Oh hi Jenny, what there's? A party tonight... okay! Oh my God there's a party and there's too
much on my plate. I can't go but how do I say no politely? Because, she might feel bad. Well,
are you somebody just like me who doesn't know a better way or a polite way to say no?
Look no further guys, today you are with me Meera on Let's Talk and we are going to learn
polite ways to say no. Well whether you have... OR don't have time or whether you just want to
provide the right reasons and be honest politely, you will learn various different ways to say no
and not make others feel bad about it as well. Let's get started what do you say when you have
no time to attend parties or attend any other schedule? For example - Thanks a lot
but I have other commitments. Or I have another commitment ...yeah, you're telling them that you
have already committed to other plans and that's why you're not able to go. However,
because you start your sentence with 'thanks' they appreciate you telling them in advance.
Next we have 'I'm afraid. I'm just swamped right now' I particularly love this word
'swarmed' swamped means you are extremely busy. Maybe you have a lot of tasks to do
already and you're seeing that you're too busy however because you start with i'm
afraid it's a very tactical way to begin your sentences when you want to say no
oh i feel bad but i'm not able to make it this week you can replace this with week month year
or today even however because i feel bad comes in the beginning of the sentence it tells the
other person who's listening to you that okay she wanted to come but she can't make it all right
hey thanks for asking me i have a few things i need to do or i need to take care of
first so i'm going to take a look at them and then call you back probably right thanks for
asking me yeah you're suggesting that you're happy that they even asked you or they invited you and
you're acknowledging that part however later you reject but because you've already thanked
them in advance or previously it doesn't hit that bad well let's take a look at more such examples
i'm at the end of my rope right now so have to take a rain check end of my rope imagine literally
imagine a rope and that you're the end of it that means you have so much work to do that you're
holding onto the rope and trying to finish those tasks first you want to take a rain
check that means you want to see if you have an available slot to attend that party or that dinner
i've got too much on my plate right now thanks for asking another polite way
to inform too much on my plate means that you have a lot of tasks at hand and a plain way to say that
or a better way to say that is too much on my plate right now thanks for asking
oh no sorry i can't make it i wish there were two of me i love this one particularly you're
actually stating that you cannot make it for the party or for the meeting for whatever dinner
but you wish that you wanted to go there so you're saying that i wish there were two of me
that's quite not possible but it's a funny way to say no don't you think so all right next up
saying no with providing a reason what is the reason that you can't make it
sounds great but sorry i have work tomorrow here you're showing the excitement that you think that
the plan is great however you use but to introduce another statement your reason that i have work
tomorrow similarly thanks for the invite but i have to attend an important party today evening
you have already committed to somebody else that you will go for that party and hence
you're thanking them for the invite introducing but and then telling them the right reason
that would be great but unfortunately i have already made some plans
another way to tell them that you are busy with prior commitments that would be great
and excitement but introducing the reason and unfortunately you talk about
when you talk about things that you you are not able to do and that you're sorry for
right great here we go guys sorry i can't i have a huge project or assignment due tomorrow that
means you have to submit something tomorrow and hence you can't make it oh no that sounds fun but
i'm too tired and planning to hit the sax soon you guys have fun well hit the sack hit the sack means
to go to sleep or to go to bed hit the sack thanks but i have a million errands to run today
sometime later maybe a million errands aaron me errands means a lot of things
to do okay when you want to go shopping when you want to do some bank work when you want
when you have a lot of other jobs that you have to run around for and they're called errands
well now let's take a look at these reasons when you want to be honest however do that a
little politely shall we please don't mind but i really can't come today when you introduce
your honesty with words like please or don't mind automatically the person who's listening to you
will not feel too bad about it to be honest with you i'm really tired and just want to go home
think about it when you are honest with someone instead of giving fake reasons
and you tell them why you want to go home i think that's pretty acceptable don't mind me
to be honest i'm trying to save some money this month now to be honest is something we've already
seen what i've added before that is don't mind me don't think that i'm giving you wrong reasons
but i'm trying to save some money this month now that's quite understandable right
a lot of us are in such a position at some point that's why you can use this reason very politely
if i can be honest here you go starting your sentence with the word honest itself
i'm really not comfortable around so many people we'll catch up later well maybe you're one of
those who is not that social or who gets very anxious around a lot of new people and you are
telling that you are not comfortable and then you are suggesting that don't worry i'll meet you soon
that's a good way to talk about your anxiety and be real with your friends please don't get me
wrong but i'm not a big fan of drinking so i'll go back home post the movie here you go now you
have made a lot of plans it starts with movie and then dinner and drinks if you are somebody
who is not comfortable around drinking or alcohol try to use this word from the next time not a big
fan it indirectly means you are not comfortable next up we have sorry i have a headache i hope
you understand very simple very honest something that will help you people will believe you that
yes you have a headache and that's why you can't make it here you go guys now i think i
have a better reason to say no to jenny i'm sure you have learned something just like me today
there you go guys that's all for today this is me meera signing off until next time ciao