Heya playa, do you ever wake up in the morning feeling lost and broken?
Like you don't really know where your life is gonna take you?
There's no one that wants to date you,
you don't really have a close group of friends you can open up to and confide in.
You just feel stuck?
If that's the case don't worry.
I'm gonna walk you through the four areas of your
life that you can work on improving by taking small incremental steps.
Doing these things is going to have a huge positive improvement on the
way you see your day-to-day life so let's get through it.
I've broken down these four points onto the chart that you see right now.
There is some overlap in each of these sections which I will go over but let's
start with the area that I think a lot of people struggle with and that's romantic relationships.
Romantic relationships might be the area that you feel you're struggling with the most now.
Now after talking to so many people and hearing their stories what I tend to see happens a lot
is that after getting rejected over and over and over it just dulls their flame,
makes them feel like they're unlovable, there's no one out there that's going to care about them
and it's not even worth pursuing anyone new because it's just going to end in failure.
If you feel like you're at that point in life where you've taken the black
pill and totally given up on dating, I get it.
It's going to be really hard to change your perspective but if you're someone
that wants to continue dating, that still yearns to find a partner but you're afraid
of people just not accepting you for who you are here's what you can do.
First off it's possible that the place that you're pursuing people maintains a certain type
of culture where people are looking for certain types of partners that maybe you just don't fit
into so changing your location or how you go about pursuing people can actually make a difference.
For example, if you live on a college campus you might think clearly there's
an abundance of people here, surely there has to be at least one person that I can
date which is a good open way to look at things however where people start to fall
into the hopelessness territory is when they become fixated on a small group of people that
they're pursuing that if they got rejected by all of them they give up on everyone.
In order to actually succeed in dating you have to continue to pursue new people.
It's that pursuit of getting to know new people that you actually sharpen your skill set.
Every conversation gives you the opportunity to practice your flirting skills,
your social and communication skills, your body language, and how you choose to qualify people.
The qualities you look for in others to see if they're a good fit for you.
And I'm not trying to sit here and downplay the importance of looks and
money and status and wealth and all these different things that people harp on the
most because they are important factors but if you're unwilling to even talk to people
and continuously pursue them those factors really aren't going to carry you very far
unless you are like top one percent of the most attractive people ever.
Second, that feeling of hopelessness in dating might be fueling other feelings
like jealousy of other couples that are happy together or resentment over the fact that this
is so hard for you to find a partner and everyone else can just do it with ease.
And to that, I just want to say I think you're being too hard on yourself.
You were born into this world not by your own choice so the
challenges and obstacles that have come your way are things that just happened.
You didn't put yourself in that position to be facing those things when it comes to dating.
If you feel like there's an obstacle that's holding you back that doesn't
mean that it's impossible for you to find someone,
it just presents a different challenge that's unique to you.
And third, you have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone.
I think secretly we're all hoping that we're just gonna magically find this beautifully attractive
smart and awesome person that gets us and loves us for who we are but relationships are a struggle.
You're taking your world and their world and
you're trying to see if the two of you can fit together.
That's not always going to be an easy process.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone means trying something new.
That might mean asking out a person that doesn't fit your ideal perfect
standards but they are a really awesome person, someone worth getting to know.
Or it could mean taking on a new skill and trying to learn something that's going to help set you
apart from all the other people out there who are approaching with the same boring openers.
I know sometimes it can feel incredibly difficult
to believe that there is hope for you in this area of your life but there is.
And I guarantee if you take these active steps you're going to start
to think about dating a little differently.
You're going to look at romantic relationships as
something that you hope to achieve with the right type of person rather than
just hoping you have one so you can experience it or see what it's like.
But I'm not here to downplay anyone's struggles and make it
seem like it's so much easier than it actually is.
That's why I need to hear from you,
what are the areas that you're struggling with when it comes to romantic relationships?
Where are you hitting that wall where are you running into obstacles?
Leave your comment down below and let me know.
Now, this is just the first video of a four-part series that I'm doing on
feeling lost and hopeless in your life so if you enjoyed it, hit the thumbs up and
definitely click on the playlist there on the screen where I'm going to share more
videos along with the rest of the videos in this series on how to manage those feelings.
How to conquer those different areas of your life,
following these tips and advice to help you be your best self.
I believe you have what it takes to be somebody great.
I want to help you get there.
On that note, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.