- Have you ever had that sinking feeling
when someone you really like just seems to be slipping away?
The texts become fewer and fewer in between
and the man that you're really into,
he stops making plans with you.
Maybe he'll respond to your texts
or respond to any effort you put in,
but he's really starting to pull away a little bit.
He's just not showing the same level of affection
that he used to show.
And the worst part is that you felt like
things were going really well and you're compatible
and you have a close connection with each other,
but everything seems to just be falling apart.
If you've ever been in this situation
then you probably felt incredibly helpless.
But never again.
So in this video, I'm gonna be talking about
why it is that men pull away
and what it is that you can do moving forward.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name is Adan LoDolce.
I'm the head Love Strategies where we help single women
successfully find long lasting love with a proven strategy.
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or men who constantly pull away
or men who just ghost on you out of nowhere,
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so that we can dive into your love life
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So now let's jump into the three reasons why men pull away.
And by the way, the first two reasons
are things that you really can't control
if they actually happen, but you can control how you react
to how they happen.
And then the final reason why men pull away,
is something that is directly within your control
and something that you can change.
So, let's jump right into it.
Reason number one is that he was always planning
on pulling away.
When you ignore the red flags
at the beginning of a relationship
and you invest your time and your energy into a man
that is clearly emotionally unavailable,
well, you pay the price later.
If you find yourself in a situationship with a guy
who tells you, he doesn't want a relationship,
but you still keep seeing him,
you still keep investing your energy into this guy
and then you're surprised later when he pulls away,
well, that's kind of on you now.
I recognize that not all guys are that direct.
And some guys may have kind of tricked you into thinking
that they were interested, but they never had plans
of ever being in a relationship with you.
Now, maybe the relationship really only existed
in the bedroom and you never really had a real date
with this guy.
You never really got to meet him on an emotional level.
It was only on a sexual level.
And if you're finding that, that's what happens
in your relationship, the only way you can react
to these things is learn from them and moving forward,
never invest your energy in a guy
and certainly never sleep with a guy
until you have clear signs of what we call,
relationship intent.
You are in charge of protecting your own heart.
And if a man isn't clearly showing signs
that he's interested in a relationship,
then it's very possible and very likely
that he's going to pull away
once he's gotten everything that he wanted
out of the relationship.
Which is constant sex and that girlfriend experience
without having to actually commit to you.
Reason number two why men pull away,
is that he's just legitimately busy in his own life.
It's not unusual for people to just get incredibly busy
in their life.
Whether it is with work or maybe it's with school,
or maybe it's nothing going on with his family life.
He is legitimately overwhelmed,
it's likely he's going to put his energy elsewhere
and maybe focus a little bit less on you.
And I should say that this is perfectly natural
as you continue to progress in a relationship.
Sometimes relationships go in ebbs and flows.
There are times where you get a lot of attention
and lot of affection and then there are other times
when you are in an ebb.
Where he's busy doing other things.
He's got other things going on in his life
and the last thing that you wanna do
is get really tough on him and ask for more of his attention
when he's already overwhelmed.
So the best way to react to this situation,
if a guy is legitimately overwhelmed,
not just using it as an excuse,
but legitimately overwhelmed,
is just to show that you are there to support him
and be there for him whenever he needs you.
And most importantly, don't be afraid to create space.
Don't be afraid for space to exist in a relationship,
especially once you're an exclusive relationship.
Because you are committed to each other.
And that's what matters most, is that you were there.
And maybe there's certain times in his life
where he's going to need a little bit more space.
And maybe there'll be times in your life
where you need more space.
It's okay for that to exist.
And the final reason why men pull away is that
you're showing more interest in him
than he's showing in you.
When you're the one who's constantly trying
to push things forward and show interest
and tell him how much you like him.
Well, what that does is it lowers your value.
And on the other hand, when you let the man lead,
well, you have all the power.
Now, in love accelerator coaching,
we actually have a specific step focused
on what we call, pacing.
Once you get to what we call little love step number five,
which is paste the progression of your connections,
we tell you to slow things down,
even slower than the man wants to move forward.
And what happens is the more that you slow things down,
the faster he's actually gonna wanna speed things up.
It's actually a little bit of a reverse effect.
And I wanna be very clear,
we don't do this to play games or to manipulate men.
We do this because the way to a healthy
longterm relationship, is to not dive into any relationship
too quickly.
It's to slow things down, take your time
and really decide whether or not this guy is worth your time
and energy.
That's what pacing is all about.
Now, regardless of the reason why he's pulling away,
what you wanna make sure you're doing,
is being incredibly intentional
about the way that you react.
It's really easy in these situations to let your emotions
get the best of you.
And maybe you get a few drinks in you
and then you wanna text him and vent your thoughts
or your feelings towards him, but I urge you to not do that.
And that's a huge part of what love accelerator coaching
is all about.
It's we hold you accountable to your goals.
We help you stay intentional each step of the way
throughout your dating life.
And we have these group coaching sessions
where we all work together and you actually connect
with the other love accelerator coaching clients,
so that you can really stay focused on what matters most.
Which is finding a longterm healthy relationship
that really serves you.
So if you are ready for that, then I urge you to go ahead,
click the link right there below
or head on over to LoveAppycom,
so you can jump on that complimentary love strategy session
with one of my training coaches.
Never again, do I want you to feel helpless
in your love life.
From this point forward,
I want you to be very intentional and very strategic
about the way that you go about your love life.
So now is the time to take action.
Go ahead and apply for that love strategy session.
I'll speak to you very soon.
All right, bye bye.