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What do you think it takes to be irresistible?
Is it a kindness that shines, a giving heart
and happily volunteering in your free time?
Or is it buying fancy cars?
Following the latest trends
and dating the most popular person in school?
Whichever way most suits you,
there are actually some very simple habits
that can help make you irresistible to others.
You'll appear more likable, friendly
and people will want to be around you
when you incorporate these 10 habits
that'll make you irresistible.
Number one:
Instill some quiet confidence.
What's the difference between confidence and cockiness?
Acting cocky is more of a boastful show of mock confidence.
Confidence is when you're self-assured with who you are
and are secure in your own decisions.
When you hold your head up with confidence, with clear eyes
and a clear heart, you can go far in life.
When you are confident
and believe in who you are as a person,
that's a very attractive trait.
Number two:
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
𝅘𝅥𝅮Respect
Goes a long way.
There was a school of thought
that those who want respect should give respect
and that's not wrong.
If you want proper respect and recognition from others
you have to give some first, respect, courtesy
and basic human decency can do a lot
to make a good first impression on those around you.
Number three:
Implement the golden rule.
The golden rule states that you should do unto others
like you would have them do unto you.
This means to treat others
how you would ideally want to be treated.
If you want to be treated with kindness, dignity
and respect,
then you should treat others that way as well.
Number four:
Don't engage in gossip.
Do you think people who gossip
and spread rumors can get far in life?
Generally, people who participate
in the rumor mill aren't that popular
because they can't be trusted.
Spreading around someone's private information
or casting supposedly negative judgment on others
is painful for those involved.
Acting this way also reflects poorly
on the gossiper because of this.
Gossiping is not recommended.
If you wanna be as irresistible as possible to others,
honesty and integrity are much more
desirable traits that will draw good people to you.
Number five:
You can't please everyone.
Do you try to please everyone at your own expense?
Do you tier yourself out
trying to make everyone around you happy?
When you use up all of your energy on other people
that leaves you very little energy for yourself
or other loved ones who may really need it.
Being a people pleaser also,
isn't seen as a very attractive trait
because it gives the impression
that you are insecure and lacking in self-esteem.
Nobody can please everybody.
After all we are pizza.
Number six:
Be yourself.
How are you ,your most authentic self?
How are you living out your personal truth?
One of the best traits to have
is to simply be who you are
and to own that.
When you are genuine and true to yourself
you'll attract others who are genuine too.
Like-minded individuals will be attracted to you
because they recognize that
you're confident in who you are.
Number seven:
Radiate positive energy.
Don't you feel warmed by someone
when they give you a genuine smile as they pass by?
It stops you for a second and you feel a little lighter.
All it took for you was a genuine kind, happy smile.
You can do that for others too.
When you radiate positive energy
it makes other people feel better as well.
And that can attract a lot of people to you.
Eight:
Real kindness is what matters.
Real genuine kindness is very important
to foster in your own life
but can also make you irresistible to others.
Do you like to volunteer?
Do you help out at a soup kitchen
or help raise funds for charities?
When you show off your kind, giving heart
people will respond to that
and readily accept that about you,
they'll like to be around you
because you show them genuine kindness and acceptance.
Number nine:
Have a good listening ear.
Have you heard of the term active listening?
Active listening is when you properly respond
and reciprocate to what someone's saying to you.
You aren't distracted looking at your phone
or interrupting whoever's speaking
when you engage in active listening.
Having a good listening ear
is an irresistible trait to have
because people will wanna talk with you more
and be more inclined to open up to you
since you're such a good listener.
And number 10:
Offer your support.
Everyone has things they need to get off their chest
and is in need of someone to talk to at times.
If someone comes to you
and chooses to confide in you,
don't take that for granted.
Even if you don't have much to offer in the way of advice
or problem solving,
you'll instill a trusted bond
with this person when they know
that they can come to you with their problems.
Just listening to them and being there for them
and letting them know that they are heard,
respected and supported
can go a long way with their impression of you
when you tell them that you're there for them.
So what habits will you use
to make yourself irresistible to others?
Let us know in the comments below.
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