the Marvel Cinematic Universe is pretty
much the only thing guaranteed to get me
to a movie theater on opening night but
even though the movies are amazing there
is popular criticism that their villains
are kind of weak yet there's one villain
that everybody seems to adore and root
for I am Loki of Jotunheim and I bring
you a gift
while most Marvel villains get killed
off or captured after just one film Loki
has now played a major role in four
films there's even petitions for his own
movie I believe there are four major
reasons why Loki has literally gotten
away with murder and become one of the
biggest fan favorites in the Marvel
Universe and understanding these four
things will help so you too can get away
with making mistakes or screwing up
without it being something people hold
against you just don't actually try to
get away with murder we're going to
start with the obvious one I think
points two through four are even more
interesting insight into some unique
things that make humans like someone but
we have to start with the obvious first
and foremost Loki is charming he's
clever enjoying himself and unfeasible
he looks like he's always in on a joke
that you don't know yet yeah okay that
was for New York I like her
responding to that slap with a smile and
a compliment might be the single most
infuriating and attractive way he could
have responded even when his life is
threatened he's playful and totally
unfazed betray and I'll kill you
it's good to see you too soon here's my
favorite example of him being unfeasible
under stress this is so unlike you
brother so glad Destin they're in the
middle of a high-pressure escape and
he's just having fun because he's always
having fun it creates a swagger grabs
you before one of your new companions
given that you seem to like them so much
oh this is much better
Oh costumes a bit much so tight but the
confidence I can feel the righteousness
surging we envy that carefree attitude
and confidence that everything is going
to turn out alright and you know what we
honestly should all have a bit of that
in us most of us overestimate the
severity of our situations at the end of
the day unless you're struggling against
starvation or facing a life-threatening
situation life is only as stressful and
serious as we make it if you have a roof
over your head food every day and you go
from sunrise to sunset without facing
death you're doing better than 95% of
humans throughout history by making
light of things and having fun while not
doing anything to jeopardize the mission
Loki shows carefree everything is gonna
be all right swagger that we admire and
enjoy watching you lied to me
I'm impressed even in Chains you get the
sense that everything Loki does is
because he wants to not out of guilt or
obligation but true desire a good
portion of this is tough to fake if
something affects you and you repress it
it comes across differently than if
you're truly unfazed that said one thing
you can do today
is set a reminder in your phone that
pops up several times a day and asks how
can I make this more fun our brain
answers whatever we ask if you ask
yourself what do I suck at you'll get an
answer if you ask yourself what's
something I'm good at you'll get an
answer so by setting yourself up with a
reminder how can I make this more fun
you prime yourself to answer it and make
your day-to-day life a little bit more
enjoyable now can bear all of this to
say
Malekith from Thor the dark world who
monotone lead roles in an alien language
about destroying the universe it's clear
why fans obsess over looking on a few
rush event day I have fun done That's
Life the charming charismatic people get
the attention and affection of others
and the majority of people go unseen or
unremembered now that said I actually
found Ultron very charming in a weird
polite robot sort of way so why doesn't
he have anyone rooting for him or
begging for a solo Ultron he'll it's
because of Loki's second strength we
root for him because we understand him
we empathize with his motives and we
relate to him and you can use that in
your own life as well first let's start
with Loki when you know his backstory
it's hard not to feel for him Loki is
the clever but smaller little brother to
Thor and it's clear that he's not the
favorite and his friend group or to his
father what happened silver tongue
turned the lead
Thor Odinson my air
my first balloon so yeah he's been
dealing with 5,000 years of that then he
finds out he's actually adopted and not
from some lovely Asgardian family nope
Loki is actually adopted from the frost
giants a race that as Guardians like him
are raised to hate and fear as monsters
what am I yo my son more than that we
can identify with him he feels under
appreciated for his gifts overshadowed
by the achievements of someone he
doesn't think is any better than him if
you have a sibling you know the feeling
from some point in your childhood or
adulthood of one thing all of your
parents loved or wanting to be the
favorite even in an office setting who
hasn't been frustrated by a more favored
co-worker who gets better assignments or
better pay despite not being as good as
you or frustrated by a boss that we
don't think is as smart as we are
Loki's not driven by limitless greed or
an unexplained love for Destruction in
the beginning he's a hurt son taking
misguided actions to try to prove that
he's good enough and that he deserves to
be loved
fine I wonder that's right
I only wanted to be more equal to some
extent that's what drives all of us at
least some of the time regardless of how
successful you are some part of you just
wants the love and acceptance of your
friends or your family or special
someone
we try to better ourselves or our
circumstances so that people will like
us so that we don't end up alone why
have you done this to prove to father
that I am a worthy son when he wakes
I will have saved his life I would have
destroyed that race of monsters and I
will be true heir to the throne
why does seeing ourselves in someone
matter because most of us don't 100%
hate ourselves even when there are
things we don't like about ourselves or
when we do something we aren't proud of
we excuse it because of something in our
past or our circumstances we go yes I
get that this looks bad and I wouldn't
want a world where everyone did this all
the time but you don't understand this
is different I'm different I only did
that bad thing or told that small lie
because of circumstances that make me
special
so when Loki makes terrible decisions or
does bad things from a place we can
understand we don't hate him for it we
might hit his actions but some small
part of us feels for him hurts with him
even roots for him to find his way back
to the good side I could have done it
father
I could have done it
for you
how can you apply this to your own life
one is if you feel yourself angry with
someone for something they've done try
to remember that their life
circumstances have led them here maybe
they cut you off because they're a jerk
but maybe they cut you off because
they're racing to the hospital you don't
do this for their sake but for your own
you'll find yourself being a more
forgiving understanding person and
you'll spend less time feeling things
like anger and frustration which frees
you up for more time feeling happy
upbeat and inspired too if you
accidentally screw up be transparent and
share with people what you were trying
to do let them see that you were
motivated by good intentions we've all
screwed up if you start with good
intentions and are transparent about
your mistakes and how things went wrong
people are much much more likely to
forgive you
that doesn't mean try to downplay
ownership of the situation if you say
this wasn't my fault because of X Y Z
it's not gonna work out well for you
ironically if you don't try to deflect
blame but instead explain what happened
while still accepting it's very likely
you won't suffer any major long-term
damage to your relationships
Loki Loki Loki's alive you believe it
he's I he's up there the third reason
that Loki is a villain with an adoring
fan base that forgives his flaws and
roots for him is because he is a
tortured soul you sometimes get the
sense that Loki doesn't want to cause
destruction these rare moments where he
isn't enjoying himself only come out
when he potentially regrets the damage
he's done
and rather than undercutting his
likability they amplify it look around
you
just think this madness will end with
your room it's too late
too late stopping okay together
is it real is it an act he's
unpredictable you root for him to do the
right thing he constantly disappoints
you and then he gives you hope this
happens in real life all the time
also he isn't just a cocky unfeasible
a-hole he's in pain and he shows hints
that he could maybe even be redeemed
if only the right person came along and
helped him I know a guy from college who
embodies this to a tee and the number
women that flocked to him knowing he's
likely to hurt them was shocking to me
before I understood this and it isn't
just women men can have this Savior
complex too in either case there's a
large part of humanity that's drawn to
people not because of who they are but
because of glimpses of who they could be
this is why people go back to exes who
cheat on them or mistreat them it used
to baffle me I had no idea how to stop
people from going back to bad situations
until I understood that these
relationships are addicting in the same
way as certain drugs they create
dangerously low lows by incredibly high
highs and the glimmer of hope that they
can keep those highs and lose the lows
gets them to go back the key here is
that the most addicting people aren't
bad all the time what they are is
unpredictable
Loki is fascinating to us because he
creates a wide range of emotions in us
laughter frustration sympathy admiration
you never know exactly what he'll do
which keeps you riveted to him and keeps
you thinking about him the fact that
Loki is a demigod with insane power for
creation or destruction takes this and
puts it on steroids as a quick side note
I'm not saying you should be this way
long term there are better ways to go
about captivating people and attracting
friends and dates there's a lot of
different ways to be charismatic and
magnetic and just because the tortured
soul works for Loki doesn't mean you
should aspire to it the last trait that
makes us love Loki is something you can
aspire to and that's that you can't keep
him down
we all make mistakes take losses and
have bad days so if someone is perfect
we don't necessarily like them now
someone that falls gets up and dust
themselves off with a grin that we can
get behind
if it's all the same to you
right now now when you combine that
ability to take lumps and keep smiling
with his cocky charm his deep-seated
desire just to be loved and his tortured
unpredictable nature you end up with
hands down the best Marvel villain of
all of them that said I'm more of a hero
guy myself
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