings of Paul is that, in the Lord whomever she wishes, she's at liberty to marry who she likes in
the Lord. So let's look at the first one. First one is gender comparability. You know scripture
is very clear that God wants us to marry somebody who is of opposite gender to us. As Christians
this is no brainer. This is clear that that's the way the Lord intended the relationships to be and
that is the first thing to look for, opposite gender. The second one is faith, The person
that you're interested in. The person that you're wondering is this the one person? Is he the one?
Is she the one? They have to match your faith. Not only that they believe in God but they believe
in Jesus. That's why Paul says in Corinthians he says," that whomever you wish you can marry in the
Lord." Not just in God because, you know so many religions believe in God. We narrow it down to
in the Lord. You have to have similar faith. Can I even go a step further and say that you have to
share doctrinal preferences about gifts of the Holy Spirit, about baptizing in the name of the
Father, Son and the Holy Spirit, about the kind of church that you go to, speaking in tongues,
probably deliverance and other things. Because if you don't agree doctrinally. Even if you
belong to a Christian camp, the problem is that there are so many camps, Christian camps. And
we sometimes disagree and so the moment you end up with somebody you're gonna have a lot
of fights over doctrine. And spiritual things, for us as Christians they're very dear to us.
That's who we are. We're spiritual beings and our faith in God is very important to us. And so you
cannot downplay that and say, "well you know he's hot. You know that's all that matters."
My friend. Hell is hot. That's not enough to be with somebody. Oh well, he believes in God or she
believes in God. Demons believe in God and they're going to hell. It's not enough to believe in God.
You have to have the same convictions. You have to be in the Lord. They have to be same preferences
when it comes to your doctrine. It's so huge guys. You have no idea how important it is for
long-term relationship to agree on spiritual things. The third thing that you have to keep
in mind when you're looking for the one is for compatible values. So not only, you know, you have
to be compatible in your gender. You have to be compatible in your faith but you have to be also
compatible in your values. Values meaning that you both value the same things. See some people
value money. Some people value family. Some people value ministry. Some people value education. Some
people value different things and so you have to share your values. If your values are different,
see you can have same faith and different values. One person can value. for example this and the
other person can value that. And sooner or later there will be a crash and a clash between the
relationships, in the relationships between two people if their values are not similar. You know
you may have a different taste on things. For example, you know one person can be more of a
spender. The other one is more of a saver you know. So that's different but when it comes to
your life values, the things that are important to you. You know a person who values honesty, person
that values peace, a person the value the voice of God, a person that values serving people, serving
God. You know these things are extremely important and you have to find somebody that matches your
values. Number four is peace. You gotta have peace about this person. That means that if
your gut says no. Hold on. Pay attention to your attention. Don't rush into anything that you have
no peace over. Even if this person is attractive. Even if this person, like, it just feels like man,
they're perfect. But you just have no peace. A lot of times God communicates to us through His peace.
Sometimes He withholds the peace and that's a sign that He doesn't want us to be in that relationship
or we should pause and we should wait. Never go against your peace. Now we don't follow our heart.
We follow the Lord with our heart but at the same time when our imagination, our mind and our heart
is sanctified and dedicated to the Lord. The Lord many times can use that to speak to us. You know
the the Spirit of the Lord is the lamp of the Lord, the proverb says. And so God wants to speak
to you and sometimes He will not speak to you audibly or in the dream or in a vision or through
a prophecy. He will speak to you by giving you this peace and giving you this sense of knowing
inside, this person is the one. This person is the one that I want to spend my life with. And
that's huge. And then number five is attraction and that's that clicking part. You know like where
you click. There's a sense of attraction to this person. Now attraction is not the most important
thing. And so for those people who maybe think, oh this is completely worldly that you're talking
about attraction. Attraction is huge. Attraction, I'm not talking about only physical attraction.
I'm talking about that you're attracted to this person's soul. You really like this person. You
really click with this person. You really want to be with this person. There's that, even almost
like a sense of infatuation, a sense of mystery to this person, a sense of drawing that you have to
this person and that's good. Now this alone will not sustain your relationship. I gotta tell you
that from the get-go. But this is important to begin, when you're beginning that relationship
it's important to have that. And if you don't have that don't rush into a relationship because it's
really what makes this relationship different than your other relationships is this attraction that
you have. That's why Paul says in Corinthians he says, that she is at liberty to be married to whom
she wishes. Meaning there is a sense of like a wish. A sense of desire to be with that person and
so attraction is important. I believe that these five things, hopefully they can help you to make
a decision if you are in that limbo right now. If you are in that valley trying to figure out, is
he the one, is she the one. I really want you not to over complicate this topic. It's a very serious
decision you're gonna make in your life but at the same time God wants you to be involved in this
decision but don't over spiritualize this decision okay. You really don't need to have 27 prophetic
words, and you know 28 signs. You don't need to really flip the fleece and like Gideon did, and to
really just kind of have angels from heaven saying and confirm that. Just follow the scriptures. Let
me read you this verse again in the conclusion. She is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes
only in the Lord. So this is not only to a man but also to a woman. You are free to marry whom
you like, only in the Lord. They have to share you know, has to be opposite gender, they have to
share your faith, they have to share your values and you have to have peace and there has to be an
attraction to this person for this relationship to begin to work. I hope this was a blessing to you
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