- Hey playa's.
Saying goodbye to friends is never an easy thing to do.
I know right now you might be experiencing
a lot of different emotions,
like sadness, anger, anxiety or even fear
as to what's gonna happen when they're gone.
But don't worry.
In this video, I'm gonna share a few tips
on how you can get the most out of your friendships
and how to keep in contact with them going forward.
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For some of you, your friends may be
going to a different school,
graduating early or one of you
is just moving somewhere totally far out.
Regardless of the reason, saying goodbye is never easy.
Over time I'm you've developed
a really close bond with your friend.
They're someone you can confide in,
someone you can trust and someone you know
that has your back when you need it.
And part of the fear here is knowing
that things won't be the same once they're gone.
I mean, it's impossible to find
a new best friend just like them, right?
Speaking from my own experience,
as you grow older you enter new environments,
you meet new people and you form new relationships.
Now that's not to say that your new friendships
totally erase your previous ones as if they didn't matter,
it just builds on top of them.
But, before you move into that new stage,
there are still plenty things
you can do with your current friends
to enjoy your time together.
One thing you can do is create a photo collage
or even better, record a bunch videos
of your last few days together.
Now I know you may be thinking,
well what are those videos gonna be about?
But it doesn't really matter.
Sometimes looking back at old videos of your friends
just being themselves if a fun thing to do.
I know for me, when I look back
at old pictures and videos of me and my friends
hanging out back in the day,
it does make me feel kinda sad
because we have gone on our own separate ways.
But, it also makes me feel kinda happy
because it reminds me of the good times we've shared.
Trust me on this.
I know having tons of pictures and videos
might not hold a lot of weight now,
but when you're looking back on them years from now,
you're gonna remember a lot of inside jokes
and funny things that you completely forgot
and it's gonna make you smile.
Another thing you could do is have a goodbye celebration
with you and all of your friends.
Get everyone together to play video games for hours,
take a bike ride around the neighborhood
or just hangout and talk.
Time is something you won't ever get back,
so if you can spend even just a little more time
hangin' out with your friends, go for it.
But, if there really isn't any time for you
to actually see your friends,
don't beat yourself up about it.
It's totally okay to feel bummed out and sad here,
don't push yourself to feel you need to be over it
or that you don't care,
be in those feelings
and when you're ready to move forward, be about it.
Before any of you move on though,
one thing you might wanna do to keep the friendship alive
is to create a group chat with everyone in it.
Sometimes friends tell each other,
yeah we'll keep in contact,
and they never end up messaging each other.
But, when you're in a group chat
everyone is sending messages,
everyone's asking for each others opinions
and it just pushes you a little more to be interactive.
That way, even if you guys can't see each other again
you can still keep each other informed
on what's going on in your lives.
I know for me that's how I communicate
with a lot of my friends.
We're all busy people,
but group chats allow us
to keep in contact with one another.
As far as any kinda final conversations
you may have with your friends,
try to keep things light.
Talk about inside jokes you guys have,
things you're looking forward to
and just generally talk about
the same stuff you always talk about.
The more normal you keep those conversations
between you and your friends,
the less tension you're gonna build in yourself
and between you and them.
If you feel like you don't agree with that
and it's just crazy to treat it like it's normal,
I mean, your friend is leaving
and you're never gonna see them again,
it's totally okay to talk to them about how you feel.
Remember, they're your friend
you should be able to talk to them about anything, right?
In some cases, either one of you may not
wanna address that final conversation
because it's awkward or it's just sad to do
and that's okay as well.
But now we have to rip the Band-Aid off
and the fact of the matter is that in some cases
you're never gonna see or talk to your friends again.
Sometimes the connection just dies out between you two.
I mean, as you're growing,
you're experiencing different things
and you're entering different stages of your life.
So tryin' to hold on to what was,
might not match for them what is.
If you start to notice that your friend
is just losing interest or talking to you less and less
try to be open and understanding of that,
that might be the right decision for them.
But for you, you're gonna have opportunities
in the future to develop new friendships
based on where you are in your life.
I know it's hard and sad to deal with,
but usually when you feel like
you've reached the end of one road,
the next stage of your life is just about to begin.
What do you think though?
Are there any close friends that you feel like
you've had to say goodbye to recently?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
Also, I just relaunched my Patreon page for The Josh Speaks.
If you don't know what Patreon is,
Partreon is basically a way for fans
to help support creators in doing awesome things.
Basically, you donate every single month,
either per video or for the month in itself,
and you help that creator just create more awesome content.
For you guys, I have a bunch of cool perks up there
for the one dollar, three dollar and nine dollar range.
So definitely go check out and see what I have available.
If you wanna learn more about making friends,
definitely check out my video over there on the side
where I share five simple tips for how to make friends.
And below that, I have a playlist dedicated
to all of my friendship videos,
dealing with friends making fun of you,
how to avoid arguments with them and more.
As always guys, love and peace.