MARK: I feel that I'm not a priority.
KELLY: I don't wanna make you a priority
because I don't like being around you
or talking to you sometimes.
Because all you do is bitch
and put me down.
I could say...
the sky is blue and you'll say...
-"Bullshit, who you *******?" -And what did I ask you
after the affair? I said, "I want you to quit there."
And you said, "**** you, I'm not quitting."
[LAUGHS]
Then I said, "I don't want you to drink
with people from work." That lasted for about a week.
KELLY: I felt like I was doing something wrong
or I was hanging out with a bunch of dudes.
-You know who I'm with. -Kelly, you've--
No, no, no, no, I-- I didn't know who you were with
when you were having an affair, I didn't know
when you're running around on Saturdays.
-You know where I'm at now. -I don't.
I don't know what you're doing, I'll be honest.
I don't know what the **** you were doing.
It's important to you. You're willing to dig
your heels in and put your marriage on the line.
Maybe I don't even care if you--
Because I don't wanna come home to you.
Because you're always mean.
Do you see where it all comes into play?
If I had something great to come home to,
I might ******* wanna come home.
[♪♪]
I'm willing to listen to what a third party has to say,
and then I'll figure out if I'm getting on that plane
with you when I leave here.
JON: Can I call a truce for a minute?
-Yes. Oh, **** oh, my God. -MARK: Yeah.
-Oh, wow. -KELLY: Mark and I are arguing
and here comes Jon. Um, we're like, "Holy shit."
Let's go sit over there and talk, okay? Come on.
-Okay. -MARK: I was very surprised.
I've seen Jon on TV before
and I was absolutely shocked when I saw who it was,
who's gonna be working with us.
-Do you know me? -Yeah.
I'm a pretty direct kind of guy.
-Yes. -Have you been with a counselor
or a therapist?
-Yes. -Yes.
-How'd that go? -MARK: Terrible.
-KELLY: Terrible. -Waste of time?
-Yes. -Well, I'm not that way.
We have a couple days together and I wanna solve this.
So here's the deal, I'll be straight with you
if you're straight with me.
And I will fight like hell...
to save this for you.
-Fair? -Yeah.
What happened?
The catalyst was an affair...
with a coworker.
JON: So here's what happens in a marriage.
You don't get something you need,
you don't feel significant enough,
or important enough.
You step out of the relationship,
and now you satisfy your needs outside of the marriage.
If she was happy enough,
she wouldn't have stepped out of the marriage.
Stepping out of the marriage is the consequence,
not the cause.
-Does that make sense? -Yes.
MARK: That is one isolated incident.
Let's magnify that by a million times.
There's little things that I just feel
I take a backseat to.
I mean, who has to hang out twice a week
and drink with people from work when they're married?
"I got to do this," "Hey, did you get my call?"
"I'll check it later." I mean, she's so busy.
She's got so much going on.
Going out for happy hour with a girlfriend,
am I just never supposed to do that again?
Answer one of my messages. I'll see it as read.
Then 12 hours later, there's still no--
and it-- she'll go 12 hours, be like, "I was busy."
Mark, you got to stop attacking.
Fair?
Fair.
You have to take some heat for this.
-You've become a bummer. -Yes.
On those nights when you're home and she's not,
do you know that she doesn't wanna be with you
-at those times? -Yeah, of course.
Because he's not fun to be around.
He's angry all the time.
And he's stewing and thinking things.
-Because he doesn't trust you. -I know.
JON: If you came home a few times,
maybe he'd stop being angry.
He feels insignificant, Kelly.
You're not coming home enough, you're not answering his texts.
You became a master at lying to him about--
From your phone being dead to having an affair.
Maybe you're just a horrible wife.
[♪♪]
You became a master at lying to him about--
From your phone being dead to having an affair.
Maybe you're just a horrible wife.
KELLY: I was called out. Right now I'm just aggravated
and irritated and it makes me feel
like a shitty person.
He feels insignificant, Kelly,
just like you did when you went outside the marriage.
So you have to understand, if he feels insignificant
and now he's gonna try to control you,
you're gonna resist and go back outside the marriage.
And if that cycle doesn't change, you're done.
Tomorrow, we're working on trust.
I've planned a test to see if you guys can start
to put down the walls and let each other in.
I've given you something to think about?
-Yes, sir. -Yes.
-JON: I'll see you tomorrow. -All right.
MARK: In our past therapy experiences,
nobody's been this straightforward,
and if they were, Kelly walked out immediately.
Well, I'm excited for what our day
has in store tomorrow.
MARK: The fact that she sat there,
I liked.
This definitely gives me hope.
I'm looking forward to tomorrow.
Let's ******* hope it helps.
Stop...
-being a bitch, okay? -[CHUCKLES]
Stop being an asshole.