Okay, so why do women
like bad boys
over good men and all the nice guys available?
What do women really want?
This is a topic that's been debated for years.
So, let's explore
the five interesting insights
Jeffrey a typical nice guy
learned from Jessica
an actually really good nice girl
he's had a crush on forever
about why women
go for bad boys instead of good guys.
And the five things Jeffrey did
to overcome these obstacles
and get the girl of his dreams,
and how you can too.
Welcome to just the tip.
In this based on a true story
not quite true story
Jessica is in her 30s
and she's just gone through another nasty breakup
with a bad boy.
She feels like she's wasted her time
on another fruitless relationship
with a guy who just doesn't respect her
or put her as a priority like ever.
He cancels on her with either
lame excuses or no excuses whatsoever.
She just can't figure out
why she keeps going for these bad boys
and she wonders
why she can't just settle down
with a nice guy like Jeffrey
who's always been there for her.
One night out of desperation
and genuine curiosity
Jeffrey asks Jessica
why she always goes for the bad boys
instead of the good guys like him?
And since she was already wondering that herself
she gave herself some time to think about it
so that she could actually give him an answer
that was honest and true
that might help both him and herself.
And she came up with these five reasons.
First, Jessica feels that
bad boys are more unpredictable than nice guys
because they're not afraid to take risks
and challenge convention.
This kind of spontaneity appeals to Jessica
even though
she's not all that adventurous herself
and she thinks maybe that's exactly why
it appeals to her.
Having someone take the lead
makes her feel more adventurous,
which ties into number two.
Bad boys often epitomize
confidence and strength
and that appeals to Jessica's independent nature.
Women are drawn
to confidence and strength
because it makes us feel safe.
And confidence and strength
is about inner confidence and strength
and outer confidence and strength.
Third, in Jessica's experience,
bad boys have more of a social life
filled with new experiences
and endless possibilities.
Women need to feel stimulated
mentally, emotionally, physically
plus it takes the pressure off Jessica
to be his entire social life
and source of entertainment.
Fourth, bad boys are often unencumbered
by traditional rules and expectations,
which gives them an air of mystery.
Jeffrey's seemingly mundane opinions
of always following what the crowd says
doesn't actually inspire Jessica.
She needs to be intrigued
and finally it came down to the fact that
Jessica really likes to be
stimulated mentally and challenged,
which in her experience
happened more with the bad boys
than the nice guys who are always agreeing with her.
In fact, the Jessica in this story
said to me just the other day
"banter, bad boys know how to banter."
Sometimes a girl needs to be challenged.
You know what, she gets it.
Although these reasons
pose a challenge for Jeffrey
he decides there are things he can do
without compromising his integrity
or becoming someone he's not.
And he knows
it's going to require him
to get out of his comfort zone for sure.
Remember, life begins outside your comfort zone,
but he also knows
he'll never find a great girlfriend
like Jessica or someone else
if he doesn't at least try.
For example, he can
one, become more spontaneous
in his daily routine.
Taking a different route to work,
maybe taking up rock climbing
or even skydiving on the weekends.
Two, start working out regularly
to build up his body and his confidence
plus he'll be healthier.
Three, join some social clubs
or take dancing lessons to expand his social life.
Four,
expand some of his own boundaries and comfort zones
by trying new restaurants
or different cuisines
or maybe if he can afford it
traveling abroad.
Five,
invest more time
in developing his intellect
by reading different books
on different topics
or attending classes or lectures
outside his comfort zone.
Now, Jeffrey knows enough to know
that he can't just negotiate with Jessica
into giving him a chance
before he's had a chance to prove himself
so he's smart.
He decides to show her instead of tell her.
He starts with the easier stuff
like taking a different route to work
and working out at the gym
instead of just at home.
And it really doesn't take that long
for Jessica to notice
Jeffrey's new-found confidence
and interesting new life.
He also seems a lot more happy
and less needy too.
Not only does Jeffrey become
more confident and spontaneous over time
but he also starts initiating
more interesting conversations with new people,
which are a lot more lively than they used to be.
Jeffrey really starts feeling his new confidence
and pretty soon he notices
that he's not actually nervous at all around Jessica.
And in fact, he's not even thinking
about her all the time like he used to.
He's starting to notice other women.
In fact, he's actually starting to notice
a few of Jessica's physical
and personality flaws.
And while he's still attracted to her
he realizes
he's not intimidated by her anymore
and he's starting to have some standards of his own.
He starts bantering with her
and teasing her playfully
without being mean.
How did he do this? Well, I'm going to tell you in a minute.
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One day, Jeffrey surprises Jessica
with an impromptu rock climbing session,
which is something Jessica
would never expect of him.
And he says as friends of course,
so there's no pressure or expectation.
Now, the ball's in her court
or maybe it's a rock in her court.
Anyways, it's in her court.
Ultimately, what wins Jessica
over entirely and finally
is Jeffrey's ability to surprise her
by challenging her intellectually
without being condescending
or too intense, which is something that
bad boys often do
because of emotional immaturity.
And while there are many qualities
that attract girls like Jessica to bad boys
over nice guys
with some effort and patience
nice guys like Jeffrey
are able to be just as attractive
if not more so
without resorting
to dubious tactics and bad boy behavior.
In summary,
why women love bad boys
over good guys, nice guys.
Bad boys are
one, bad boys are
exciting and unpredictable.
Two, bad boys have a lot of confidence.
Being too nice
comes across as
boring, creepy, or even manipulative.
Three, are often spontaneous
and don't play it too safe.
In other words, they're fun.
Four, are usually funny
because they're not afraid to offend.
Five, they challenge women
in a way that makes those women
want to turn those bad boys into good men.
Ultimately, and I've heard this a thousand times
from women of all ages.
Women want a good man
with a bit of an edge
who they can still feel safe with
and they can feel cherished,
protected, and stimulated by.
And a great way
to show her your edge
is to tease her
in a playful way
that triggers her arousal
and instantly sparks attraction.
To find out how to do that
watch my video the three T's of flirting,
how to tease her.
Thanks for being here, God bless.
And oh my gosh, you guys it's so cold out here.
Um, so yeah,
it's not about
like playing games or
trying to be something you're not.
Like, when you actually develop confidence
within yourself and do all of these things
you're just going to have a better life
regardless of how it affects women.
It just happens that that's a bonus
that women love these kind of traits in men.
So, keep that in mind
you're doing it for you not for her.
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