i was going to say howdy partners but we're no longer partners
it's not paterson gartner anymore i feel like what's up
oh my gosh that's weird what should i do kind of intro vegas no someone actually messaged us
and said we should call our followers the patties all right how about we just stick
to partners for now until we figure out what's going on paddy partners howdy partners welcome
to the pattersons i'm i'm sorry i just love saying howdy partners welcome to the pattersons
there we go okay we just got married just over a week ago we've had our first week as
being a married couple which is absolutely mad isn't it that's what it's called um so we're
currently up in the mountains in new jersey it's absolutely beautiful here although it's
freezing it is freezing and we thought we'd do a quick q a today being a young married couple
i'm from the uk monika is from the usa and kind of all the craziness we've been through
with visas and kind of literally moving continents and stuff like that i thought we'll do a q a and
let's answer some kind of questions let's do it that sounds good that sounds perfect all right so
i did a quick q a on my instagram by the way if you don't follow our instagrams our apps are right
here so follow my personal monica's personal and of course with santa monica fine yeah yeah come on
because you get to participate in this stuff come on oh by the way guys um we're married by the way
guys that's my husband but i think that was like a while i was wondering that's my husband
i got to show off my wedding ring for the first time yesterday by the way while he was being hit
on and he's like sorry i'm married married i asked everybody to ask us questions about the wedding
about marriage about getting married young about a bunch of different things first question is how
much did it cost meaning the wedding we're in a bit of a 90-day fiance situation right now yeah
literally whereas i had to get married within 90 days of entering the usa due to my k1 visa that
i'm here yeah on so the main wedding the main event is set for july the 1st yes so the recent
wedding i didn't even wear a wedding dress or anything like i just wore a white dress
and the real like big wedding with all the friends and family and all that like the wedding wedding
is in july so and we're not gonna go over the cost of that that one that's probably not going
over that one the first initial ceremony on the 22nd of february so we got married on two two
two two two at 2 22 p.m we actually didn't really plan that yeah we planned it for 2 p.m just
because that's when our priest was available but um but yeah monica's dad was filming he said you
know you said i'd do it two times too i was like oh my god i'll take it it'll take it on a tuesday
the first super intimate ceremony that we planned literally the day before was um actually very very
cheap the venue was of a gazebo on long island it was freezing cold it was super windy thankfully
the rain held off yep and it was free the gazebo was free we didn't have to pay anything for that
so that was awesome and you know just quick side note i'm sorry we're kind of going off topic so
much but someone commented and it really made me like well up this morning someone said the reason
it started raining when you guys got in the car was your mum was crying tears of joy over there
i was like are you kidding me i'm gonna cry my eyes out right now that's such a beautiful way
to put it though because it was duke there was a 100 chance of it raining all day the day before
and the rain held off for the entire ceremony and literally as we were stepping in the car
at the end of the ceremony it started raining whoever commented that i love you so much
that's beautiful oh great great so the gazebo was free we went out for a meal after with like 10 of
us 10 11 of us that was 500 and something dollars say 600 to be safe then the priest james was 400
so that's uh say a thousand for pre-khana and all that with the church you have to have two
like therapy sessions so we did that yeah that's 500 so that's 1500 in total uh we don't need to go
over the cost of like our suit and our dresses but obviously that yeah obviously yeah i got my shoe
at a discount on macy's macy's we don't need to go over the cost of the cake or anything like that
but there was like little things but the cake was a gift from monica's brother and sister elizabeth
robert that was a complete surprise we had no idea we were having a cake even though it's all
over the place 500 bucks for the day before not too shabby next question is did you cry
go back and watch the video and you will literally see me wiping away monica's tears the
entire however i wasn't crying for that i was too nervous to actually cry it was the wind in my
eyes that was making me cry i didn't actually like cry it was like a really big moment i didn't have
time to cry so technically i did it but i did cry that day so i don't know if that counts
yeah the basic answer is of course monica cried and i didn't yeah sorry i'm sure it was in july
describe how you both felt when you got married i felt i literally can't stop crying from that
thing before i felt like i was floating okay i felt like i wasn't it wasn't happening i
was like in another universe it felt so surreal like waiting six and a half years almost like
the fact that we finally said like i do and all that and like we're married like we're
actually married it didn't feel real and it still doesn't feel real yeah that's the best way i could
describe it i just felt like i felt like i was in another world i felt a few emotions as i said in
the video i had never been so sure of anything in my life so i wasn't nervous whatsoever i wasn't
wait can i clarify when i say i was nervous i wasn't nervous i was making the wrong decision
i was just nervous because i don't like being the center of attention so like having everybody
watching was really nerve-wracking and like it was so cold and there was a lot going on that's why i
was nervous i wasn't worried yeah different that's a better way to put it i wasn't worried whatsoever
i was very excited and i was slightly tipsy because we pre-celebrated with some whiskey
and maybe hello that means when he says we i was not a part of this okay the guys monica's brother
my dad myself and jake who's uh liz's boyfriend we all kind of pre-celebrated with some whiskey
he tells me this after so technically i actually didn't marry sam and married sam's drunk self
which is no i wasn't drunk i was i wasn't drunk i was titsy i knew exactly what's going on
when did you know that you were ready for marriage oh that's a really good question
so this is the weirdest thing i proposed on our fourth anniversary in 2019 three months before
i proposed i had no idea that i was gonna do it i literally hadn't even given it a thought and it's
so weird i woke up one morning i think in august and i proposed in october i woke up one morning in
august and i was like i'm gonna propose to it it's just i woke up one morning i was just like i'm
ready yeah yeah weirdest thing so then literally within the hour i was on my phone finding
engagement rings that's so crazy it's like a switch went on yeah it's lit literally it was cool
for me i think it was something that like happened over time where it's like the more we were talking
the more serious we got the thought would just like keep hitting my head like okay yeah these
husband material getting to know you over time like just kept giving me reassurance like yep
this is it you're making the right choice if he proposes yep did you have any doubt
in your mind when i proposed absolutely zero have you guys done the naughty yet
yeah okay no never will you have a grand wedding soon so we've already touched on this
yeah our big one is july 1st yeah we're just so excited and that's been planned for like over
a year that's the big wedding all the friends and family are flying over and that's kind of the main
the big big one yeah the big big one yeah that's what you call me
does being married feel any different as you've been living together for a long time anyway we
were talking about this yesterday i don't think it feels different i think for me the biggest
like difference is the fact that like i introduced myself now as monica patterson like i changed my
name to monica patterson so for me that's like the big thing was like wow i'm married i'm no longer a
moniker gardener i can guarantee you're going to sign so many receipts and stuff as monica ghana
i signed our marriage um registry thing i was like wait i mean you haven't done like a leave
do you have to do a legal name show when you look inside i don't know rather than it being different
because i'm now married i think it feels different because i know i'm living here there's no end date
to my visits you know we can plan something for october and we know we're going to be here yeah
the only thing that feels different being married now is the fact that i've got a
ring on my finger how long have you guys been together we've been together for three years
it's five years we've been together for five years and how many months honey
we've been together for over six years since october 2015. so you do the math it's uh
six months six and a quarter years six and a quarter years
is how long we've been sorry six and three quarters six and three quarters yes
where did you purchase your wedding room i actually got my ring online from an
online jeweler and this is a carbon fiber ring and it says mrp for monica that's me
engraved inside i absolutely love it it's so light it literally feels like i'm wearing like
plastic no i'm just showing like it's lights yeah not that i wouldn't be able to throw it
literally like a feather like it's so light mine if you can see it can you see there we go
mine is from boodles which i always love that store so it feels surreal that i'm wearing
something yeah so boodles is a british jeweler also monika's ring is engraved with scsp which
is my initial samuel simpson and what's really cool is the same engraver that engraved monica's
wedding ring also engraved the royal family's jewellery which is insane and the fa cup if anyone
was into football it took me a long time to find my dream ring and the fact that this one just like
suits my wedding band like i have never found one that suits the wedding band more perfect so
as soon as we saw it we're like okay we have to get our ring here and then when we have our first
child i'm going to also get monica an eternity band which is exactly the same as her wedding
band and it's going to go on the other side of your engagement ring and that'll look gorgeous
but there's a little while until we plan that every time now everybody says oh my god she's
pregnant i'm like no i'm just wearing a really big hoodie okay where is your honeymoon so we have
no idea no idea so basically what our deal was was monica's gonna plan the wedding like the big
ceremony in july and i'm gonna plan the honeymoon however we've been so busy literally moving
continents with everything that's happened with my family and stuff like that that we haven't even
got around to thinking about it yet no until i get my green card i need to stay within u.s territory
i'm not allowed to leave the united states until my green card's approved so we're gonna have to
do it somewhere in the u.s so we've been thinking about ideas like hawaii or going down to like key
west down in florida yeah or a road trip yeah or maybe like a road trip around the us or like
going to california or like we have no idea really so um any ideas you guys have if you can drop it
below no it has to be in america so anywhere in america that you can think of but i don't know
we'll figure it out there'll be a whole video yeah and i i think that's going to be after the wedding
in july really yeah yeah we're not going to do that before july how was your first night what we
went to a hotel the first we had a bus very very very very nice it was very relaxing it's magical
what were your thoughts right before your wedding before the actual ceremony itself when i was in
the gazebo monica gets out of the car and i was like oh my gosh that's my wife to be that's my
brother i literally saw you standing up there and i was like oh i started cheering i was like
yeah you look so handsome standing up there i was like are you kidding me it's like not even fair
to people like that i get everything to marry a bit of a player wasn't it yeah it was really safe
i'm so glad my mouth that my grandparents and my sisters were passed yeah and there was golden
retrievers watching yes because my grandparents my sisters were back in the uk so we facetimed them
that's why if you guys see the video of the actual wedding that's why everybody's on their phone yeah
yeah everybody's facetiming people on their phones that couldn't make it from the uk what is your
next milestone to achieve as a newlywed couple figuring out where we're gonna live yes i was
gonna say baby but before baby we gotta figure out where we're living so we're gonna end on this note
we are heading down south tomorrow and we're gonna vlog the entire thing so if you're not subscribed
i know i've said this before but please subscribe and check it out also on our trip down south we
are stopping at my favorite place in the world we're going back to mystic falls where vampire
diaries was filmed so guys make sure to subscribe because i'm going back again and i'm getting back
yeah thrive there okay so we're going to covington which is where it was filmed and then from
covington we're going to drive down to florida and check out a few different apartments and houses
and stuff like that down in florida and of course we'll vlog the entire thing for you guys next
milestone after that will be a baby in a few years time you hear that mom what we're talking about
okay we're ending my vlog here thank you so much guys for all your questions
managed to answer them sufficiently let us know if you wanted to do a part two to
the newlywed questions we can do more q and a's we can do more vlogs we can do whatever
you guys want now that we are living together and married hello how can i help you honey
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thank you guys for watching and we'll see you in the next video peace out bye