when you go deeper inside and you experience the limitlessness of love and
the all-encompassing kind of experience of what love is you know what ever will
come through you know there's no hypothetical so I often do gatherings
and chataquas and you know I have a friend who has resistance to the
masculine pronouns in the course or i have a friend who suffered loss or a
friend who had a child who was killed or something like this those are all
hypothetical questions and what I'm teaching if you hang around me long
enough and we go into it deep enough you start to realize that that those aren't
even real questions - hypothetical questions about the future
or possibilities - the 'coulda, shoulda, woulda' things,. For me, my life is a living
experience and living demonstrations and so people do ask you know the
hypotheticals what would you do if you were with somebody who was terminally
ill what would you say to them or what would you say to this friend and so forth
A lot of times when I'm in third world countries and so forth where there
seems to be, in the world's perception, a lot of poverty and sickness and
suffering and so on and so forth, it's really fun when I go to visit
those places. It's more of a striking contrast. You know, I mean here you see
happy people.You see happy people on the island of Hawaii and you say well
there's a LOT of happy people; you're just one among a bunch of happy
people. People seem to be having a good time here enjoying the ocean and the blue
sky and everything. When you go to a third world country you know where
there's starvation or those kind of things, it's more striking, the Love.
That's why I think with Jesus in Galilee it was quite striking, you know.
It left a big impression because of what was going on in those days. They crucified people
and the Roman Empire and so on and so forth. It stood out.
It was very striking. And I go and I will be among all the people.
You know, I will be among the children I will be in the cities, and go to the rural areas and so
on and so forth. The presence of love is a state of mind and it does offer a
healing balm it offers a soothing kind of experience to to grief. You know that
the people around Jesus were going through a lot of grief. Even the story
of Mary and Martha and when their brother Lazarus had died they were
stricken with grief. You know and Jesus showed up and they were crying and the
ran up to him and "Lord, Lord, if you'd only been here a little bit sooner
this could have been prevented and you know and the whole story turned into a
raising the dead experience in which everybody kinda gasped and looked up in
the sky and everything because it was such an out of pattern experience nobody
expected the brother to come out in his stinking grave clothes outside a
sepulcre like that nobody expects. And when I would go places the
unexpected seems to happen but the presence of love comes through like
Jennifer was saying often times it's just, you know, holding someone or when someone
is in tremendous grief and loss, they just want permission to cry and
have it be okay so I mean I can't tell you how many times I've just shown up and
just held somebody while they were sobbing and tears tears down my shirt
just because at that moment, that was the best thing that love could do was
embrace it as a kind of a physical expression of "you're held" you know
“it's going to be okay”. Without the words. There wasn't much words to speak there. I think
at other times it's just it comes through in a way that always can be
the most felt and the most experienced the way that the love can radiate and in
many cases it's not what you say that counts but it's just
it's just your attitude it's almost like there's a spaciousness of non judgment
which allows the hurt and the loss and everything to kind of come up
and to the surface even more and be released. Now metaphysically I can
tell you that that the way this works is that the mind that believes it
separated from God it it has this belief in separation and this ego is a death
wish so when that death wish is projected to time and space we have
dualistic concepts like birth and death. It seems like in this world, birth is
a beginning and death is an end… although spiritually the deeper we go, we
start to see that that doesn't seem very realistic. There's something that goes beyond
birth and death so any time you are tempted to judge the world in any way,
that is looking through the lens of the death wish. Including when the death wish
gets projected out including the death of a son we’ll say. And that's not
really what death is. That's like the trick. People mourn the loss of a
physical body but there's something that's a mourning that's going on deeper
in the mind as the idea that the soul has boughten into this ego belief
system and that's where the death is. So it did take me seemingly a number of
years where I had to face this belief in death. When my grandfather who I
dearly love went through slow process of cancer and like a walking skeleton and
all my emotions come up when I would visit him in the hospital, I was facing
my belief and death. Then my grandmother died and it was a different experience
at that point. I was very calm and she never believed that death was
final. She didn't really believe in death and we would have many conversations/
When she died when she was 99 I was just there by her side and
I felt such peace and calmness like we were the same one, the same presence and
I could look down at the body like a shell and it was no different for me at
that point from when she was alive. I didn't have any grief, I didn't have any
sense of loss. She had asked me also to speak at her funeral so I just let her
speak through me at her own funeral so she could address all the people and
they felt it. They all started crying when she spoke
through me to them at at her funeral because they loved her so dearly and they
felt her presence right there at the funeral. So you know those are things
that I've learned but we we can't really get into the hypothetical except to say
that that loves extends itself in the most helpful way in the moment and like
Jennifer was saying I don't know. I don't look ahead to that. I never look ahead
for conditions because I really don't believe in hypotheticals
anymore - the “coulda woulda shouldas”. It's like my mind is unified now so I'm not
kind of looking at "what if's". I'm into the I Am, and not into the "what if's" anymore but it
would be very loving that would be for sure very very loving