- Heya playa, it's 2019.
This is the year you ask out your crush.
That you actually go for it.
That you stop making up excuses,
stop telling yourself you're not good enough
or you're not close enough to them.
You're gonna go for it, you're gonna ask them out
and I'm gonna teach you exactly how to do it this year
because 2019 is different from 2018
and you're gonna need to know the new tactics.
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- As the new year rolls on, there are a bunch
of different tactics that you're gonna need
to master if you wanna successfully ask out
your crush this year.
For one, you're gonna need to know
how to navigate one of these things
because this is gonna be a key role
in you talking to your crush.
So, whether you're a boy or a girl
it doesn't really make a difference.
2019 is the year all about a person asking out their crush.
It doesn't have to be the traditional way
of the boy asking out the girl.
So, if you're a girl that's waiting around
or thinking well, I'm gonna put out signals
so that my crush comes and talks to me,
all that has to change.
This is the year that you're gonna go after what you want.
If you like a guy, if you wanna talk to them,
if you wanna get their attention,
no more sitting around and waiting to see
what they think of you, it's on you now
to go talk to them.
I know it sounds scary and intimidating
to walk up to a guy that you like
and start talking to them but you can always
start the conversation small
by shooting them a DM.
Comment on their pictures,
interact with them on social media,
show them that there's an interest there.
That you're interested in who they are
and what they're doing.
That's gonna help get the ball rolling.
Then from there, it isn't a matter
of traditionally saying, hey do you wanna go out with me
but you may wanna think about inviting your crush
to come do something with you and your friends.
That way it's a group activity,
there's less pressure but all of it
can happen through your phone.
So if you're too nervous to walk up to your crush
in person or you don't see them that often,
shoot them a message.
Social media, Instagram, Snapchat,
those are easy ways to get the conversation moving.
Now 2019 is probably gonna be the year of fake account.
Now I don't mean pretending to be someone else.
What I mean is creating meme pages,
alternate accounts, things like that
where you aren't actually yourself.
Or you're not really putting yourself front and center.
A lot of times, people like to create
these alternate accounts and then follow their crush
or they talk to them on there
or pretend to be someone else
and you're not really being yourself.
And the problem with that is that you're not
giving your crush a platform to really view you.
To really learn more about you, to know who you are.
Instead you're hoping that if you can talk to them
through this alternate account you can avoid rejection.
You can avoid getting hurt.
You can avoid them really learning more about you
which is the key if you wanna build something with them.
So if you're someone that only uses
your Instagram accounts for memes and jokes,
I would say it's time to change it up.
Start showing your crush a window into your life.
Let them see what you're into, what your hobbies are,
what you're passionate about
because when you do actually make the effort
to communicate and talk to them,
they're gonna be interested in that.
They're gonna be curious, they're gonna ask you questions.
You're giving them something to work with,
something for them to talk about with you.
And on a similar note,
stop sending Snap Streaks to your crush
that don't really have any value.
A lot of times people just draw an S on a screen
or take a picture of the floor and send it over
to their crush and when you do this back and forth
with them you end up getting that little emoji
and it makes you feel good
but you're not really building anything with them.
So, when you do message them out of the blue
in between all of those Snap Streaks, they're confused.
They don't really know what to talk to you about
because you haven't really talked to them
or sent them any pictures of things
that you're interested in.
Things that you care about.
So, you're gonna wanna change that strategy.
This year is gonna be the year all about
sending your crush interesting things.
Whether it's a picture of what you're doing,
a picture of what game you're playing,
a picture of something you're interested in,
make everything, every communication point
you have with them count.
Don't just toss it away just so you can have
some type of interaction with them.
Now another thing that's super important is that in 2018
a lot of you guys got blocked by your crush
and you didn't really know why.
Or you sent them a lot of messages
and they just stopped responding to you out of nowhere.
2019 is gonna be the year of better communication.
Now you have to remember that while I said
your phone is the main communication tool,
this is how you're primarily gonna communicate with them
you still need to be able to talk to them in person.
So, if you're the kind of person that can only talk
to your crush over the phone,
you need to be able to have
that multivaried communication level.
You need to be able to walk up to them and say hi
because if you can't do that, doesn't matter
how much game you talk to them on the phone,
eventually you are gonna have to meet up in person
and make something happen from it
and if you just stumble over your words,
or you're just too nervous
to even make eye contact with them
well then it's not really gonna go anywhere.
You're gonna be a keyboard warrior but you're never
gonna turn it into an actual relationship.
And another awesome thing about 2019
is that this is the year of collaboration
with your crush.
With apps like TikTok for example,
you can create a video with them
and that's gonna help bring you guys closer together.
So, you're gonna wanna seek out different apps
or opportunities that you can kind of work
with your crush on.
Whether it's a school project,
whether it's doing a video together,
whether it's just having a Snapchat war,
whatever it may be, find opportunities
where you and your crush can go back and forth
and you both can enjoy doing it
because that's gonna help build the relationship.
It isn't just sending the perfect message
or texting them at the perfect time,
it really is about working with them
to develop something together.
All in all, you're another year older
and another year wiser.
2019 is gonna be the year that you go after
the things that you want which includes
talking to your crush.
I know last year you were scared or nervous
and you didn't know how to go about doing it
but everything is small steps
and with every new day you're learning new things.
So take those new experiences, that new knowledge
and put it into practice.
Talk to your crush.
If you need help, I'm here to help you do it.
Leave a comment down below telling me your situation
and I'll try to offer advice.
There's plenty of other resources that you can use
like my whole library of videos,
my Discord, Patreon if you wanna communicate with me
one on one.
There's a lot of opportunities now in 2019
for you to reach out, to get the help
to go after your crush.
So, don't miss out on those opportunities guys.
You can do it.
Who knows how things are gonna change
in 2020 when it comes to asking out your crush.
All I know is that we're here in 2019 now
and this is the time for you to do it.
So, tap on the video right there on the side.
If you wanna learn more about talking to your crush.
I've put together a playlist of my best videos on it
that's gonna help you get started.
So check that out and I'll catch you guys tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.