Someone recently reached out to me and said, you know Kris, how do I overcome
the belief that I need to be a millionaire or a billionaire to really
enjoy life? We got the answer coming your way, right now. Recently, one of our young
minds asked a brilliant question. How do I overcome the belief that I need to be
a millionaire or a billionaire to enjoy life? Man, I love this question and it
really inspired me to make a video for you. Because if you think about it, there
are so many people that are here on this planet that... Listen, we've got all these
positive messages out there saying, "it doesn't take money to be happy and you
don't need money." But you know what? People aren't believing it. You know how
I know that. Look at where we've put our commitments. Where we spend our money.
Where we spend our time ultimately dictates where commitments are in life.
And you know what? There's too many people that are out there. That actually
believe you need to make money to be happy. Take it from someone that has made
millions of dollars. Take it from someone that has made a lot of money, has a
powerful residual income, has built wealth, has built empires, built
businesses. And you know I'm not the richest person on the planet and I've
never been a billionaire. But I'll tell you something. Is that making money, does
it actually make you happier than when you don't? The people that are unhappy
because they don't have money. They think that having the money will solve their
problems. But you know where the real problem lies? From within. It's the way
that you see the world. If you actually think that you need money to make you
happy and then when you get it, guess what? It won't make you happy. It can't
because you decided that you need something to make you happy. Having it
won't make you happy because how much is enough when is it enough?
When is it actually everything that you want and more? My personal experience is
that the people that are truly happy in life are those that figure out how to be
happy with or without. They figure out how to
be happy whether they have or have not. They figure out how to be happy no
matter what. Here's the reality. Life is filled with opposition. I think it's part
of some grand divine design that we can't escape opposition. Which
means today someone's going to hate on you. Which means today someone's going to be
mean. Which means today, maybe you're the meanie.
Which means today, there's going to be an unexpected bill that could show up in
the mail for you. Which means that there could be a hardship or a medical
disaster or cancer or something is going to show up. Or a loved one's going to die or
get hurt or a child is going to get sick. Like life is filled with that. The
purpose is life isn't to figure out how to be without. Those things I think some
people think that money solves those problems. The reality is
that money does solve problems. But the money can only come if you first
I believe decide who you are with or without money. There's a lot of people
that attach it. So their identity and I call that an identity crisis. Because
they attach their self-worth when they have money they feel important. And
that's really just the pride of the ego. And then you get those that are without
money and then they feel like they are less valuable, second-rate citizens. Which
is also a lie. The ultimate answer to your question is that happiness is a
choice. And then if you condition it on a thing or a circumstance or a person,
you're screwed. Think about it, right there. If I have money then I will be
happy? If things go my way then I will be happy or if this person is doing these
things or meeting my expectations or in my life then I'll be happy?
Listen, I'm telling you right now, if you've ever been unhappy in your
marriage with your partner, if you've ever been unhappy with the child,
if you've ever struggled to pay a bill and it made you unhappy, I want you to
know that that opposition has to be there. But the way you chose to react to
it was unhappy. That was a choice. Taken out of the page from Viktor Frankl. "If
you have not read it, man, search for meaning. Get this book. It's a quick read. It's a
story of a man that was in concentration camp, lost everything. Close family,
everything. And not only survived but thrived and learned this one thing while
everyone was dying around him. You can take everything away from me but this
one thing, my ability to choose my attitude in any circumstance. Friends,
that's the truth. That's truth capital T right there. So by the way, you could like
come into my life, come to one of my events, walk up to me and smack me across
the face. And I would be feeling pain right here in my face.
But that doesn't mean I have to be unhappy. That's pain. If I interpret the
pain with negativity then what I do is I create suffering and that suffering will
make me wildly unhappy. Friends, that's what we're all doing. We're just making
choices to suffer and suffering is always optional. It's never a must. I was
at one of my events and actually asked this question. How many of you how many
of you have something happening in your life that's making you very unhappy and
you feel like you don't have a choice? And I pulled this woman up out of the
crowd. She walks up in front and I say, "do you really believe that? That this
circumstance is making you unhappy?" She's like, "oh yeah." Tell us about it. She told
us the story of what was happening in her life and in her relationship and how
what a hardship it was producing. And I said, "wow, based on your story, it sounds
like you have to be sad. She's like, "I do, I have to be sad." I looked at her I said,
"hit me." And she looked at me like what? I said, "just slap me right here on the face."
And she looked and waited and paused and then she came and give me a little tap.
And I said, "no" I said, "strike me, slap my face." She took her hand and she slapped.
Left this red hand mark right here. Now the audience in that moment were
just gasping. Like did that just really happen and then I looked at her and I
looked at the audience and I asked, "what choices do I have right now?" And we
investigated. Some said, "well, you could be really mad at her for hitting you" or
some could say, "you should be mad at yourself because you asked her to hit you." And a lot
of people suggested that what needed to be was sadness and unhappiness or anger
or resentment or frustration. And then someone rose her hand and said, "you could
choose to walk away. I said good. I could be angry,I could just walk away and then
I turn to the audience I said, "here's another choice." And I reached my arms out
and I gave this woman a hug. And there was this "aw" that came upon everyone
because someone could hit you and you could respond with love? I'm not here to
tell you that's the right choice. I'm simply here to tell you that it's a
choice. You're always at choice. There are infinite choices. Life's going to slap you.
It's going to smack you. Hardships going to come your way. But are you going to suffer
needlessly after the pain, the physical pain has subsided?
And many times, there's no physical payment whatsoever. There's just hurt
feelings that's called emotional incompetency. You
and I, we can't really go too far in our life if we're not willing to become an
emotional Jedi. Which means we need to like raise up our ninja skills and be in
a world that says, "hey, when they negativities around me, I view this
information and then I make a different choice based on it and I make a choice
that advantages me versus disadvantages me." So this idea of being a millionaire, a
billionaire to enjoy life, that's just a belief. I have to be a millionaire to be
happy. I have to be a millionaire to enjoy life. Listen, if you believe that,
You're going to suffer until you're a what? A billionaire. But the suffering will
keep you from becoming one. It's a catch-22. So instead, what do you get to
believe different? Sometimes, I have money, sometimes I don't and I'm happy either
way. I love my life no matter what circumstances. No matter what opposition
is coming into my life. I love my life. that person is indomitable that person
has the ability to live truly a magnificent life. Let me share with you
the definition of wealth. Wealth for me is a person that knows how to be happy
regardless of the state of their bank account. We've got millions of dollars
sitting in the bank or whether you're totally overdue on your bills, you have
the opportunity to be happy either way. And the person that knows how to be
happy and find a solution is far more capable of creating abundance and
prosperity than the person that actually thinks that their outward circumstance
or bank account is going to determine where they get and how they get to feel in
life. So friends, don't be that guy. Instead, be the one that gets to
cultivate prosperity from within with the choice of happiness. If you liked
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