There is nothing that commands attention and respect,
like a deep,
powerful voice! Whether you're interested in dating or climbing the corporate
ladder or just having a strong presence in any environment.
It's those strong pipes that enable you to do it.
How would you rate your voice from one to 10 right now? Be Honest.
How do you rate it? Well, let me show you something. My voice just a few years ago.
I keep all my old youtube videos up.
Take a look at the way I sounded just a couple of years ago before I learned
this stuff. (Weak Voice) "Hello.
Today I want to talk to you about maybe the most important aspect of nonverbal
and verbal communication." All right?
I wanted you to see that because no matter what kind of voice you have,
now, you are able to learn the techniques and tips and tricks that you need to
get to develop into a strong, powerful voice. So in this video,
I'm going to go through a quick primer on three types of tonality.
And once you understand them,
it's going to really impact a whole lot of areas within your voice or getting
able to immediately put them to use. But this is a short video,
so if you want to dive deeper, I've got a free checklist that you can download.
I'll put a link right here. They'll circle with the eye, you can click on,
or I'll put a link in the description. It's free.
It's going to go through five things that more depth that you can use to also
strengthen your voice.
So the three types of vocal tonality or report seeking, rapport,
neutral and rapport braking. So we're going to talk about all three of them.
Report seeking has two distinctive traits and basically it's used when you're
talking to someone who you feel like has a lot higher status do.
If you're talking to a king or a queen and you're just a lowly surf or you just
started your internship at the company and in walks in the big boss, the CEO,
that's how you had talked to them at two characteristics are number one.
It ends in a tone souping upward getting higher.
And number two, it just has a step change. Elevated tone.
So if I normally talk like this, I'm going to talk like this. It's a higher step.
So here's what it might sound like. Hey, how are you? So my tone,
instead of saying like, I'm talking to you right now, hey, how are you? Hey,
how are you?
It's almost like you're singing to the person and it ends souping up.
How was your weekend goes even higher at a subconscious level?
What are you communicating to that person? Right?
What you're saying is how is your weekend?
But what you're really saying is you're so much higher status than me.
Treat me like I'm low status.
I see myself as having much lower status than you,
and I'm not going to give you any reason why you could ever even be mad at me
because I'm so nice. I'm actually singing the words that you can't be mad at me.
Look at me. I'm no threat at all. Hey, how are you? Why?
Because you feel like they have control over your life or an impact on your life.
The CEO, we can give you a raise, he can promote you, the king,
he could off with your head or he could also have you rise in the ranks or puts
you into a higher class.
Soon he speak with a supplicative rapport seeking tone.
Those words are interchangeable at the same tonality,
rapport seeking or supplicative.
You are really communicating to the person that you feel like you have much
lower social status to them. Most people don't realize that.
Most people just feel comfortable,
sees speaking and supplicate of tone and they don't realize that there's sub
communicating. All of those negative things.
Report neutral tone is the way I'm speaking to you right now.
The way you'd speak to a friend or a peer that you're very comfortable with the
family member, very even Keel, no effort one way or the other.
Report breaking.
A good way that I've found to compare that is a police officer who's demanding
something for you. You know, roll down the window, kill the engine,
license and registration. Please step out of the vehicle, hands behind your back.
That tone ends down and also if you notice my tone, it did drop a little bit.
I'm talking right here. Hands behind your back. I'm talking right here.
Hands behind your back and what does that, how does that sound to you?
We'll flip around what you learned in the supplicative reports. Seeking tone.
It's the opposite. It sounds like the CEO who's talking to the intern,
he's a little angry about him or the king who's talking to their step right up
right now, sir. Telling them what to do. What does that sub communicating?
I feel like I have higher status than you. I feel like I can tell you what to do.
I'm not worried about, you're being a little offended about me talking to you.
How was your weekend? Not How was your weekend? Yeah.
I'm not really worried if you're,
if you're a little bit angry about the tone of voice, I use a t too bad.
I'm comfortable with that. You're showing them that you have high status. No.
A very interesting thing you can do with this is next time you're in a situation
with somebody who the dynamic has already been established and you do have a
little more status in them or a situation that's been established with a person
you're talking to has a little more status than you flip your tonality.
So if you're talking to someone that you have higher status,
then start using reports, seeking tonality. Hey, how are you?
How was your weekend?
And watch that other person naturally assume a higher status frame because
you're telling them through your sub communication that you feel like they're
higher status. Now, on the other hand,
a more positive way that you can experiment with this as you talk to somebody
who feels like they're a little bit higher than you,
I call that the interaction equilibrium where they feel like they're a little
bit higher than you. Start talking to them in a rapport breaking tone.
How was your weekend?
I know you guys said you were hoping to get out and get the dogs out in the park
this weekend.
How did that go and watch them naturally assume a more report seeking or
supplicate of tone to you as your status goes up?
How would you say that you normally speak to people?
I would say about 75 to 80% of people who think they're speaking in a rapport,
neutral tone are actually speaking in a report seeking tone.
And what's that doing there? Meeting New People. It's like,
why do people naturally just kind of slop me like they think they're better than
me.
You're telling them you think they're better than you in your tone of voice.
When people listened to a recording of their voice back so often,
they're so surprised like I don't sound like that. And they do,
and once they realized that they're speaking in a wrong in the wrong way,
it's very empowering and they can go out literally overnight.
Now they speak with the true rapport,
neutral tone and they know when somebody starts to talk down to them a little
bit, they can snap that rapport, breaking tone around,
put that person in check vocally without even saying anything.
It's all in your tone of voice. They can, they can enter,
they can have balance out that equilibrium so people don't feel like they're
higher than people. Don't always put them down.
If you feel like people maybe don't listen or give you attention or respect.
Some people just ignore people when they're talking.
I've even seen people completely turn around and walk away when someone's going
up and talking him. That shouldn't happen.
When you start speaking to someone that should be a high value thing.
We were like, Whoa, I want to listen to this person. Listen to their tone of voice.
They're competent. What they're saying.
They sound like the kind of person I should hear out.
I've got a video that's going to dive way, way,
way more in depth about why that is going to talk about how your voice is
actually conditioned or culture and everything.
Conditions you to not speak with the full power of your voice.
I'm gonna teach you how you can improve that at a massive level.
You can totally reinvent your voice. I'll put a link to that right here.
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