hi everyone my name is Nhân with the hat, and welcome back to my channel hello
last week I did a fun thing called coming out to my parents my friends and to all of you
and I received so so much support now I can be comfortable being myself
but to all of you who have not come out
or who going through the same thing please be strong please know that I'm with you all the way
so during last week's video, here's the link to the video it's a life-changing
one for those of you who want to see it I kind of promise to you that I will try dating apps
I don't know if this is a good idea or not but, to be honest I kind of tried dating apps during
the quarantine period during the pandemic I was so bored I was so lonely, so I download
Bumble Grindr and Tinder and I kind of got my heartbroken
I was always skeptical of online dating because what if I meet a stranger, and they are bad
people, and they kind of take me to the corners steal all my money and stab me in the back,
or like put drugs into my drinks and kind of kidnap me and sell me
I don't know do something so I was always nervous of that but i've been talking to
this dude for like about a week and we agreed to meet and for the first time we met for bubble tea
in a public place and we took a long walk for two hours we were talking very nicely
and we were very compatible he's a professional and i'm a
professional too and after i had my first kiss with him he ghosted me
dude he ghosted me
I was heartbroken look at me I was ghosted
it wasn't good I was so sad I was thinking negatively a lot for like a whole week
I was thinking what if I'm not good enough because you know
I had my barriers before I was never intending to be in a relationship
but for this guy I want to try out I want to open up but then I was ghosted
the first time I met somebody yeah
so it was so bad I decided to delete dating apps but then going on Instagram I saw him
following a lot of Asian guys so I think he has something called an Asian fetish
so an Asian fetish for those of you who are not familiar with this term it's a term to describe
people who are only sexually or romantically attracted to Asians
for me, I think it's very bad because they aren't attracted to me because you know
I have a good brain I look good I have a good smile I read a lot of books
I'm kind of smart a little bit smart yeah
but they're only attracted to me because I'm Asian that's a no-no
so after knowing that that person was only attracted to me because I'm Asian,
because that person has an Asian fetish
I kind of shift my mind to think more positively so now it's a his problem not a me problem anymore
I start focusing on myself I realize my self-worth
because look at this I know I have pretty privilege
I know okay it sounds weird but i start realizing my self-worth
I think that I'm very good looking I think that I'm smart and
I'm more than just being an Asian
and that person reached out to me again asking if I want to hang out after ghosting me
for many many days [of course I said NO]
now I think I'm at a good place where I want to try dating apps again
but look I'm wearing yellow it's for
Grindr and Bumble they're both yellow but for Tinder, I don't have anything red
oh I have my lips but my lips are redder if they on your lips
so that's today's video I'm gonna show you how I set up my online dating profile I'm gonna do
some fun stuff like right now I'm gonna go to my friends Evita my friend Evita is an amazing
model and also a photographer I'm gonna go to her place and take some pictures some sexy pictures
all right see you soon
hello so right now I'm at my friend's my Evita friend my friend Evita
hello so right now I'm at my friend Evita's house my friend Evita's house
hello so right now I'm at my friend Evita house
as I mentioned she is a model and also she's a master of seductions so she's
gonna show me some spicy poses and I brought her cherry
which we're gonna use so many cherries
okay see you later see you later
so right now we're in the swimming pool I wanna show people that I'm a very energetic person I
like swimming pool and also I wanna go to the gym so we're gonna take some swimming pool photoshoots
hello
this is not swimming anymore it is more like playing under the water
okay so we had some fun and now we're gonna go and choose the photo
thank you Evita you're gonna see Evita soon in one of my
next videos so stay tuned and also don't forget to subscribe her channel subscribe
yeah I just started thanks to this little cutie
yeah so she will comment down below and I will put her link channel down below so
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hello so right now I'm just back from my friend's house and just made myself a little dinner
see pizza and curly fries this looks so good
usually I don't make myself unhealthy food like this
but it's good to treat yourself once in a while and I got Sriracha
okay let's continue our discussions on dating apps
if i need to rank these apps in terms of the opinions of people using them
I will rank first Bumble
Bumble mission statement is really good and also people using bumble are
usually very good-hearted and kind and secondly, I would rank Tinder because
tinder is so popular now so you can basically find everything on Tinder
and third, I would rank Grindr because Grindr is basically a place to kind of hook up
and have fun rather than to have a relationship it's like a common thing now it's like a mindset
within the community but honestly you can find good people and bad people on these apps you can
find everything mates dates and fun as long as you are communicative you tell people what you want
I have a few advice for people who have never used these app before and want to give it a try first
of all always meet in public for the first time I've heard so many bad stories horror stories of
people meeting in private places and you know not a good consequence so always me in public place
although if you want to meet near your house
give them like a coffee shop and see them if they are kind enough
if they okay you know like talk to them and be really observant you can tell people a lot just
by looking at them and how they act and how they talk and second of all be communicative like if
you want something if you want to be friends only or like if you want to have a long-term
relationship tell them straightforward because there's a lot of people who have different ideas
about what they want or like what other people want so if you want something just tell them
and if you don't want something tell them directly yeah you never know you know like a lot of people
assume you want things that you don't want so just tell them that you don't want to have sex
or if you don't want to kiss if you don't want to do something just tell them straightforward
it's good that you have mutual feelings if you have mutual feelings you can move forward
if not it's okay like people are different and that also leads to the third advice be yourself
it's important that you be yourself in these apps I told you that I got heartbroken at first right
for so many people if they get heartbroken they will change drastically
like they don't trust people but instead of thinking negative emotions just
work on yourself be better be the best version of yourself
rather than be the best version of yourself in other people's minds
does that make sense like don't let people change you let you work on yourself because of yourself
so let me create a profile right now with these apps
I don't know why I'm so nervous though
okay let's get some fries
[setting up my online dating profiles]
so right now you can see that i'm in my room with my companions not in the kitchen anymore I just
wanted to be in the kitchen a little bit for the change of scenery but I don't want to be there
for too long because my flatmate is a bit scary when it comes to people making noises let's start
making dating app profile welcome to Tinder
be yourself stay safe play cool be proactive
okay so full disclaimer I'm not sponsored by any of the dating apps that I use in this video
if the dating apps want to sponsor me I think i'm like the best person to be sponsored you know so
hit me up anyway I'm not sponsored so everything that I say is from me
my first name I'm not
gonna use my full name just because it's not safe you know like people can still
find you on the internet especially in this day and age yeah so I don't want people to
be coming onto my Youtube or like Instagram and stalk me a little bit
I just want to present myself fully on the apps so I'm gonna use my initials TN
okay my birthday I'm a man my passions all right I'm gonna choose Instagram
running travel
add photo okay so in my opinion first picture is really important because
it's just like first impression you can only make first impression once
important that you use beautiful pictures of
yourself the pictures that you feel most comfortable and most confident okay so
I went on my Instagram I gave you four options so that you can choose two pictures of myself
this is myself in front of Heaven which is a gay bar in London I'm gonna show you more of it
in later video if you want to see put a comment down below
it was not planned at all we were just at the park and my friends suggested us going to the club
the second picture is this one so this is myself in Bath which is a city in the
United Kingdom I was traveling I think last november when I still have my long hair
and I'm gonna choose the third one which is
the sexy one that I took with Evita this one yeah we took so many cool pictures
and the fourth one I'm gonna choose a cute version of myself
I'm like I can do both I can be sexy you know and I can be cute
the last pictures I think I'm gonna choose myself laughing
because I think it's very attractive. So this is the five photos that I choose
so it's time to put a little introduction into my profile
first of all I'm gonna say that I'm from Vietnam because
you know how many people that nihao me they keep messaging me
nihao which is hello in Chinese the next people who nihao me will get blocked
okay i'm from Vietnam I'm not from china
i want to find people who do fun things with me so i'm going to say
hit me up if
you want to go running eating or having bubble tea
yes wink give it a wink because your boy likes to wink
and lastly I'm gonna put what I'm looking for mate, which is friend, date
and fun I'm a libra. Better in person. I prefer meeting in person.
Do you exercise oh my god a gym rat every single day
do you smoke i'm a non-smoker
job title i'm in finance
this is good preview
TN 22 from Vietnam hit me up if you want to go running eating or having bubble tea
mates dates and fun
Grindr is a bit more spicy you know it's spicier I'm gonna choose this shirtless photo of myself
oh my god I'm so red
finally this photo yeah
I'm 165 cm which is about five foot five
before I was really insecure about my height because I think that five-five is not tall it's
very short but then I start taking advantage of my short height, I think I'm very cute you know
so don't be insecure about your height it's important to be honest on your dating profile
because if you catfish or if you don't say true things about yourself people
don't trust you and that's a very bad impression when they meet in person
yeah so I'm 58kg
before during the pandemic, I think I'm a
big big big fan of chats I like chatting with people for hours
but then like right now it's opening up like I want to be outside and also it's in the summer
so the weather has been nice to me so I like going outside
so I think dates friends networking relationships and right now
but as I mentioned it's important to be safe yeah
so like you should totally should meet in public
first and also these are the strangers that you're meeting and you are hooking up
what I mean explicitly is sex so you should use protections
it's important yeah and also if you're on prep do that
it's very important to protect yourself not just from HIV but from STI sexually transmitted disease
remember that
so as promised I created three online dating profiles already
I use these pictures for Bumble
these pictures for Tinder
and these pictures for Grindr
I hope I can find someone I can go on dates with and record
make it a vlog for you guys alright
I hope you like this video so far I will update it to you
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have a nice day okay thank you for watching
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