Hello, welcome to today's video. And today we are going through the five love languages.
It's how to meet your man's needs, interrelationship via love languages. This is an important concept
that has helped a lot of my married or in relationship clients. Stay tuned
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So whether you're single right now and you're learning relationships skills, or whether
you're already in one and you want to make your man and your relationship even happier
and stronger, this is the video for you. We're talking love languages and how to meet those.
If you haven't read Gary Chapman's book, it was re-published in 2011 strongly recommend
it. It gives the five love languages. Ways to show affection and love for your partner.
And it's different for every individual. Make sure you stick around to the end because I'm
also going to be telling you the number one mistake that most people make with love languages
as well as what you need to do next. So what are the five love languages? Number one is
words of affirmation. So this is literally words and things that you say to your partner.
A lot of men are very validated by hearing things and by auditory love. Support shows
of companionship, just you telling him how well he did or how much you love him is what
a man who has words of affirmation as his primary love language is going to enjoy. He's
going to feel the most appreciated each and every day when you tell him how much you appreciate
him.
Number two is gifts. So gifts don't have to be some big extravagant display, but if your
partner's primary love language is gifts, then it shows that he's most validated and
feels most loved when small tokens are given to him that says that you were thinking of
him. Again, it doesn't have to be anything big. It can be a little trinket you picked
up from work and can be a little something you grabbed, but the gift shows that you were
thinking of him and that's what really makes him feel loved. Number three is acts of service.
So the third language of love is about demonstrating your appreciation for him through an act of
service. So whether it's picking up the kids, whether it's doing a household task, helping
him with dinner, taking over some other tasks so that he can perform a task that's more
important to him.
Whatever it is, it's something you do, some sort of act of service that helps him and
makes him feel appreciated. For a man who has acts of service, as his love language,
he's going to absolutely adore this. Now this isn't mothering. I should add that in. It's
not doing things for him all the time that he should be doing. It's a surprise act of
service that makes him feel loved and appreciated. Number four, quality time. So if your partner's
love language is quality time, it means all he really wants from you is just quality time
spent with you, with all of your attention. The best thing you can do for your partner,
if their love language is quality time is turn off your phone, take away distractions
and be with them fully present for an allotted amount of time. It doesn't even necessarily
have to be long.
But if your partner, if your partner's love language is quality, time is going to absolutely
love it when you just put everything aside and spend some amount of time focusing purely
on him. Number five, physical touch. So as you might imagine for a lot of men, their
primary love language is physical touch. Something as simple as brushing your hand along his
shoulders. When you get home, putting your hand on his thigh underneath the table when
you guys are having dinner. Massages, anything that makes him feel loved through touch is
going to be the number one thing that makes him feel appreciated by you. You can say all
the words you want to these guys, you can buy them the gifts, you can do things for
them. But what they really want is for you to touch them. That's how they're gonna feel
most loved. And if your partner's love language is touch, you want to set out to do that as
much as you possibly can.
So those are the five love languages. Now, the number one mistake that people make when
they're applying love languages is they default to the way they feel most loved. So I love
being touched. I love words of affirmation. So you figure that, well, that's my concept
of reality. It's going to be my partners as well. You touch them, you compliment them
a lot, but your partner really wants quality time and they don't feel as loved as they
could by you. So you wanna make sure that you love someone in their love language, not
the default, which will be your own. How do you find that out? While there's a quiz that
you can actually take on Gary Chapman's website, so I'll put the link to that in the description,
grab the book, love languages, head over to the website and take the quiz and you can
find out what your love languages and what your partners is so you can love and appreciate
them the most by using it. Well, that's the video. Thank you for watching. I hope you
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