- Now, the Adam Lodolce from eight years ago,
when I first became a dating coach,
is very, very different from the Adam now.
And if you're watching this video,
it's unlikely that you would've even wanted to work with,
or listen to the old Adam Lodolce.
And that's because dating coaches are very different
in very different ways, and they appeal to different people.
So in this video, I'm gonna talk about
just the five things to look for
before ever working with a dating coach,
or even following any type of dating expert's advice.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name's Adam Lodolce from SexyConfidence.com
where I help the 21st century woman create a love life
that she absolutely freaking loves.
And this video is all about helping you
look for the right things in hiring a dating coach,
because I've been a dating coach for a long time.
And I've seen that there can be
some sketchy characters in this space,
and there are also some really great people in this space.
So this is what you really wanna look for
before even following anyone's advice,
or taking their courses, or reading their books.
So this is a really important video for you ladies
who are looking for some help with your love life.
Number one, look at their philosophy on dating.
Now, my philosophy in my programs,
for everything that I do, is all about confidence.
Building yourself first, loving yourself first
before even looking for a relationship.
Now, that might appeal to you,
and that might be what you're looking for.
There are other coaches out there
who talk a lot about rules,
because some people like to follow very strict rules.
That's not as much my style, but that may work for you.
Other coaches that talk about
how to be a bitch to attract men.
I mean, it's all across the spectrum.
But you wanna really understand what is their philosophy
before investing any money into their coaching program,
or really learning much more about what it is that they do.
But I do urge you to really look into
what is their philosophy on finding love,
because many different coaches have different philosophies.
And make sure you do this before you invest too much money
or effort into their coaching or into their programs.
Number two, I want you to look at
their unique perspective on love.
Now, I happen to be a male in my 30s,
who's in a very happy relationship.
But back about seven, six years ago,
when I was a coach for men,
I was just a single guy in my 20s,
who would help men get out there and flirt with women.
These are two very different perspectives, right?
Back then, I was dating a lot.
I was going out on a lot of dates.
I had a lot of experience with socializing
and meeting women.
Now I'm older, right?
I don't go on dates.
The last date I was on about four years ago.
But the perspective I now have
is much more geared towards finding love
and finding a great relationship.
So taking a look at their perspectives,
where they come from.
And there are different coaches with different perspectives.
Maybe they're younger, maybe they're older.
There are some dating coaches,
relationship coaches, that are like 65,
and have been in a relationship for 40 years.
I think they will provide a great perspective
on finding long lasting love,
but are they gonna have a good perspective on how to flirt?
Probably not.
These are things I want you to look at.
Number three is look at their solutions to finding love.
Now, a lot of my solutions for various programs I have,
like Casual to Committed or Track the One Academy,
most of them revolve around the importance of socializing,
getting out there and building your social confidence.
But some other coaches out there are more about like,
just do online dating.
Other coaches are like, just do offline dating.
Some are just focused on match-making.
Mine is focused on all of them,
but again, you find the coach that makes most sense
for exactly what it is you wanna do.
But take a look at their basic solution
on how to get you the love life you want.
And make sure you get that information
before, again, you invest in any of their programs.
Number four, ask yourself, is their free content any good?
Now, I make you two videos just like this,
and we have a ton of articles at sexyconfidence.com
to really get you at least a couple steps
in the right direction as far as finding love.
And we put a lot of effort into making sure
that it's as good as we could possibly get.
I mean, we can always improve.
But there's some coaches out there
who also have great content, great videos,
great articles, great books.
But make sure you take a look at their free stuff.
Is it good, and does it really relate to you?
Do that before you ever hire them
or take any of their programs.
And finally, just make sure you ask yourself,
do you really need a dating coach
with a one-on-one presence,
or do you need more like a digital program?
Now here's the thing,
many of the top dating coaches out there,
relationship coaches, don't do one-on-one coaching anymore,
because unfortunately, like myself,
time is unfortunately limited, right?
We have a lot of people reaching out,
wanting to work with us,
and we really wanna package our information
into digital products so that it can be offered
to many more people, and not just the one-on-one scenario.
So it's something you wanna think about
when you're going out there
and looking for the right type of dating coach.
Do you really need that one-on-one connection,
many of you might,
or do you just need digital products.
So I'd love to hear from you in the comments below.
Have you ever hired a dating coach?
How'd it go?
Or have you ever taken any of my programs?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments.
How did that go?
I wanna open that up.
Have you ever hired, worked with other people,
or purchased other books?
I'd love to see all the responses.
I'd love to hear from all of you,
as far as your experience, because I know there are some
shady characters in this space,
but there are also some amazing characters as well,
and amazing coaches.
So please leave that comment below.
And also, if you've enjoyed this video
please give it a like on YouTube,
and don't forget to subscribe on YouTube.
And of course, if you are looking
for some help in your dating life,
and my free videos do resinate with you,
of course, feel free to check out sexyconfidence.com.
We have a ton of premium courses that can help you
with your love life.
So thank you, again, so much for watching,
and I will speak to you, you sexy, single lady, next week.
Bye bye.