Advice for couples with
age differences. My name is Paul Friedman
I founded The Marriage Foundation
and generally speaking,
if the man is older than a woman
typically, the advice that the woman is
seeking
is how to cope with her friends and her
family who may object to her
being with an older man. On the other
side,
men who find an older woman
to be their soul mate,
the woman is often asking, "Is he going to
stick around?
What's going to happen when I get older?"
And maybe his friends are going, "Man, what
are you doing? She's older
than you. Do you know what she's going to
look like in 10 years, 20 years?"
And the answer is the same no matter
what.
Don't make your connection.
Don't allow your connection to be
brought down to the level
of the physical. Age is a physical
component of our lives.
It's not a spiritual component
and marriage is a spiritual relationship.
People hate the word spiritual,
therapists hate the word love. They say
that love
is an abstract thought. It's an emotion.
No, it's not, it's not.
Just because your senses
cannot experience love doesn't mean it's
not tangible
and real. And when we think abstract,
we're not thinking
real. Love is the most real thing
in our lives.
All of us have had that experience of
love
not constantly, although we should
but we've had that experience of love
and it's so overwhelming.
It takes over our entire being.
Why? Because it is our entire being,
we are souls who have bodies and have
minds.
This is not a religious recording by the
way,
but you're a soul. I'm a soul so when we
experience our true nature
it's love. That is the true nature and
when we meet somebody
who we are attracted to on that level
which manifests in other ways
psychologically and physically,
the basis is the love is the connection.
It's your soul mate, enjoy it.
Do not allow your mind because it's your
mind
to drag you into these
"rational thoughts" because they simply
don't matter.
You're with your soul mate.
You're with the person who you're meant
to be with
and you need to make sure you know how
to be married
so that you can keep your relationship
at that higher level of spiritual
connection rather than the mundane stuff
that fades for both the young,
the old, the beautiful, and the homely.
All of those things fade but love never
fades.
It's eternal. So if you stay focused
there
don't listen to other people.
Don't listen to your mind. Keep your
focus
where it belongs. Don't look for the
practical
although you need to do certain
practical things to make sure you're
both taken care of as time goes on.
Enjoy that love. That love that you
experience
it's amazing, isn't it? Why would you
trade that off
for some practical reason?
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Blessings to you! Blessings to your
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and God bless! Take care!