- And we were watching "Game of Thrones"
with our vodka sodas with lime,
and I just screamed like, "I love you."
(chill music)
- [Ben] Let's do this.
- [Jenn] Let's do this. (laughs)
I can't stare at you. It's like, making me cry.
(Ben laughs) Like we haven't even started.
- So I'm Ben, I'm Jenn's husband,
and I'm now a videographer.
- Hi, I'm Jenn.
I am Ben's wife, and I make YouTube videos online.
- Four and a half years. Ah.
(text bloops)
- How long has it been? (laughs)
Can you hear me?
Good.
(text clicks)
So the first time we met, (text bloops)
it was in San Francisco.
I was in a band.
It was actually my guitarist John was on Tinder
and met Jenn's best friend Stephanie.
(text bloops) - She had
basically dragged me out to go
out with the whole band because she was like,
"Oh it'll be so much fun, and you know,
the drummer's really cute."
- I remember we met and it was just in some dingy dive bar.
We were just talking
and I remember thinking like, "absolutely stunning,"
but I could just see how just a sweet soul she was.
- I remember Ben would always like try and sit next to me
and he was very engaged
and I really appreciated how inquisitive he was.
I wasn't really looking for a relationship
but he was hands down a really sweet guy
and very curious, which I liked.
- It was so relaxing, wasn't it?
It wasn't like crazy flirting or anything.
We're just getting to know each other.
And I tweeted you the moment we landed
back in England and said,
(tweet bloops) "good hangs, Jen!"
with one N! - One N.
(record scratching)
- It should have been all over there and then.
(Jenn laughing)
But it wasn't.
(text clicks)
(text bloops) It came
quite quick for me, actually,
a lot faster than I thought it would.
Obviously we were doing the long distance thing.
We were talking a lot.
Jenn was unsure whether to come out,
you know, it was a big commitment.
We only hung out like one night, like. (laughs)
And I was waiting at the airport for like five hours.
But when I saw you and just how easy it was
and how effortless it was, that's when I knew.
And I actually told Jenn at the end of that trip.
It was one of the last nights, I just said,
"Look, I know this is too early, but I've fallen
in love with you."
And it felt so good to be able to say it.
(text bloops) - And I was like,
"Whoa, okay."
He told me that he loved me because
he was so sure of it
and I don't like to say things that I don't feel just yet.
And so I waited until he came and visited me in Oakland
and we were watching "Game of Thrones"
with our vodka sodas with lime.
And I just screamed like, "I love you." (laughs)
So I remember when you said it, it felt very sudden for me.
- Mm-hmm. - I was like, "Whoa."
It felt like just a big bomb in the room.
- Yeah. - When you told me.
And by the time you visited me, I was like,
bursting to tell you. - It was the first thing
- I was like, "Ah!" - you said, yeah. (laughs)
- I was like, "I love you!" (laughs)
- That was one of the best nights ever.
(text clicks)
(text bloops)
- I think borderline, I had some like, OCD tendencies
like I liked everything arranged in a certain way.
But when he moved in, it was not like, chaos,
but to me it felt like a lot,
because suddenly my scissors weren't in the right place
or the lights would be on
but no one would be in the room.
(text bloops) - You know,
there's little things I learned,
like with the kitchen roll, you know, being an Englishman,
I just grab loads of it and just wipe the surface.
And Jenn would use like a little quarter of it and....
(laughing) She knows what I'm talking about.
(both laughing)
- Talk about the paper towels?
- Yeah.
- (laughing) Oh my God.
I knew it from the second you...(laughing)
- It was that and then that.
- My reaction for that was way too big
for what it actually was.
- I think it's just the kind of, the stress of change.
- Yeah it was.
I think what would catch me was when I would realize like,
you moved to be here with us.
And so I think, I don't know,
I kind of had to really like, step back
at the situation and see what we were fighting about.
(text clicks)
- Being that tag along.
The plus one, the Jenn's Ben, you know,
even some people come up to me and be like, "Jenn!"
Be like, "Close enough, It's Ben.
But you know, you were nearly there." (laughs)
You know, it's never like an ego thing for me.
I don't need to be the star or need to be this and that
but I wanted to make Jenn's parents proud.
I wanted to be, you know, the person in the relationship,
the man in relationship, to support,
you know, financially and in other ways.
And I think that's probably my biggest insecurity.
- It's a pressure that I put on myself
but I feel like a lot of the decisions
like the scary adult decisions, I have to do.
Like the house insurance and the fire insurance
and the credit score and all that stuff.
Like, I don't want him to deal with it because like,
I just wanna be able to take care of him.
But my insecurity is like, if I somehow like die
or something, like who will be able to take care of him?
- What did you say?
I just said like, I don't know,
I just feel like I wanna like, shelter you
from all the scary,
like adult problems. (Ben laughs)
But my insecurity is like, if I somehow die or something
then it will burden you with all those new problems.
- I think it's just the insecurities
of when you love someone or something so much,
like, you automatically fear the worst
and what life would be like without.
And you know, that's scary.
- Yeah.
(text clicks)
- It's very hard to
even allow yourself to imagine that
because it's probably the scariest thought of all.
I think
just you being you, you being there with me
and laughing together and just holding you
and just being silly with you, making our little jokes
and your smile and the way you look at me
and the way you care for me and the way...
It's just too hard.
Like you are my life.
- I would just miss his positivity because being around Ben,
you really think you can do everything.
And he makes me think
that I can achieve everything that I put my mind to.
He's like such a freaking ball of light
and he sacrifices so much
and...
(sighs) oh my God.
- It's a hard one, isn't it?
- Yeah, it is.
- The idea of thinking about it kind of,
it's the worst feeling,
you know? - Yeah.
- You miss every little thing
from the good times to the bad times.
- Life is always gonna have problems.
And I feel like, when you marry someone
it's about figuring them out together.
- The idea of building a family
and having kids, it's not scary, you know?
Like, we know we're gonna be good with it
and because our communication's so good
and we really truly care about each other,
and I fall in love with you more and more every day.
So I can't wait for the future.
I love you babe.
- I love you.
(Ben kissing Jenn)
(chill music)
- See, the first time Jason and I went out to a lunch date
I was mesmerized by his hair.
Oh, hey, how's it going?
Didn't notice you there.
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(both laugh)