- A third of people cheat as a form of revenge.
The majority were women, thank you Lord.
- [Cari] Oh God.
- I wasn't surprised.
- Finally a cheating where y'all out front winning.
- Well, y'all started the cheating,
so, it's the revenge cheating
and I don't have a problem with it.
Now I'm not saying revenge cheating is right.
I'm not saying it solves a problem, 'cause it doesn't.
No one wins at the end of the day.
- Normally, we only cheat if we're unhappy,
or we feel like you did us wrong.
Because like, guys you may see a girl walk by
with a big booty and be like, yeah I wanna hit that.
- [Woman] Aesthetics.
- We do not see guys just walking down the street
And say, yeah I'm gonna give him some.
[Audience Laughing]
It doesn't work, it's not the same
So, typically...
- Yeah, it don't happen like that.
- That's just not how we operate.
- Wait a minute, Steve, I need to jump in here
because I see this so different from you two.
- You do? - Yes I do.
- I would love to know your thoughts.
- First of all, you don't wanna head into anything
when you're hot on emotion and you're really,
you just got your heart broken.
Right? You're very upset.
You're allowing someone else to dictate your decisions
When you're reacting to what they did to you.
I wouldn't wanna give the most intimate thing
that I could do with another human being
to someone based off of reacting
to something someone else did.
- They're controlling you. - You're mature.
- That sounds like the smart way to do it
but when women are going through something like that,
they're emotional.
- Wait, I've been through it, hello?
Everyone needs to know I've been cheated on.
I think most of us.
- Have you ever cheated?
- I have.
- And why did you cheat?
- Oh my, where is this question going?
- [Laughs] I'm just wondering.
- Ladies and gentlemen, the Kandi Burrus show.
- I was wondering.
- But I really think the way that you can come out on top is
if you take care of yourself, you attract that right guy,
and you allow him to treat you like a queen
and then one day, you're out somewhere,
maybe it's a wedding, maybe this happened to me,
and all of a sudden that cheater comes passing by
and you just smile.
- But they always come back. It's never...
They always come back.
It's not a matter of them not coming back.
- Okay, let me ask you this question.
Your man cheated on you, you cheated on your man.
Somehow he asks for forgiveness
and you decide to forgive him.
He's bringing it back. Do you tell him
that you had a moment of infidelity yourself?
- Hell, no.
- Absolutely not.
- No! Absolutely not.
- Absolutely not.
- First of all...
- What is the point of that?
- Right. Women, we can work through it.
A lot of times women seem to work through it
when the guy confides in her
but if a woman admits to a man that she cheated,
he just feels like the world is ending,
you're so wrong, you're so dirty.
- If you do it, you have to own up to it
because you're gonna carry--
- Why?
- I'm gonna tell you, you're gonna carry around that shame
and you're gonna...
I promise you
- I have no shame. I feel fine. No shame.
- Especially lying to someone that you are in love with?
- No, because he's not gonna ask the question.
He already cheated on me.
He's not gonna be like did you cheat with Leroy?
- You are with the wrong person. This is so obvious
if you can find yourself in this situation.
- No. - No.
- [Cari] You're looking at it wrong.
- See, here's the thing,
that is why they say women always cheat better than men
because we don't get caught.
Why would you tell on yourself?
- Imma tell you something.
- Okay.
- If the guy don't know--
- She's ready to go [Laughs]
- If the guy doesn't know,
I highly recommend that you don't share that information.
- [Cari] Exactly.
- [Steve] I just highly recommend it.
- What is the point?
- I just feel like guys always find a way
to make it seem like we're so much worse.
- Yeah. Listen, I'm not buying into that
and you should not cheat.
I'm not promoting revenge cheating.
I understand it is what I'm saying.
I can understand it and I can relate to it.
At the end of the day, nobody wins
but I don't think you should be like,
hey guess what? I cheated. Men can't get over that.
- Well, this is a good one. Listen, we gonna take a break.
That one question was good enough.
That's gonna be the whole break.
- Yeah.
- Cause that conversation, people got to hear that.